What Happens When We Apply Pressure?

Good Afternoon my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. We are a few days post my usual Self-Care Sunday blog. Seems I’ve been transitioning out of the routine of posting every Sunday. Needless to say, behind the scenes of blogging I’ve had my hand in a few other projects. My last post talked about the foundations of a Christian Holistic Lifestyle. To sum it up it’s the decision one makes to live whole in all aspects of life. Spiritually, Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically. I provided some ideas useful for promoting more activity in those 4 areas daily. I pray they helped all of you who are interested in shifting the way you’ve chosen to live.

This past week I found myself feeling off balanced. In the past when this feeling would come over me I would resort to things or activities to make myself “feel better.” Fast forward to the present day I’m more interested in acknowledging an unsteady emotion while discovering the trigger behind it. This week I couldn’t figure out the trigger immediately. What caused me to be in a state of “Blah?” One thing I know is we can be so close to a situation we can’t see what’s in front of us. I spoke to my Spiritual Mentor and she brought clarity to my clouded emotion. With her wisdom, we were able to pinpoint a trigger of mine. Goals! Expectations! Time!

Have you ever heard the phrase, “I’m my worse critic?” Truly, this is something God is healing me from daily. I no longer bash myself verbally like I once did. However, the pressure I place on myself to produce in a certain time frame doesn’t always align with God’s timing. The pressure was my adversary in the unbalanced emotional state I felt earlier this week. I realized even though I’m growing I can’t speed up the process of my growth. With all my goals and visions there is a time and season for them to fully bloom. The Bible depicts this concept as seed, time, and harvest. I believe most of us throw the towel in right when the “time” portion exceeds what we had in mind.

This was it! I subconsciously started to feel defeat, because I realized the journey ahead of me wasn’t instantaneous. I understood in order for me to operate in the fullness of who God created me to be would take more TIME. We spend so much of our life living how we want then expect God to expedite our journey to our purpose. Reflecting, I’m not sure I really conceptualized what it would take to undo all the layers of who I chose to be before I gave myself to Christ. With each growth spurt, I experienced an additional discovery of hidden triggers. Who I was all those years produced layers of chaos and as they are exposed God is correcting each layer.

I had a dream a few nights ago. My local Pastor spoke to me saying,” You are in a state of Corrective Chaos.” When I opened my eyes I looked up the definition of both words. I had this revelation: Corrective Chaos is the state in which God corrects or counteracts complete disorder and confusion. The Holy Spirit calmed my uneasiness immediately. Jesus is correcting EVERY chaotic thing associated with me and my history. This is why I couldn’t speed up the process. He was undoing what I had done while allowing me to grow in my newness. My instruction during this time was to endure the process, have compassion for who I was, and fall in love with who I’m becoming. Thank you, Jesus.

Perhaps you’re on your journey to purpose and find yourself applying pressure where it isn’t needed. Maybe you’re growing weary in your well-doing. If so, I want to encourage you. I want you to stop applying pressure in the places God is correcting. One thing I know about working under pressure is you’ll never produce optimally. If you operate in a state of pressure you lose the clarity, and wisdom needed for the task. It’s time to stop pressuring yourself to produce a harvest out of season. It will NEVER happen. So take a deep breath. Listen to what God is telling you. Most importantly, endure the process, have compassion for who you were, and fall in love with who you’re becoming. Blessings!

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

Galatians 6:9

Unintentionally Inspiring

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. Guess what? I’m doing a mid-week check-in with you guys. I know you’re used to my Sunday post, but I like to switch things up sometimes. I pray you’ve spent your week thus far living intentionally and with purpose. I was having a conversation with my husband this morning, and he said something I felt would inspire you. Taking into consideration our personal conversation I will share my takeaway versus the actual ins and outs of what we spoke about. As always I pray it causes you to self-reflect and adjust where needed. Blessings.

I started my relationship journey with Jesus Christ a little over a year ago. From this journey of “self-mastery,” my company was born and so was this blog. Growing in Christ I started thinking and processing things differently. I understood the way I lived my life accompanied by the mindsets I learned from people were my default setting. Ultimately, they weren’t how God intended me to operate. Needless to say, I grew. I developed new habits, new mindsets, new processes. I began operating my life with more intent and purpose. One thing I do often is daily self-evaluations. Asking myself several questions. Is what I’m doing growing me? Is it pushing towards God? Is it challenging me to be better?

Even when it comes to my level of influence I find myself always surveying. Asking am I helping grow the person I’m in connection with? Am I pushing them towards God? Am I challenging them to be better without being overbearing? One thing I’ve learned is when you begin changing who people know you to be they notice. They silently watch, wait, and take note to the newness of you. Some of those people will meet you at the level they’re comfortable at or rise to the occasion of new discovery. It’s up to us to evaluate the value they bring and decide if we’re able to provide them with our new found value.

Whether someone gives you accolades about your growth or not you have to know they’re watching. You have to know God has attached certain people to your ministry, your purpose, and your life. Delay in your growth places a delay in theirs. So how can you be of influence? Easy! Never stop growing. Never stop challenging yourself to be better. Never stop seeking direction from God. The way we live our life has three effects on people we’re connected to. It will keep them stagnant, set them on a backward spiral towards their default setting or push them into greatness. Which role do you want in the lives of those connected to you?

To be “Unintentionally Inspiring” means choosing to live your life at a level of greatness for yourself; causing people to be inspired enough to go after their own greatness. Yes, I made that up. Lol. It’s what it means to me. Before I am anything to anyone I have to be everything to myself. People who knew me can’t recognize me now. They aren’t supposed too. We all should be at a constant state of evolving. Every day I make it a point to be better than the day before. Every day I’m challenging myself to do something I haven’t done. Learn something I didn’t know. I encourage the people in my circle to strive for greatness for them, and not for anyone else.

I challenge you to ask yourself, “What role do I want to have in the lives of those connected to me?” Do you want to keep them stagnant, set them backward, or push them towards greatness? The way you choose to live your life determines the role you will serve in the lives of others. There’s no escaping it. Whether you want to or not you have the power of unintentional influence. There are too many people watching you. So choose to be GREAT. Blessings.


“You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.”

Matthew 5:14-16

Mindful Moment – You’re A Winner

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve been living intentionally and with purpose. For today’s “Mindful Moment” I want to ask you one simple question. What are you afraid of? Often times we count ourselves out before we even put forth the effort to try to accomplish the goal. We spend so much time worrying about failing that we forfeit the opportunity to actually win. In every situation, there’s an opportunity for a win. If you try something new and fail. It’s a WIN. Now you know what’s not for you. If you do something outside of your comfort zone. It’s a WIN. You’ve overcome fear. If your family or friends don’t support your vision. It’s a WIN. Your vision is too big for them to fathom. What’s the worst thing that can happen? You Winning? Don’t allow your doubt or fear to get in the way of your opportunity to WIN. I encourage you to face every moment with a winning mindset. No matter what the outcome is I guarantee you’ll get a win. Blessings.

The only shot missed is the one not taken.

Don’t Let Your Ego “Edge God Out”

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. Can you believe January is already over? How are you guys doing with your 2019 goals? Have any adjustments happened with your vision for this year? They have for me. Lol. The overall vision is the same but the path in which it’ll happen has slightly changed. With thirty-three days in the books Yahweh has already slowed me down. Many of you know I finished my Vision Board a week or so before the new year. My goals cosisted of growth in my relationship with Christ, my marriage, my brand, this blog, and a list of other ventures. The more I attempted to reach these deadlines that I set for myself God was directing my attention to the journey that has to happen before I reach the destination. I guess you can say my EGO was getting the best of me.

I was listening to a podcast the other day and the guy referenced his EGO getting in his way. Now I’m not someone who relishes in my own accomplishments. All glory be to God for anything that he has strengthened me through or allowed me to obtain. As the podcast continued he mentions that a pastor told him that when we have a big EGO we are essentially “Edging God Out.” #MindBlown Had I Edged God Out in my bedazzled Vision Board and 2019 Goals? Couldn’t have I thought. I mean He is in the midst of every goal that I have for this year. The more I talked to Yahweh about it He began to reveal to me how my EGO was getting in the way.

Even though my vision was from God I didn’t account for the time needed to prepare for the vision. I started the process but had no expectation of the next steps which left me doing what I thought was necessary. I was leaning on my own understanding. Even for God’s glory. I found myself making all these plans that glorify God but in the same moment, I was edging him out of my preparation process. There is nothing in this world that we will do that doesn’t require seed, time and harvest. If God has planted a seed in you there is no skipping the “time” that is needed before the harvest.

In due season, what is planted inside of you will grow. Continue to allow God to cultivate you through the process.

Maybe Christ has given you a vision to write a book, start a credit repair business, an apparel shop, or become a life coach. There is absolutely no way to bypass the necessary journey that you have to take in order to flourish in your God-Given area. There are levels that require our participation as we are on our journey to becoming who we were created to be.

You can find preparation thorughout the bible,

“Put your outdoor work in order
    and get your fields ready;
    after that, build your house.”

Proverbs 24:26

So what’s the takeaway? Start. God has given you a vision for your life then start. Start the process and allow Yahweh to guide you through each and every step. God isn’t our phone a friend when we are stuck. His place is in front of us before we even make the step. I spoke about being in the process of writing my first book. I had the opportunity of attending a Master Class that focused on “Writing Your First Book & Self-Publishing.” I learned so much that I had no idea about prior to taking the class. The knowledge was necessary as I journey to becoming a first-time author. Don’t allow your EGO to Edge God Out of your preparation process. Blessings.

Create! Just remember to include Christ in the process.

Update: I went to a Christian Women’s Bible Study last night and it truly was a release for me. I really underestimated how much I missed being able to fellowship with other Women of God. Right at the end, they asked us to write down what we were hearing from God. He simply told me, “Go and be free TRULY Tiffany.” It was as if I still had a spec of my past self in my heart and in that moment Yahweh released me from it. Glory be to God.

Also, I just booked my first speaking engagement of the year. I am so honored and excited about the event. The subject, “There is Beauty in The Vision.” What a befitting topic. Details coming soon. Love you with the love of the Lord.

Mindful Morning

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I don’t normally write a blog this early in the morning but I’m so full with God’s Holy Spirit that I had to write about it. The past few days I’ve continued to hear and see the same message. All having to do with living out your purpose. I am someone who still works a 9-5 but is transitioning into becoming a full-time entrepreneur. I know that this year is my year of preparation for that transition. I attended a Masterclass Tuesday evening. “How To Write & Self-Publish A Book.” For those who don’t know I am currently working on my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to build a relationship with God. I’m completely honored for the vision that Christ has given me for the project and can’t wait till it comes out.

So what does this have to do with you? I’m glad you asked. God created every single one of us with a purpose. There is a special work in you that is instrumental to the Kingdom of God. It is our business to find out what that work is then complete it. There is someone waiting for you to write that book, start that business, become that Doctor, obtain that License. Whatever the call is on your life know that it is bigger than you. Don’t hold up someone’s deliverance because you refuse to be who you were created to be. I want us all to win. So go be great! After all, you were created to dwell in greatness.

Today, I challenge you to do more for your purpose. If you already know God’s purpose for your life then invest in it. Take a class, network with people in that field, supplement leisure time for more time in your calling. Find a balance but definitely increase your efforts if need be. I love you with the love of the Lord. I can’t wait to see the things you’ll accomplish for the Kingdom of God.

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