You Have A Voice

Some of us have been in relationships with people or things that cut off our ability to have a voice. Feeling like no one hears us. Being taught to be quiet about things that have happened in our past. Being ridiculed by someone when we speak. Giving power and authority to our negative thoughts which bring silence. Being fearful to say what God has shown us. Scared to tell someone when we need help. Taking verbal abuse from others. Allowing those around us to speak death in our lives. Worrying about what people will think if we open our mouths to praise Jesus.

Don’t you know there are life and death in the power of the tongue? Your gift is in your voice. I don’t know who I’m talking to, but I hear the Holy Spirit. If you could just speak with your mouth your circumstance would change. Your silence will be the thing that welcomes hinderance if you don’t start speaking.

You have to know our voices have power. Think about this… Our God in the book of Genesis created the heavens and earth with His VOICE. He SPOKE it and it existed. If we were made in His image and likeness. Wouldn’t He give us the same ability to speak something and it then exists? The problem is we don’t believe the power God placed inside of us. We have too much doubt and fear. Even though the Bible tells us, those aren’t spirits of God.

My brother and my sister in Christ. It’s time to speak up. You shall have what you say. If you say nothing you will have nothing. If you speak doubt and fear you will continue to have doubt and fear. If you repeat the negativity which was spoken over your life you will cultivate it. The enemy will continue to poison your purpose if you don’t start speaking life. Your healing is in your ability to speak it. Your breakthrough is in your ability to speak it. Your deliverance is in your ability to speak it. There are visions God has given you that have never left your mind. And He’s saying, “If you spoke what I showed you over your life you would activate it. Glory! Don’t spend another moment being quiet. It’s time to speak up. Remember, you have a voice. When you speak things exists.

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

Proverbs 18:21

God Gave Us An Opportunity

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. The Lord has blessed us to see another week. I pray you choose to spend your time living intentionally and with purpose. This morning while I was in prayer the Holy Spirit brought the word “Opportunity” to me. This is my first day back at the office and typically I’m not thrilled about heading into work. Some of you may know I’m transitioning into a full-time entrepreneur in Jesus name. Until it happens I still have a 9-5 job. As I was getting ready to leave the house I kept hearing the word “Opportunity.” I thought what are you trying to tell me, Jesus? What opportunity?

The Holy Spirit said, “Everyday you wake up you have an opportunity. An opportunity to be better than yesterday. An opportunity to go after your goals. An opportunity to grow. An opportunity to walk in your healing. An opportunity to fulfill the purpose God has given you.” Glory be to the Highest. How many times have you crawled out the bed, dreading the day ahead of you? I know I have many times. God is telling us we ought to wake up excited about the OPPORTUNITY we are given every day.

Opportunity means we still have time. We can get it right. We can overcome. It means God still has plans for us. People of God. We woke up with an amazing gift. Opportunity.

Today I urge you to remember this, it’s easy to miss opportunity when we’re focused on adversity. It’s time to shift our perspective. Blessings.


“Be very careful, then, how you live not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.”

Ephesians 5:15-17

Who’s Your Purpose Partner?

Hello, my brothers and sisters in Christ. We’ve made it to the end of the week. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. It’s a very special day for me. March 8th is my Wedding Anniversary. (Insert Confetti) It’s also the day that my husband and I met almost a decade ago. Being involved with someone for 11 years you tend to learn a few things. Through the ups, downs, wins, growing pains, healing, and BLESSINGS. I’m pleased to say we’re still going. More in love than before. Continually transforming into who God called us to be for each other every day. For this blog post I’m going to share an important concept when it comes to marriage. “Purpose Partnership” I know for a fact my husband is my Purpose Partner placed in my life by Jesus Christ. I pray that our story encourages those who believe God has placed someone in your life for Purpose. Blessings.

I met my husband (Nolan) March 2008. He took it upon himself to slide into my DMs on Black Planet. Lol. Some of you may remember this old dating site. I would like to say we had an instant spark, but we didn’t. The first month was a little sketchy. Getting in touch with him was hit or miss. At the time I was out of state with one of my mentors. Once I returned to Chicago we finally met. Our first encounter I made him breakfast. Eggs, pancakes, and bacon. It’s safe to say he enjoyed the food, because shortly after we started dating.

We would spend the next year inseparable. During that time a prophet spoke to us. She told Nolan God said, “You’re her future.” A few months after that prophetic word we broke up. I moved out of state with my family. We kept in contact. Spent the next several years as an “on again off again” couple. We held onto what the prophet told us, but never took the time to grow in God enough to see the manifestation of the words he spoke to us. How many times have you let what God spoke to you lay at the wayside, because it didn’t fit into your timeline? By November 2014 we were back “on.” I flew home to Chicago from Houston to see Nolan for the holidays. When I left to return to Houston he left with me. By March 2015, we were married.

I always knew I loved my husband in a way that I never loved anyone else. I couldn’t explain it. I just did. When we met all those years ago I was fresh out of a relationship that left me feeling unable to love. Then I met Nolan. He made me do what I thought I couldn’t do anymore. Open my heart. Even though we were involved for so many years we didn’t really know each other. If I’m to be honest we didn’t know ourselves. We were two people who always wanted to be together, but operated in generational curses, and mindsets. Like many other married couples, we had our growing pains. Two halves trying to be a whole instead of being a whole individually before we got married. Those pains hurt, but they didn’t break us. What they did do was cause us to seek help from the one who told Nolan, “You’re her future.” God!

By March 2018, we decided to give our lives to God. It also kicked off the discovery of our “Purpose Partnership.” A Purpose Partner is not something that you can Google for a definition. What I believe it to be is a person placed in your life that is directly connected to your God-Given Purpose. They’re CALLED to support, cultivate, and protect the seed that God has put inside of you. My husband is my “Purpose Partner.” When we gave our lives and marriage to God we were able to finally see the beauty of each other through the eyes of Jesus Christ. We gained clarity in our individual purpose and marriage. We grew in our knowledge of God and who He made us to be. One of the most important things we learned was how to be who we needed each other to be. My husband needed things from me that I wasn’t aware of until I grew in God. There were things that I needed from him that he wasn’t aware of until he grew in God. We both desired different things and we couldn’t obtain them the same way. God taught us how to be there for each other in a way we both could interpret.

Who’s your Purpose Partner? Has God called someone to support, cultivate, and protect the seed that He placed inside of you? Are you someone’s Purpose Partner? Are you being who God called you to be in their life? I had to pray for direction from the Lord about being my husband’s Purpose Partner. He gave me understanding about my role. I moved out of the way to let God be God in Nolan’s life. I don’t impose my timeline on God’s timeline in my husband’s relationship with Christ. I support whatever he desires to do. For instance, my husband wanted to learn to play the guitar around Christmas. I bought him 2 guitars. God provided the 3rd from another source. He’s working on starting a Financial Repair Company. I found courses for him to obtain his certifications and paid for them. Now he’s certified. I’m his Purpose Partner. I’m who God called me to be in his life.

To the man who is MY FUTURE. You’re everything I needed. You help grow me every day. God trusted you to care, love, and protect his daughter. He’s pleased with you. Thank you for exposing me to a life filled with kindness, compassion, trust, forgiveness, purpose, and love. Every moment with you is intentional. I will forever choose you. You lead me as God leads you. I love and thank you for a wonderful 4 years as Mrs. Nolan. I will forever be your helpmate.

Love,

Your Purpose Partner

Happy 4 Year Anniversary Honey.

The Best Version of You

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. We have made it through the week. Glory be to God! I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. One thing that I love about Yahweh is how He consistently reveals to me the many layers of our relationship. Just when I think I’ve learned all I can learn at this level He stretches me further. As I was sitting at my desk yesterday He told me, “The best version of you already exists. Stop covering it up with what you think is missing.” That part! Wow!

How many times have we talked ourselves out of greatness? How many times have we limited our ability, because we didn’t believe we had the right relationship to grow us. How many times have we suppressed what God placed in us to substitute it with something or someone we thought we were missing? I know I’ve done it time and time again. It reminds me of a concept that I live by when it comes to accomplishing goals. That being, “The only difference between successful and nonsuccessful people is the time they put into their goals.” God told me His people give up easily. Our followthrough is horrible. This is why we have such a hard time seeing He’s already made the best version of us. We won’t seek me long enough to meet that person.

I hear you, Lord. He wasn’t just talking about my siblings in Christ. He was talking about me. I can vividly pinpoint the times that I gave up on God, because of my lack of patience. Believing He must have changed His mind about what He promised me, because it didn’t show up when I thought it would. I didn’t understand He was taking me through my process to prepare me for the promise. I didn’t understand that had He given me the promise before I was ready for it I would mess it up once I had it.

I want to encourage you while you’re on your relationship journey to becoming a better you. EVERYTHING that you need is already within you. God didn’t forget to leave out the essential tools for your purpose. Don’t focus on the Mother or Father who was absent. The best version of you isn’t contingent upon their presence in your life. Never stop pursuing your purpose, because no one has invested in you. God said, “I’m your investor.” Don’t allow your past to conceal the best version of you any longer. GOD believes in what He made. He believes in the seed He planted in us, and we know what seeds do. They eventually grow up and out through the dirt. This is why I’m so closely attached to my brand, “In His Image.” If the word of God says, I’m made in His image. Why would God make something in His image, and not equip it to be great? He wouldn’t. We prevent ourselves from being great.

God wants to introduce you to who He created you to be. No longer can we afford to search for ourselves everywhere else except in God. Remember, the best version of you already exists.


“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.

Ephesians 4:22-24

Mindful Moment Interview Rewind

Hello my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. To all of my new followers, “Welcome.” We have a series on the site called, “Mindful Moment Features.” Mindful Moment Features is a one-on-one interview series where we get an in-depth look into the mind, heart, and spirit of God’s people who are living their purpose. We’ll get up close and personal with business owners, authors, educators, pastors, and much more.

Our last feature was with Author and Pastor Deborah Hampton Miller. It was such an impactful interview that I felt it necessary to Rewind. She is an ordained Pastor, Prophetess, Prayer Warrior, Wife, Mother, Author, Poet, and currently pursuing a Bachelors of Science in Psychology degree. In our interview, we discussed her first published book entitled, “Secret Sins The Ties That Bind.” We learned how God healed her from sexual trauma, showed her how to forgive her abusers, tear down strongholds, and ultimately break generational curses off her bloodline.

Here is the LINK to the interview. I’ve also included the audio, questions, and timestamps. I promise it will bless you. Click the LINK and take a listen. Blessings.

God Wants To Reinvent You

Reinvent! This is the word the Holy Spirit gave me to describe what Yahweh was doing in my life. He was “changing me so much so that I appeared to be entirely new.” As grateful and humble as I am for Him doing and continuing to do that in me. I was also anxious. I realized after my last post that I was in this uncomfortable stage in my journey where I gave God just enough room to come in and provide me with the vision to see myself in His image. This past year I made a decision to turn away from my sinful acts and self-indulgence in order to surrender to Yahweh. I spent the year killing my flesh. I willingly gave up coping mechanisms, relationships that had nothing to do with my purpose, mindsets, behaviors, and overall control. My willingness to do those things in the name of Jesus provided the room for Him to wash me clean from my past. How blessed am I the Father loves me this kind of way. You can imagine how many times I cried as He released me from things which once had me bound.

I wrote a poem for “Love Day” last week illustrating this new found person who I have been reinvented into. After I posted the poem I literally spent the following days feeling anxious. I felt lost. It hit me. I arrived at the first stop along my journey with Christ. A point I never thought I would reach. After all these years I finally forgave myself from my past and I no longer associated who I am now with who I once was. When we think about death we typically expect a period of mourning. Death isn’t easy. It hurts. I spent the last year killing everything that knew about myself. Now I had to start over to discover who I really was created to be as a child of God. I was overwhelmed with so much emotion as I came to this realization that I burst out in tears. I didn’t cry because I missed the old me. I cried because I had to live with, speak life too, create content with, and operate in several roles with this person who I knew very little about.

In the midst of this revelation, I spoke to my mentor who asked me, “What’s the word?” She often asks me this question to see if my ears are open at all times in the spirit realm. I simply told her, “Idk.” She followed up the conversation with a word from God. The word being, “What’s the hesitation?” I thought, “Are you kidding me?” After all, I had been through the last year. How was I hesitant? Hours after that conversation I heard from the Holy Spirit. I had given God “just enough” room to do what He had done thus far. I graduated! It was time to move on to the next level. A deeper level in our relationship journey. I found the hesitation. I was back at the place of the unknown. It all made sense. I was scared to lose everything when I made the decision to give my life to God early last year but I trusted Him. My spirit must have felt that I was about to enter into a new level of obedience and trust. It was the same feeling I had last year when I let it all go for God. That’s why I was hesitant. My God!

I had to repent. I was sorry for not trusting Yahweh as I had trusted Him before. I was sorry for limiting what He wanted to do in my life as this new creature in Him. I was sorry for being hesitant to travel further in our journey together. Most importantly I was sorry for not fully embracing the full journey that was ahead of me.

Maybe you’re at this exact place in your relationship journey with Christ. The place where you’re dictating the pace at which you’re moving. Maybe you feel like you’ve had enough obstacles to overcome or that you have nothing else to give. Believe me, I know the feeling but we’re capable of reaching places in God’s strength that we can’t reach in our own. I encourage you to find solace in the two things that helped me this past week. The first thing was a scripture. “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” The second thing came from a television show. The lead character simply said, “Don’t give up before the miracle happens.”

My brother and sister in Christ. No matter where you are in your relationship with Yahweh I challenge you to hold on. Let God be who He is. Move out of His way. Don’t grow tired in your well doing. Your miracle is waiting to manifest. Blessings.   

Mindful Moment – A Love Poem

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. I wrote this piece on my lunch break today. I know that it’s the day of “love.” I’m sure most of you have made some gesture to a loved one, a friend, Jesus, or yourself. One thing that I love about Yahweh is that He is the epitome of intentional. Everything He does is with purpose. So in the spirit of this “love” day, I was drawn to reflect on how much He loves me. Poetry is my first love when it comes to writing. I don’t share it much but this piece meant something to me. I pray you enjoy it. Happy Love Day. Blessings.

Who is this woman you created me to be?


This creature who I’m learning to love.

I wonder what you were thinking when you weaved me together.

Did you intentionally make me a creative?

Did you say, “Passion” will be in this one?

I wonder if you intentionally made me with dimples and long hair.

If you purposely gifted me with my hands.

Did you mean to make me a “go-getter?”

What about my desire to build women up?

Did you place that in me while I was in my mother’s womb?

How did you find the time to be so methodical in creating me?

Did you know that I would be in this place right now?

A place of complete submission to you?

Did you know that you would be introducing me to your original craftsmanship 33 years after her birth?

I can’t imagine how it feels to perfectly form something that won’t begin developing til decades later.

How loving and patient you are.

The more I think about you the more I am in awe of your existence.

I’m filled with emotion every time I try to conceptualize your thoughts.

You love in a way that I will never.

Your mind goes beyond my greatest ambition.

You’re the ultimate creative.

Guess that’s why you made me in your image.

You wanted me to see the greatness of you in me.

Thank you, Yahweh!

Thank you, for loving me.

Mindful Morning

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I won’t hold you long this morning I just wanted to share with you something the Holy Spirit shared with me last night. As I was in worship I asked Him what do the people need to know. The Holy Spirit said, “God requires us to give Him all of us, because He gave us all of Him.”

Maybe you’re someone who has struggled with giving God all of you. Maybe you find yourself repeating the same cycle of events that bring you no good. Maybe that thing you can’t seem to shake is your attitude. Maybe it’s your dependency on your job. Maybe it’s your trust in man. Maybe it’s trust in yourself. Whatever the case we serve a God who has already gone ahead of us and paid the ultimate price so that we can have life. There is nothing that we will lose that can compare to what God has already lost when He allowed His one and only son Jesus Christ to be sacrificed.

Remember, the fear you feel to lose it all for the name of Jesus is keeping you from the very thing that will completely transform your existence. Blessings.

Something to watch for – I talk about “How to give God your all” in my new book coming soon. Be looking out for the release of my book, “Relationship Goals.” A beginner guide to building your relationship with God.

How To P.R.A.Y

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. It’s Self-Care Sunday here on Mindful Of Me Moments. As a rule of thumb, we should all be practicing good self-care techniques daily. I’ve chosen Sundays to be the day that I touch base and provide tips to all of you. As you know I’m currently working my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to establish a relationship with Yahweh. It’s something that I believe will be very beneficial for the “New Christian” or someone who knows Christ and may need to brush up on the fundamentals of their intimate relationship with Him. After all, we can’t have self-care without having a relationship with Christ first. I mean He is the one who knows what we need. For this Self-Care Sunday, we are going to be talking about one of the tips provided in my upcoming book. That tip being “How To P.R.A.Y.” As always I pray that it inspires you to self-reflect and make adjustments as needed. Blessings.

I remember being a young girl and not knowing how to pray. The very first prayer that I learned came from Matthew 6, “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” You know the rest. If you grew up in church then this was probably your first prayer as well. I often times heard the elders in the church describe prayer as “having a conversation with God.” Was it that simple? I just open my mouth and talk to God like I talked to one of my home-girls? There had to be more to it than that. Surely, I would have to speak to Him with more depth and diction. Looking back now I probably spent more time wondering what He wanted me to say versus just speaking to Him. As my relationship with Him started to flourish there were some fundamental points that helped me in my prayer time.

Before we get into those points I thought it would be beneficial to understand why it’s important to pray. The bible says,

“Pray without ceasing.”

1 Thessalonians 5:17


“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”

Ephesians 6:18

There are many scriptures that explain the importance of prayer. In short, prayer is our display of faith, trust, love, and humility towards Jesus. It’s also a direct avenue to make our requests known to Him and a way to hear from Him. Ultimately, it serves as a catalyst in our relationship with our Father.

Now onto the fundamentals of prayer. Next time you P.RA.Y remember to Praise, Repent, Ask, & Yield.

PRAISE the Lord for who He is. He is wonderful. Marvelous in all His ways. He is King of Kings, Lord of Lords. He is the one and only true God. He is Mighty, our Everlasting Father, the Prince of Prince. He is what was, what is, and what will be. He is Unchanging. He is our Redeemer and Way-maker. Start all your prayers off with giving Him the praise that is due.

REPENT unto the Lord. The bible says, “we all fall short to the glory of God.” True repentance is more than our verbal declaration. It’s our ability to turn away from things that are not pleasing to God. When we pray with a repenting heart we are acknowledging to Yahweh that “we have sinned and we are making a decision to turn away from that sinful act moving forward.” The Bible requires us to confess our sins to God. There may be times that we’ve sinned and are not even aware of it. Make sure you’re praying that God reveals any area that you need to repent and when He does repent then turn away from it.

ASK the Lord. There are three things that the bible says we ought to do when asking God for something. We are to make sure our request glorify God, are parallel to His word, and that they bring joy. See John 14:13, John 15:7, and John 16:23-24. Once you’ve checked all three of those then ask away. “We have not because we ask not.” It’s not good enough to stand on the fact that God knows the desires of our heart. His word tells us that we have to ASK HIM. Whether you’re asking Him to move in someone else’s life or your own. Make sure you’re specific. Don’t ask for God to bless you with the rent for next month. Ask Him to bless you with the wisdom to handle your finances. See what I did there? Lol.

YIELD unto the Lord. This is one of my favorite points in the P.R.A.Y. fundamentals. Yield means to produce or provide. Biblically, it means to wait on or submit to. When we yield to God we are literally giving Him the opportunity to provide or produce a response to our prayer. I know right. No one ever told you to wait for Him to respond after your prayers. Welp, now you know. For me, this is where meditation takes place. I pray then I meditate in silence. I allow His Holy Spirit to comfort me and I wait until I feel released to move. Sometimes He reveals things to me. Other times He just provides me with peace and a clear mind. Either way, I’ve provided Him free range to speak back to me as He sees fit.

So there it is people of God. Our Self-Care Sunday Tip. “How To P.R.A.Y.” I pray that it helped those who may not know how to approach praying. I pray it aides as a refresher for those who already know Christ. I would love to know your fundamentals of prayer. Drop a comment below. I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

Don’t Let Your Ego “Edge God Out”

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. Can you believe January is already over? How are you guys doing with your 2019 goals? Have any adjustments happened with your vision for this year? They have for me. Lol. The overall vision is the same but the path in which it’ll happen has slightly changed. With thirty-three days in the books Yahweh has already slowed me down. Many of you know I finished my Vision Board a week or so before the new year. My goals cosisted of growth in my relationship with Christ, my marriage, my brand, this blog, and a list of other ventures. The more I attempted to reach these deadlines that I set for myself God was directing my attention to the journey that has to happen before I reach the destination. I guess you can say my EGO was getting the best of me.

I was listening to a podcast the other day and the guy referenced his EGO getting in his way. Now I’m not someone who relishes in my own accomplishments. All glory be to God for anything that he has strengthened me through or allowed me to obtain. As the podcast continued he mentions that a pastor told him that when we have a big EGO we are essentially “Edging God Out.” #MindBlown Had I Edged God Out in my bedazzled Vision Board and 2019 Goals? Couldn’t have I thought. I mean He is in the midst of every goal that I have for this year. The more I talked to Yahweh about it He began to reveal to me how my EGO was getting in the way.

Even though my vision was from God I didn’t account for the time needed to prepare for the vision. I started the process but had no expectation of the next steps which left me doing what I thought was necessary. I was leaning on my own understanding. Even for God’s glory. I found myself making all these plans that glorify God but in the same moment, I was edging him out of my preparation process. There is nothing in this world that we will do that doesn’t require seed, time and harvest. If God has planted a seed in you there is no skipping the “time” that is needed before the harvest.

In due season, what is planted inside of you will grow. Continue to allow God to cultivate you through the process.

Maybe Christ has given you a vision to write a book, start a credit repair business, an apparel shop, or become a life coach. There is absolutely no way to bypass the necessary journey that you have to take in order to flourish in your God-Given area. There are levels that require our participation as we are on our journey to becoming who we were created to be.

You can find preparation thorughout the bible,

“Put your outdoor work in order
    and get your fields ready;
    after that, build your house.”

Proverbs 24:26

So what’s the takeaway? Start. God has given you a vision for your life then start. Start the process and allow Yahweh to guide you through each and every step. God isn’t our phone a friend when we are stuck. His place is in front of us before we even make the step. I spoke about being in the process of writing my first book. I had the opportunity of attending a Master Class that focused on “Writing Your First Book & Self-Publishing.” I learned so much that I had no idea about prior to taking the class. The knowledge was necessary as I journey to becoming a first-time author. Don’t allow your EGO to Edge God Out of your preparation process. Blessings.

Create! Just remember to include Christ in the process.

Update: I went to a Christian Women’s Bible Study last night and it truly was a release for me. I really underestimated how much I missed being able to fellowship with other Women of God. Right at the end, they asked us to write down what we were hearing from God. He simply told me, “Go and be free TRULY Tiffany.” It was as if I still had a spec of my past self in my heart and in that moment Yahweh released me from it. Glory be to God.

Also, I just booked my first speaking engagement of the year. I am so honored and excited about the event. The subject, “There is Beauty in The Vision.” What a befitting topic. Details coming soon. Love you with the love of the Lord.

Mindful Morning

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I don’t normally write a blog this early in the morning but I’m so full with God’s Holy Spirit that I had to write about it. The past few days I’ve continued to hear and see the same message. All having to do with living out your purpose. I am someone who still works a 9-5 but is transitioning into becoming a full-time entrepreneur. I know that this year is my year of preparation for that transition. I attended a Masterclass Tuesday evening. “How To Write & Self-Publish A Book.” For those who don’t know I am currently working on my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to build a relationship with God. I’m completely honored for the vision that Christ has given me for the project and can’t wait till it comes out.

So what does this have to do with you? I’m glad you asked. God created every single one of us with a purpose. There is a special work in you that is instrumental to the Kingdom of God. It is our business to find out what that work is then complete it. There is someone waiting for you to write that book, start that business, become that Doctor, obtain that License. Whatever the call is on your life know that it is bigger than you. Don’t hold up someone’s deliverance because you refuse to be who you were created to be. I want us all to win. So go be great! After all, you were created to dwell in greatness.

Today, I challenge you to do more for your purpose. If you already know God’s purpose for your life then invest in it. Take a class, network with people in that field, supplement leisure time for more time in your calling. Find a balance but definitely increase your efforts if need be. I love you with the love of the Lord. I can’t wait to see the things you’ll accomplish for the Kingdom of God.

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My Broken Pieces

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. As I was getting ready for work this morning I listened to a sermon by TD Jakes entitled, “Nothing As Powerful As A Changed Mind.” It’s an older sermon but was definitely on time for me this morning. If you read my previous blog then you are aware that I’ve been reflecting on God’s hand in my life over the last year. Not that I’m living in the past but I’m acknowledging the transitional growth that has taken place. In the sermon, Bishop Jakes talks about the importance of changing our default setting. My local pastor preached this same word last year at the exact moment that I relinquished everything that I was in order for Yahweh to rewire my own default setting. One thing that Bishop Jakes said in his sermon that stood out to me was, “You know when you’ve changed when your sin is no longer your normal. Not that you won’t mess up ever again but that it’s abnormal when you do. Your desire to go back to it no longer exist.” I can truly say that over the past year my desire to be my former self truly died. I feel out of place thinking or doing some of the things that I use to do. My old decisions don’t make sense to me anymore now that God has changed my mind. What made this time different from all the other times I prayed for God to change my situation? To change me? Unlike, the other times I prayed for deliverance this time I wasn’t afraid of what I would lose once the change started to take place. I wasn’t hesitant to lose everything that I knew in order to discover the newness of who I was in Christ. What is the prayer that you’ve continued to pray over and over? Are you ready to change your default setting? What are you afraid of losing? Let’s talk about it.

A default setting is a preexisting value of a user. Typically, our default settings are formed from how we were raised, our experiences, and generational trends. It is the thing we return to time and time again. It may be triggered by obstacles, verbal concerns, or people. If you’ve ever prayed for God to heal you in a certain area or prayed about not going through the same things over and over. You may be still operating in your default setting somewhere in your life.

I did a blog post about Faith and Works not too long ago. See here. In the post, I talked about the requirement of us to balance the two. We can’t have one without the other. I never understood that my prayers required action on my part. It wasn’t good enough to pray for financial growth then spend my money on clothes and shoes. It wasn’t efficient to pray that my relationship with God would develop and only talk to Him on Sunday. I believe I’m still referencing this transforming revelation because the Lord keeps revealing new layers of it to me. Each time He gives me a deeper understanding. For me, it started with a decision to be obedient to His instruction. I then had to face who I had been and the things I had done over the years. I had to repent and fall out of agreement with those things. I had to allow Christ to change my mind and heart. Then I had to give God full access to break me in order to make me whole. I had to understand that the broken pieces of me were necessary. The hurt of losing people, the pain of revisiting my past, the confusion of letting go of everything that made me who I had been up until that point. All necessary. I finally understood that God couldn’t heal what was not broken. He had to break my thoughts, my understanding, my default setting, my relationships, and my habits. So know when we pray for healing we’re also praying to first be broken.

Are you ready for God to truly change you? It’s going to cost you something, but the price we pay is nothing compared to the payoff. Blessings.

“God, pick up the pieces. Put me back together again. You are my Praise.”

Jeremiah 17:14 (The Message)

What God Expects

Hello, my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve all been living intentionally and with purpose. It’s been about a week since my last blog post. I’ve been quite busy rearranging my thoughts and projects. So here is the update: I’ve decided to change “Faith, Food, & Fitness” to a once a month series. It’s more efficient for me to provide information when it’s a 30-day goal. The next post will be on 2/1/19. It will still include goals for the month and tips. Next update: my birthday was on 1/22/19. (Insert Confetti) I am now 33 years of age. I spent my birthday at work and with my husband. Matter of fact I believe I went to bed around 9 pm. Lol. #OldLadyGang I’ve been preparing to make a huge transition. Can’t really expound upon it but let’s just say its a move in the right direction. I’ve also been working on products for my store. Lastly, I spent the week just breathing. I know we do that anyway but I took a mental break from my surroundings. I think we all need to do that from time to time. Anywho, that’s about it. I won’t keep you long today. Just want to share my takeaway from my mental vaca. Pray it blesses you.

Each year as my birthday approaches I tend to reflect over the previous year. I acknowledge what I’ve accomplished and the challenging situations I faced. This year I did something a little different. I focused on God’s hand in my life over the past year. Taking the spotlight off of me and placing it on Him. When I did that He spoke to me. He gave me a word for our relationship this year. Faithfulness! On my 33rd Birthday, I decreed that this year for God and I would be the year of Faithfulness. He’s always faithful so it was really a decree from me to Him. My prayer the last few weeks has been that I would no longer have relationships or interactions with people or things unless it looked like God. “Look like God,” meaning His characteristics. However, this Faithfulness decree is my personal pledge to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Truer words never spoken.

So I took a week away from blogging and posting on Instagram to just surrender to His peaceful presence. I wrote down the highlights of our conversations. He even gave me insight on a journal series I’m working on that will be available for purchase soon, Lord willing. Needless to say, I am truly grateful for how far He has brought me. I’m grateful that my desires have changed and that I crave His presence more than anything or anyone else. I have mantra’s in so many areas of my life for this year, but this one means the most. This mantra is just for Him and I. I almost didn’t want to share it on the blog. Lol. However, I was released to…

Have you established a “One Word” goal for your relationship with Christ this year? What will be your personal pledge to Him? How do you plan on growing your relationship with Him this year? He’s done so much for us. We can’t repay Him but we can show Him that His love for us isn’t in vein. I challenge you to take some time to
“Just Breathe.” While you’re in His presence listen for His response. What is He expecting from you this year? He expects Faithfulness from me. So Faithfulness I will gladly give.

Remember, a one-sided relationship isn’t a relationship at all. Stop asking God to bless your relationship when you refuse to have one with Him. Blessings.

Top 100 Christian Women Blog Award

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I received an email last week from Feedspot. To my surprise, “Mindful Of Me Moments” was featured on their 2019 Top Christian Women Blogs. You can imagine I was honored and excited. I started my blog in September 2018. Even in this small amount of time, I have been privileged to featured on more than one platform. I’ve also had the opportunity to meet so many other amazing writers. Blogging is truly a community within itself. I look forward to the continued growth of my blog and being able to experience other blogger journey’s. Again, Thank You Feedspot for taking the time to be Mindful of Me. Blessings.

On Feedspot

Womb Care

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week thus far living intentionally and with purpose. At the beginning of this year, I started to pray to Yahweh that all of my relationships moving forward would look like Him. I didn’t want to be connected to or in agreement with anyone or anything that didn’t bring Him glory. In doing so, this included one of my most intimate relationships. That being between myself and my womb. My Mother challenged me to change my perception of my womb. Before I dive into the discovery of my innermost worthy place. I must credit this new found perspective to her. God has truly given her insight in regard to this subject and in return she has shared many of their conversations with me. Now, this post isn’t just for us women. Men can learn a thing or two about the gift that keeps on giving. Either way, I pray that all who reads this post will be encouraged to evaluate their own perception in regard to the womb. Blessings.

I remember the day I got my period for the first time. I was sixteen years old. Late bloomer. I prayed that God would put off me having to wear a diaper and feel the horrible cramps that I heard so much about. I cried like a baby when she came for the first time. She would visit me ten days out of the month bringing along her immobilizing cramps. I hated her. The older I was the more inconsistent she was. Some months she would come and some months she wouldn’t. By the time I got married and desired to have children she showed me again how much she wasn’t my friend. We still haven’t conceived to his day. I can firmly say that not only did she bring me physical discomfort; she brought me emotional pain. I spent so many years feeling as though she was broken. Why couldn’t she do what she was designed to do? Why did she have to be my burden? The thing that inconvenienced my body? I knew some women who would get pregnant if you just looked at them. Others would only see her 3 times a month. But not me. I wasn’t so lucky.

My Monthly Position

A few months ago my Mother asked me to write a letter to my Womb. I know that sounds crazy. She read me a poem that she wrote about her womb and it brought tears to my eyes. It detailed a story about the betrayal of her womb, self-inflicted. She followed up by telling me what God had shown her about her Womb. Again, I was brought to tears. I too had betrayed my Womb.

Did you know that as a woman our gift from God is our Womb. It is the thing that brings forth life. The thing that pleases our husband. It’s also the place that the enemy attacks. Infertility, PCOS, Uterine Fibroids, Endometriosis, Cancer, Excruciating Cramps, Sexual Abuse. All attacks that come against our ability as women to reproduce. Attacks to prevent the growth of our lineage. Attacks that alter our perception about her. Attacks that end up making us curse her instead of praising the fact that she gives life. If you’ve ever dreaded your monthly cycle. You’ve cursed her. If you’ve ever opted to remove your reproductive organs. You’ve cursed her. If you’ve ever wished you never had her. You’ve cursed her. The list goes on and on.

So when we talk about Womb Care we have to think about the physical, emotional, and spiritual relationship we have with her. Physical speaks to our hygiene, as well as, what we allow to come into contact with her. Emotional is how we feel about her. Even in times of discomfort are we proud that she is our prized possession? Spiritual is understanding the beauty and strength that she holds while protecting her against demonic attacks. The very thing that produces life has to be honored as such. We have to take her back from anyone and anything that has spoken death to her. She is our gift from God. So how can we reject God’s gift?

The great thing about God is that even we are ignorant about things that we do. He gives us clarity and understanding which allows Him access to reverse our destruction. Don’t you know He never gives us anything without preparing us? Even during our moments of pain, it’s time that we celebrate our prized possession. Our Womb.

For the rest of the week I challenge you to change your perspective of your womb. If you’re a man I challenge you to change your appreciation for your wife’s womb or the womb of women as a whole.

Remember, even our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ passed through the Womb of a Woman. What if she had cursed the place where He was to be born from…...

“Whenever a woman is in labor she has pain, because her hour has come; but when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy that a child has been born into the world.”

John 16:21

Faith, Food, & Fitness


“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

How we living people of God? We’ve arrived! I Pray you’re ready! We have made it to the first “Faith, Food, & Fitness” series blog. I have been preparing for this series for several months now. As Yahweh began transforming me earlier last year he gave me the word, Intentional. He told me that He wanted me to be Intentional about myself, my mind, body, and spirit. Nearly a year later we finally have what is, “Faith, Food, & Fitness.” This is a series that will have a permanent position here at “Mindful of Me Moments” for the duration of 2019. Every Friday you can look forward to a variation of tips, recipes, workouts, encouragement, and scriptural references that will assist you in being more mindful of your spiritual, mental, and physical health. My prayer is that this series will aid in transforming the way we think and inspires us to take better care of the bodies God has lent us. As a disclaimer, I am not a nutritionist or personal trainer. I am merely a Child of God who hears from the Holy Spirit and does her research. Now that we have that out the way. Are you excited yet? Lol. I truly am! If you could see what God has shown me about this series you would be too. So let’s do this…..

Faith

“Faith” is defined as complete trust in something or someone. As children of God, the expectation is that we have complete faith in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Anyone that knows Him knows how merciful and powerful He is towards His children. So much so that he covers all our faults. His word talks about it in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10. The Word of God says,


“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Perhaps you are someone who has struggled with your health mental or physical. Whether it be excess weight, not enough weight, High Blood Pressure, Diabetes, swelling, aches, pains, or just the mental anguish of self-portrayal. We have to have Faith in the Word of God. In our weakness, our self-image, our perception of our flaws, our understanding of what a healthy mind, body, and spirit are. We are required to have Faith in Christ in all these instances. We have to believe that in our struggles He is truly our strength not just to endure hardships but to overcome and change the way we perceive them. So in the “Faith” section of this series, we will be building and strengthing our relationship with God. In doing so, Yahweh will serve as the foundation of our journey to obtain optimal spiritual, mental, and physical wellness. In efforts of getting you started in your faith building, there will be a goal for you to focus on and reach for the upcoming week in each section. Some goals will be broad others will be precise.

This week’s “Faith Goal” is to find 1 scripture that requires you to perform an act of obedience to God. It can be anything. There are scriptures that talk about being slow to talk and quick to listen. In the book of Proverbs, you will find scriptures that have instructions about how we ought to live. When we are obedient to God our Faith grows. So find 1 scripture and do what it says ALL WEEK. I’m laughing but very serious.

Time to grow in Faith.

Food

“Food” is defined as any nutritious substance that people or animals eat or drink or that plants absorb in order to maintain life and growth. You read that right. Nutritious! Maintain LIFE and GROWTH! Makes you think twice about that pizza, french fries, tacos, and ice cream we love so much. I’ve shared in a prior blog that last year I was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure. As of recent, I’ve found out that I’m pre-diabetic. See what happens when we aren’t intentional about our health. God gave me that word last year and my disobedience to it has resulted in ailments that could kill me. When we think about food I don’t know too many people that tie it to our relationship with God. I am approaching a year since I started my self-care journey with Yahweh, and in this time He has really given me insight about food. What we choose to feed our bodies naturally is just as important as what we feed our bodies spiritually. The Holy Spirit lives within us so why would we only feed our spirit and allow our physical bodies to be poisoned by foods that will cause a natural death? Makes no sense, right? I believe that when we finally understand that our existence belongs to God. Then we will understand that we have a responsibility to take care of the bodies He LENT us.

Some of you may find comfort in unhealthy foods. Maybe you eat healthy already and “treat” yourself from time to time with a dessert or “cheat meal.” I know I’ve been that person. Don’t you know that eating things that can cause Congestive Heart Failure, Diabetes, or High Blood Pressure isn’t comforting? Doesn’t sound like much of treat either. To add to that when was the last time you heard of cheating being a good thing? Lol. Really think about it. We have to allow Yahweh to change our abusive relationship with food.

This week’s “Food Goal” is to replace 1 bad food choice with a healthy food choice every day for the ENTIRE week. Give up something that is killing your physical health and replace it will something that will help your health. This is not a chore. Food can either heal us or kill us. Find excitement in discovering enjoyable healthy options that will give you life. Make sure you’re also adding your food mindsets and struggles into your prayer time with Yahweh. Remember, in our weakness, He is made strong which means we have access to that same strength.

Breakfast Smoothie with 3 handfuls of spinach. 1 cup of frozen unsweetened pineapples and rhubarbs. Unsweetened almond milk.

Fitness

“Fitness” is defined as the condition of being physically fit and healthy. Being a person who was successful in being fit years ago. I know how it feels to love to workout and how it feels to hate working out. Years ago I wanted to go into law enforcement. In order for me to do so, I needed to be able to take the physical exam. I believe at that time it consisted of a mile run under 8 mins, 40 push-ups (timed), 50 or 60 sit-ups (timed), and the sit and reach. At 300 pounds that wasn’t realistic. So I decided to get fit so that I could pursue my then dream to become a cop. It took 11 months but I did it. From 300 plus pounds to about 200 pounds. I was strong. I went from a 45-minute mile to an 8-minute mile. I cried! I killed my numbers for the push-ups and sit-ups. I worked out 6 days a week, twice a day, roughly 4 hours a day. #BeastMode I would like to put a pin right here by saying, “You Don’t Have To Go Do This.” I had a goal and at that time nothing was going to come in between me and that goal. A couple of years later and I chose to not become a cop. In doing so, the weight returned. Present day I needed a new goal. What would be my new motivation for working out?

I’ve found a mixture of two reasons to be motivated to workout. Those being my high blood pressure and pre-diabetic state. The other is understanding that this body isn’t mine to keep. God LENT it to me and I have a responsibility to take care of it. He loves who and what He created. How dare I show my gratitude and appreciation for Him by mistreating the thing He created? What I’m learning about my body is that it’s not mine to do whatever I want with it. It belongs to God. We should all aspire for these bodies of ours to be a strong tower. I mean they do house His Holy Spirit.


This week’s “Fitness Goal” is to spend at least 15-30 mins of some type of exercise for 6 days. You can rest on the 7th day. You can walk on your lunch break at work. You can do a workout video at home. You can dance in your living room. You can clean your house without sitting down. This journey is progressive so starting with 15-30 mins of moving more than what you normally would do is great. Whatever you choose to do make sure it’s something that you actually like to do. Get creative. Make sure you’re adding to your daily prayer that Yahweh changes your mindset of working out. Pray for a spirit that loves to be healthy. Speak it into existence. You know. Faith and Works.

Yes, I own these. No, I didn’t just buy them. No, I’ve never completed any of them. Yes, this is my new fitness goal. Lol. To finish all of these this year one DVD at a time.

Recap

This Week’s Goal’s

  1. This week’s “Faith Goal” is to find 1 scripture that requires you to perform an act of obedience to God ALL week.
  2. This week’s “Food Goal” is to replace 1 bad food choice with a healthy food choice every day for the ENTIRE week.
  3. This week’s “Fitness Goal” is to spend at least 15-30 mins of some type of exercise for 6 days. You can rest on the 7th day.

We made it through the first week’s instructions. I pray that you’ve been inspired. I pray it has changed your perspective even if just a little. Next Friday I will be posting all of my outcomes from the goals and will have a new more specific list of goals. As always I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

I got you, God. Let’s do this.

Being Present In The Process

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. We are in the second week of the new year and I pray you’ve spent your time thus far living Intentionally and with Purpose. I was recently listening to a podcast from a business coach I follow. She said something that really resonated with me. She said, “Your business is a baby. Babies aren’t born immediately.” It reminded me of one of my previous blogs, “Am I in Proper Position.” In this blog, I referenced how God showed me that I was in my incubation period. Incubation being in a state that provides optimal conditions for growth and development. 

Yahweh was growing and developing me. He was also growing and developing my relationships, purpose, and business. Along with my long list of 2019 goals. I had to purpose in mind to take the time to “Be Present in the Process” while allowing Yahweh to continually grow and develop me. It’s so easy to want to microwave your goals, relationships, and purpose. Even when we know things come out better when they have fully developed over time. So let’s talk about just being present. As always, I pray that this blog inspires you to self-reflect and allow correction in areas where you may need an extra moment of Mindfulness.


The Word of God says,

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

Matthew 6:34

If you’re anything like me then you’ve already started working on your 2019 goals. Even though I’m a stickler for making a goal, and putting a date on it. I found myself thinking, “How am I going to reach some of these goals this year?” Then during my meditation time the Lord revealed to me that some of my goals are more about the progression towards the goal versus actually completing the goal before the end of the year. To be honest, I was relieved. I didn’t want to get so wrapped up in the completion part that I forget about the steps that need to take place before the finished product. My blog, business, and relationships all are things that require daily progression. Not everything will have a date of completion. Some of our goals are simply a continual progression of growth. That understanding alone should prompt us all to remove daily pressures and just focus on “Being Present in the Process” of our growth and development.

Meditation for me has always been about being present in a state of rest. Allowing my thoughts to be still in the moment. It reminded me not to take for granted my ability to be present in the midst of my to-dos. It reminded me to, “Slow Down.”


The Lord replied, “My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”

Exodus 33:14

I encourage you to sort out your 2019 goals and acknowledge the ones that are about progression versus completion. I also encourage you to take the time to find a moment of rest in the midst of your process. Don’t be overwhelmed with completing things that you will forever be continually growing in. Allow yourself to feel and see how you’re evolving. Don’t diminish your level of growth by focusing on a finish line that isn’t there. Be Present in the Process. Blessings.

The Balancing Act – Faith vs Works

Happy New Year my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve made plans to live intentionally and with purpose this year. We’ve made it all the way through 2018 by God’s grace and mercy. I am truly excited about 2019 and everything that’s in store for the next 12 months. I have an upcoming series that will start 1/11/19 entitled, “Faith, Food, & Fitness.” You can anticipate tips, recipes, workouts, and scriptural reference every Friday beginning 1/11/19. As the body of Christ, it’s important that we are intentional about the body that God has given us. It’s not just something that we use every day; it’s also the place where the Holy Spirit lives. I’ll be discussing my own experiences along with my journey to becoming my healthiest in my mind, body, and spirit. I’m super excited about this series and can’t wait to blog about it.


As always, I pray that today’s post will inspire you to self-reflect and make adjustments as needed with the help of Yahweh. Blessings.

I was sitting at my desk this morning and the Lord dropped in my spirit, “Faith without Works is dead.” A familiar scripture that I’m sure most of you have heard or recited a time or two. He followed up with, “Never to compete with each other but to coexist.” I found this to be an interesting revelation. Whenever Yahweh drops something in my spirit I always stop to meditate on it. I think to myself, “He’s telling me this for a reason.” I typically follow up with a quick prayer that says, “Give me your insight, understanding, and the wisdom to apply it, Father.” Then I open my bible. If I’m not at home I open the YouVersion Bible app on my cellphone.

Sidenote: YouVersion provided me with a snapshot of my stats from last year. I was at a loss for words. I didn’t feel proud that I used the Bible app 362 days out of 365. I was humbled because I understood how many times I needed Yahweh. If it had not been for Him and His word I wouldn’t have made it through the obstacles or reached my blessings in 2018.

“Glory Be To The Most High”

Back to the subject at hand. I then open my bible to read the chapter that references the subject or scripture He has given me. There is always a scriptural text that serves as the base of any revelation. After that I found myself thinking how many times has my Faith and Works competed?

Before I even address that thought it’s important that I lay a foundation of Faith and Works. Faith is defined as complete trust or confidence in someone or something. In Christian Theology, Works are defined as a person’s actions or deeds in contrast to inner qualities such as grace or faith. I know that internally I believe in Jesus Christ. I have Faith in His ability. There is nothing that He can’t do. The way that I show my Faith in Him is by my works which serve as the external expression of the Faith that I have in Him internally. That’s a mouthful, lol. What we do (our works) in this life should NOT be done separately from our Faith. Instead, it should be done due to our Faith. Our Faith is the inspiration for our works. So if we are INSPIRED in our Faith in God we ought to ASPIRE to be like Him in our actions aka our Works.

“Have the Faith to surrender the way you Work.” 
T. Nolan

It’s not good enough to say we live for God then operate in disobedience. The same applies to other areas of our life. We can’t believe God to heal us from health issues then continue eating fast food. We can’t believe God to open the door for entrepreneurial success then go home and watch TV. We can’t believe Him to deliver us from alcoholism then keep drinking. There is Work associated with our Faith. They have to COEXIST for COMPLETION to take place. When that happens it says, “I have Faith in Christ and I show my Faith with what I do.” Our works are our ability to be obedient to the one we have Faith in, Jesus. It’s our ability to produce what the Father planted on the inside of us. My husband and I have Faith that Yahweh will bless us with natural children. Our works….. Well, you know how children come about. Lol. I have Faith that Yahweh is going to take “Mindful of Me Moments” and magnify it to the multitude. My works are shown by my diligence to create content, post blogs, network, and consistently hear from Yahweh for direction.

“When we put in the work He will create opportunities for us.”
T.Nolan

So when I think about the times my Faith competed with my Works I think about the times I believed in my own ability vs God’s ability. These were the times I put any and everything above Christ Jesus then expected Him to bless it. The nerve. Our Faith and Works should never compete. They go hand in hand. If you ever find that what you’re doing has taken over your Faith know that you’re working for nothing. Remember, apart from God we can do NOTHING. As the new year rolls out I challenge you to check what and who you’re working for. The only way you will ever be truly effective is when your Faith and Works are in God. Blessings.

Foundational Scripture


 “What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them?  Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food.  If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.
 But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.”
Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds. You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder.
 You foolish person, do you want evidence that faith without deeds is useless? Was not our father Abraham considered righteous for what he did when he offered his son Isaac on the altar?  You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did.  And the scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,” and he was called God’s friend. You see that a person is considered righteous by what they do and not by faith alone.
 In the same way, was not even Rahab the prostitute considered righteous for what she did when she gave lodging to the spies and sent them off in a different direction? As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.”

James 2:14-26

Happy New Year 2019

Happy New Year my brothers and sisters in Christ. It is the first day of 2019 which means you have a complete year to focus on living intentionally and with purpose. I’m sure we all can expect our social media accounts to be flooded with “New Year Resolutions,” and “Vision Boards.” I am one who takes the time to complete a “Vision Board” yearly. This year I did something different. I prayed for Yahweh to lead me to a foundational scripture to stand on for the entire year. Of course, He did just that. Among my many other goals, aspirations, and visions that are on my board. At the very top, you will find my 2019 Foundational Scripture. 

The Scripture Reads,


“His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.”
“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.
 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins. Therefore, my brothers and sisters, make every effort to confirm your calling and election. For if you do these things, you will never stumble,  and you will receive a rich welcome into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.”

2 Peter 1:3-11

Wow! What a promise from God to us. I highlighted in bold letters the instructions in the scripture as they will are my guide for this year. I love you with the love of the Lord. I am excited to grow and expand with you all this year. Thank you for allowing Mindful of Me Moments to be apart of your life. Blessings.

Question: Do you have a “Foundational Scripture” for the New Year? If so, feel free to comment below.

“Don’t take for granted the one who already has the RESOLUTION for everything you want, need, and desire. Make your relationship with Yahweh your priority in 2019.” Happy New Year!

T. Nolan

Who Has Time For Self-Care?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. It is the last Sunday in 2018. What a year it has been. I pray you’ve spent this year living intentionally and with purpose. We have made it to day 5 of “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” As a recap, I’ve shared how He showed me that I had no idea who I was, I believed in my own ability versus His, I struggled with unforgiveness, and how I placed everything except Him at the throne of my heart. Seeing as “Mindful Of Me Moments” was created when I received a revelation that God was mindful of me when I wasn’t mindful of myself. It was only right I ended this mini-series speaking about how He showed me that I was unaware of how to self-care. I pray that this post encourages you to self-reflect and if needed inspires you to alter your own ability to self-care. Blessings.

If you been following this mini-series the last 5 days then you have a good idea of the areas that I struggled with in my lifetime. You’re also aware of how Yahweh has healed me in those areas. I won’t spend time revisiting any particular instances where I didn’t properly consider the care of myself. What I will do is talk about how Yahweh has enhanced my knowledge of self-care as well as share a list of things that I do now that promote positive self-care.

If you’re anything like me then you’re use to always having something on your plate. No time to sit down. There is work to do. Clean the house, cook dinner, tend to my spouse, do schoolwork, respond to emails, attend church, attend family functions, be the mediator in friendships, and take care of the kids for those who have children. This year Yahweh showed me what my to-do list consisted of and guess what? I wasn’t anywhere on it. Out of all my obligations, I never considered myself as an obligation.

It’s amazing how we can make time for everything and everyone else except ourselves. The crazy thing about that is you spend the most time with yourself. When Yahweh revealed that to me I literally had to ask Him what I should do. I had no idea what it meant to have a positive self-care routine. Piece by piece He showed me. Before I list my self-care routine I want to mention that you will not be as effective to anyone or anything if you are not taking the time to self-care. You need a healthy mind, body, and spirit in order to function at your highest capacity. With that being said, here is my self-care routine.

  1. I find moments of quiet time daily. Doesn’t matter where I am. I can be at work, at home, in the car. I make it a point daily to sit in quiet and meditate. Sometimes that consists of a 15-30 min breathing technique. That helps me to focus on my breath instead of my mind running all over the place. Other times I recite positive affirmations over and over.
  2. I write daily. You don’t have to be gifted in writing to write. Even if no one ever reads what you wrote it’s a healthy habit to keep a journal. Writing has always been therapeutic for me. It allows me to put my thoughts, ideas, revelations, and goals on paper. Out of my mind and on paper.
  3. I use aromatherapy scents daily. I have a diffuser that sits on my nightstand. If I need to relieve stress I’ll drop some eucalyptus. If I need to calm my spirit I’ll use lavender. To wake up I use orange or grapefruit in the morning. I also use aromatherapy in the bath along with Epsom salt to soothe my body. I have aromatherapy body oils that I put on depending on how I’m feeling. Our sense of smell sends triggers to our brain. If you don’t currently use some type of aromatherapy I encourage you to try it out. It helps.
  4. I drink tea. I have a complete section in my kitchen that’s dedicated to tea. I have my electric tea kettle, mason jars filled with loose leaf tea, and a pitcher of bagged teas. I probably have about 30 different teas. Tea is RELAXING. I drink it daily. If I’m sick, if I need energy, if I need to sleep, if I need to be calm. Tea is a big part of my self-care routine.
  5. I eat healthily and workout. This is something that is on my 2019 Vision Board. I was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure earlier this year and am currently working towards getting off my meds. This means that the way I eat has now become a goal for me moving forward. If we are unhealthy in our physical body then we for sure limit our opportunities. Along with that comes working out which should also be a priority in our ability to self-care. How we feel in our body affects what we do.
  6. I monitor my thoughts and speak life into myself. There is life and death in the power of the tongue. We shall have what we speak. I have become very cautious about the things that I allow to come out of mouth especially about myself. Our thoughts determine how we feel about ourselves. Being mentally sound stems from what or who we listen to, and what we say about ourselves. So be conscious of what you’re thinking and saying about yourself.
  7. I spend time with myself outside of the home. That’s right. I get a break from home and work. Lol. Majority of the time I do this while getting a mani and pedi which again is, RELAXING. Other opportunities include getting a facial, massage, shopping, or getting your hair done. Any activity that relieves stress or anxiety I’m all for.
  8. I listen to music. Music is another avenue that alters your mind. I listen to a lot of gospel, worship, and Christian rap. When I’m looking for a chill/funky type of music to zone out or write too I listen to, Sango Radio on Pandora. Go check it out if you haven’t. You’re welcome in advance. It’s a VIBE.
  9. I buy myself something every month. Sometimes I get expensive things. Sometimes I buy something as simple as a new journal. This is something that my husband taught me to do. I use to be very frugal. I still am in some respect. What he taught me was I should not work just to pay bills. Now we’re wise when it comes to finances. However, it’s important to treat yourself consistently not just for special occasions. You don’t know how many women and men I’ve come across that can’t remember the last time they bought themselves something. I promise it matters in your self-care routine.
  10. I invest in my spirit daily. Understanding that the Holy Spirit lives within me. It was important to implement a self-care routine for my spirit. I read the word of God every day. I pray every day. I deny my flesh so that my spirit can be strong every day.

As you can tell there is a common theme among my top 10 self-care techniques. The theme being anything that I can do to promote relief, relaxation, growth, and appreciation for me. All of the techniques have made a tremendous difference in my ability to self-care. I’ve learned what I like, what I don’t like, how to relax, how to wake up, how to focus on me, and how not to forget that I have an obligation to myself to be healthy enough to be effective.

This year has been the most impactful year that I have had to date. I’ve acquired so much new knowledge of Yahweh and myself. I’ve grown in my relationship with Him and with me. All of which has made me more effective in my marriage, friendships, business, and ministry. In less than 12 months I’ve reached a level of intimacy with Christ that I never knew I could, I learned my true identity, my purpose was born, I faced my greatest fear, my marriage completely leaped in progression, I started a business, I fell out of agreement with things and people that blocked my spiritual growth. For the first time in my life, I finally started living intentionally and with purpose.

Thank you, Yahweh. 2018 Blessed Me.