Mindful Moment – God Can

Great Morning my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. This week is coming to a close. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. This morning I want to leave you with a thought. Think about the most outrageous goal you have. Really think about it. For some of us the goal may be to have a globally successful Christian business. Others it may be traveling the entire world or becoming the largest resource for women to find their God given purpose. No matter how far the reach of our goals is know that God’s abilities surpass our grandest thoughts. He reaches places we can’t imagine having access too. If you’ve ever limited the idea of where you can go, who you can be, or the influence of what you can do. I’m here to tell you, STOP LIMITING GOD. He takes us where we can’t go on our own. He already placed the best version of us inside of us. He told us He made us in His image. His word says, “we rule over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals on the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground.” Which means we came out the womb with authority and influence.

I challenge you to retrain your thought process. When you’re connected to Jesus Christ you’re connected to the ultimate source. There’s nothing too hard for God. Next time you pray do it with authority. Decree and declare (whatever the outrages goal) it’s mine, I shall have it, it belongs to me. Remember, God CAN. Blessings!

Mid-Week Check-In

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. As always I pray you’ve spent the beginning of the week living intentionally and with purpose. I wanted to pop in mid-work week to check-in with you all. We haven’t done a “Self-Check” in a while. If you’re new to my blog take a moment to reference my previous post about performing a spirit self-check here: Check Yourself Post

How are you feeling? What’s going in your world? What are your priorities looking like? The last few days Yeshua has shown me where He needs to be positioned in my life. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in work, family, school, and ministry. Even if we are operating in those avenues under the direction of the Lord it doesn’t replace the fact that He should always be our first priority. I’m learning that my hour long morning bible study and journal time is no longer sufficient for my relationship with Christ. It’s become more than just spending time in His word. I’m now desiring to spend time talking to Him separate from my personal bible study. He is showing me that there are levels of intimacy with Him, and I’m approaching a new level.

My mid-week check-in is peaceful and productive. My priorities are on par with Christ and are about to shift once again. I’m learning the various areas that I can worship Yeshua throughout my day. I’m understanding that spending time in His word is only one way of being intimate with Him. Lastly, I’m transitioning into having a daily designated time when I can just talk with Him.

I encourage you to take a moment to do a Self-Check. Examine where you are right now. What is getting your attention? What is your mind focused on? What are you making time for? Have you taken time out of your to-do list to place Jesus at the top? Remember, every answer you’re looking for God already has; check-in with Him regularly. Blessings.

 “Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test? And I trust that you will discover that we have not failed the test.  Now we pray to God that you will not do anything wrong—not so that people will see that we have stood the test but so that you will do what is right even though we may seem to have failed. For we cannot do anything against the truth, but only for the truth. We are glad whenever we are weak but you are strong; and our prayer is that you may be fully restored. This is why I write these things when I am absent, that when I come I may not have to be harsh in my use of authority—the authority the Lord gave me for building you up, not for tearing you down.”

2 Corinthians 13: 5-10

 

Do What You Love

Good evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. If you haven’t listened to my audio about my “Perpetual State of Worship.” Check out my prior post from this week. I pray that it will encourage you to become more cognizant of the time you spend in worship with God.

Today is another edition of Self-Care Sunday. This is my weekly Sunday post where I get to provide further insight and tips on how to become more conscious of your ability to self-care. In the past, my posts have typically dealt with our state of mind and allowing God to lead us in our lives. As a baseline, all my posts will be intertwined with growing in God then building upon that relationship. Now that we’ve got that disclaimer out the way let’s talk Self-Care.

I love to write! I can’t tell you when I started writing but I have journals that are 20 years old. When I write I pour everything I’m feeling into what I’m writing. It brings me happiness, it relaxes me, it’s a great stress reliever, and it comes naturally. When I was praying for God to reveal to me what this weeks Self-Care Sunday post should be about; He told to write about what I love to do. He told me to ask His people, “What is it they love to do and does that thing edify Him?” I can remember a time that I use to love to drink alcohol and party. It provided no lasting fulfillment, but every weekend I was out with my girls. Even in the midst of my emptiness I always found myself writing. From poetry, songs, blog posts, and soon to be books writing is what I love to do.

Self-Care is about investing in yourself. Your inner self first then in all other areas. When was the last time you spent time doing something that you love to do that was just about you? Not you and your friends. Not you and work. Not you and you’re significant other. Just you and the thing that you inherently love to do. Don’t forget to ask yourself does it edify God?

The more I grow in Christ I understand that the thing that I love to do so much that is natural to me is a gift God gave me. Even though it brings me so much joy and satisfaction it ultimately isn’t just for me. My love of writing is my God-given contribution to the Kingdom. When He told me to ask you does what you love to do edify Him. He wanted us to gain perspective. When Christ gives you an ability He expects that ability to grow. When cultivated properly not only will it grow you but it will grow those who come into contact with you. Ask yourselves, “Does what you love to do grow you and those around you? Or does what you love to do prevent growth within yourself and others around you?”

The word of God says,

So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors, and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.

(Ephesians 4:11-13)

This means that we were all given a gift to do something. God is so gracious that He allows the gift He placed on the inside of us to also be the thing that we love to do. When you love to do something it isn’t a chore. It’s the thing that you will invest in, the thing that will build you, and grow you. It’s the thing that will change the lives of people who come in contact with you. Your gift is impactful. Your ability to do it is unlike anyone else. It was specifically planted on the inside of you and is awaiting the opportunity to be birthed and grow. God sent me here to tell you, “Don’t allow life issues to stop the growth of what He planted on the inside of you.” Develop that thing that you inherently love to do that edifies Christ. Invest your time in it. Allow it to blossom. Don’t hold up someone else deliverance by your stubbornness to not grow what God gave you. When you do that you are forfeiting your right to be connected to the vine.

The Bible tells us,

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me?

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from m,e, you can do nothing. If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.

(John 15:1-8)

Have you been cut from the vine, because you’re choosing to not grow your God-given gift? If so, I challenge you to reconnect to the vine, which is Jesus. Dig deep. As Him to reveal to you what He placed on the inside of you. Maybe you have been so estranged from the Father that you can’t remember what that thing is. Ask Him to restore your gift. As you seek Him more He will do what you asked. When He does don’t miss the opportunity to grow the gift He planted. Remember, we all have a gift. Yours is unlike anyone else. No one can do it like you. The Kingdom is waiting for you to do what you love to do. This is your sign to do it. Blessings.

My Perpetual State of Worship

I heard the Lord say, “Perpetual State of Worship” as I was in worship this morning. Perpetual means never ending, everlasting, eternal, undying. I know you’re wondering how can I worship God all day? Worship isn’t just an intimate moment with our Father where we are crying out to Him during prayer. We worship Him in our obedience to His word. We worship Him when we follow His directions. We worship Him when we repent for our sins and turn from them. We worship Him by putting Him first in our lives.

This morning in my prayer and study time He was speaking to me while simultaneously giving me a vision. He began to show me the beauty inside of me. This beauty was my spirit blossoming in Him.  I’ve recorded an audio that I’ve placed at the bottom of this post. It’s me talking about my worship experience with Christ. As always I pray that it causes you to reflect and examine yourself. Allow God to become your first priority, because you’re His priority. Blessings!

This week’s Moment Of Mindfulness task is to develop a perpetual state of worship for Jesus Christ. 

 

What Are You Committed To?

Thanks for stopping by this week’s Self-Care Sunday Post. Before you read press play and take a listen.

In May of this year, Yeshua told me that I needed to change my priorities and commitments. He gave me a list in the following order of importance:

  1. My relationship with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Understanding that at the root of me you would now find the presence of God.
  2. My covenant with my husband. Knowing that we made the biggest commitment to each either when we chose to commit to God.
  3. My level of influence in the Kingdom. Accepting that I will not be the Woman of God who keeps God’s glory to herself. I have an obligation in my position to draw all men and woman to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

These three things were the priorities God gave me. He told me that in order to thrive in these relationships I needed to learn how to commit to them. I needed to become disciplined in order to invest time and be consistent with my commitments. He gave me Matthew 7: 7-8 as my foundation for this journey. The text which reads,

 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.  For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”

This scripture is the cause and effect when we are committed to God. Yeshua told me that if I were to become disciplined and consistent in my relationship with Him that I would find everything that He has for me. Needless to say, I did just as He instructed me to do.

Fast Forward six months and so much has changed in my life. Just last week as I was in morning prayer and Bible study I heard the Lord say, “He is adjusting my values and my list of importance has now changed.”  Immediately following this I heard a pastor say, “the enemy attacks what you value the most. He does it in efforts to get to our Faith in God.” WOW! It made me think about all the things that I valued above my relationship with God. The things that were first prior to the last six months of my life. It made me reflect on how the enemy attacked those things and those relationships. How those attacks affected my Faith in God. I received so much revelation about commitment this week. I came into the understanding that when God is the person you value the most above everything else in your life; the enemy can’t attack that. He can attack our finances, our marriage, our jobs, our business, our faith, but HE CAN’T ATTACK GOD. So if the thing that I value the most is the thing the enemy can’t get too; why wouldn’t I commit to that before anything else?

What have you valued more than the Lord? Is it social media, relationships, money, appearance, gossip, people, recreational activities? Yeshua wants the first fruits from us. That’s our best. What have you been giving your best too over God? Get your pen and paper. Let’s write it down. Now that you have your list let me walk you through a few definitions before I share how I became committed.

  • Self-Discipline is the ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weakness; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it.
  • Value is the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
  • Consistent is unchanging in nature, standard, or effect over time.
  • Commitment is the willingness to give your time and energy to something you believe in, or a promise, or firm decision to do something.

One thing that I learned about self-discipline is that it’s a decision. We have to decide if our weaknesses will continue to control us or will we control our weaknesses? I understood that I can only find the strength to become self-disciplined in Yeshua. So the base of my success was contingent upon my commitment to God. Here’s how I went from putting everything and everyone before God. To putting Him first and completely altering my life.

  1. I was tired of the trauma from my past spilling over into every area of my life. My past was prevalent in my now, and I didn’t want to live with it anymore. So I made a decision to seek God wholeheartedly. It caused me to expose areas that I was trying to hide, but in the end, God fixed what was broken. It was hard but His grace and mercy towards me reigned. Now my life, marriage, and my level of influence have forever changed.
  2. I changed my priorities. If I was going to put God first then that looked like something. Every morning I get up at 4am to spend an hour in prayer and Bible study. I do this seven days a week. Throughout my day I find moments to give God praise. I pray, read the word, listen to sermons, and journal often. I had to edit what I was allowing my ears to hear, my eyes to see, and my mind to think. I invested time with the Father before I invested time in anything or anyone else. Doing these things showed me how to form a habit of discipline, consistency, and commitment. Understand that if you can become disciplined and consistent in your relationship with Yeshua then you can become disciplined and consistent in anything.
  3. I got comfortable with the fact that as I became committed to God I was going to fall out of agreement with things and people. I gave up some “friendships” when I became committing to God. My interest changed, my thought process changed, my values changed. Some of those old relationships were no longer conducive to who I was becoming in Christ. To be honest, the more I grew the more I saw I didn’t really like certain things that I thought I did at one point.
  4. I didn’t stop when things got tough. This journey is a life-long journey. Submitting to Yeshua is something that you have to know that you will be doing the rest of your life. In doing so, every illegal spirit that has been lying dormant in your life will come up and come out. You’ll have to revisit some hurtful moments, but God is a healer. You’ll have to let some people go, but He’s a friend. You’ll have to relinquish your comfort, but He’s a great comforter. You’ll have to put all your trust in Him, but He’s faithful. When you think you’re losing everything on your journey you’re really gaining more than you could imagine.

To sum it all up I had to get tired of living an unpurposeful life, I had to change my priorities, I had to give up my life so that I could gain life, and I didn’t give up my pursuit of growing in my relationship with Yeshua when things became tough.

If your priorities are out of order and you lack commitment to Christ I challenge you to take a stand for yourself. Lack of self-discipline and commitment is a lack of self-care. Don’t you know that God desires to take care of you and show you how to take care of yourself? Don’t spend another day living life with no structure. You will only find transformation in your ability to commit to the Father. Once you do then you’ll truly be able to tap into everything that God has for you. Blessings.

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Am I in Proper Position?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. As we continually grow in our knowledge of self-care I’m learning the importance of being in proper position. I know that our understanding of proper positioning may have been planted in us as children. Sometimes our life experiences form our belief in the way we think, who we are, and what we should be doing. Ultimately, we only find proper positioning in Christ. Self-Care is all about ensuring that you are intentional about yourself in a way that allows you to function at your highest capacity. If you’re practicing good self-care, then you should be in proper position in every area of your life. I want to spend this time walking you through my own experience in getting into proper position. My prayer is that it will provide insight to you while you are yet on your journey to being positioned properly.

So often we think the enemy is attacking us. Dealing with infertility for several years now. I often felt as if he was attacking my body to prevent me from having children. As I grow in God; He continues to give me understanding regarding the birthing process. I was in worship this morning I heard God say, “The attack on your body isn’t an attack. It’s your spiritual incubation period.” Yeshua told me that He was using this time to extinguish generational curses from my lineage so that I can carry out the healed legacy that my Mother is currently birthing.”

Incubation is the maintenance of an infant, especially a premature infant, in an environment of controlled temperature, humidity, and oxygen concentration to provide optimal conditions for growth and development. Carry means to support and move from one place to another; to support the weight of.

Yeshua reveals to me daily something new about my Mother. She is the one person in my family who He ordained to shift the trajectory of our legacy. The weight of her purpose is massive. It’s one that she has carried solo for a long time. As I am yet in alignment with Yeshua He is showing me the proper positioning to carry out the vision He gave her for our lineage. A vision that is free from generational curses, sexual immorality, abuse, perversion, incest, molestation, debt, inconsistency, self-sabotaging, disobedience, witchcraft, pride, jealousy, and rebellion. He told me that I couldn’t be in any kind of condition while supporting the weight of the vision. He told me if He had allowed me to birth children when I wanted to I would have undone years of intercessory prayers that went forth for our bloodline.

Culturally we spend so much time worrying about the natural births that we ignore that they should first be cultivated in the spirit. If we spent more time focusing on spiritual incubation we would be in a proper position to produce in a season that has optimal conditions for growth and development. The word of God says,

“For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2

You may be at a point in your life where you feel out of position. If you are unsettled in your mind, relationships, finances, or purpose then you’re probably not in proper position. To shift your life into proper positioning there are a few things you should be meditating on and practicing.

  1. Understand that this life is not your own. God created us all in His image and has placed purpose on the inside of us. Allow Him to reveal your purpose so that you are truly living intentionally and not just existing.
  2. Repent for the things that you’ve done that are not pleasing to Him then turn from those behaviors. God examines our hearts. He wants us to know that with His help we can overcome our past and choose to no longer live without Him again.
  3. Realize that if you’ve made plans, decisions, or moves without the guidance from God then you have placed yourself out of proper position. Once you’ve realized this you have to allow the Holy Spirit to retrain your thought process.
  4. Understand you will never reach the abundance of blessings that Yeshua has for you if you’re choosing to live a life that is disobedient to Him. Disobedience to the Word of God limits and distracts you from reaching blessings, purpose, healing, deliverance, protection, discernment, knowledge, understanding, and wisdom.
  5. Get comfortable with God’s timing. You don’t get to tell God what your timeline is for your life. Your life is already written. He has already formed it. You must get in alignment with His already written timeline.
  6. Proper Position is a lifestyle that requires you to forever be submissive to Yeshua. Whatever you’re looking for you will ONLY find in God. If you choose to live life not submitting to God and His word you will never be in proper position.
  7. Put a value on your relationship with God. This is going to be key from this moment forward. So many of us never valued the importance of having a relationship with Yeshua. We valued our relationships with other people. Parents, boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives, children, money, sex. Everything and everyone except the one who knows and has everything that you will ever need. You must make Him number 1 if you’re going to shift your position.

Self-care and proper positioning go hand in hand. Both things must be directed by the Lord. They both place you in position to operate during the most opportune times. They both give your life meaning. Lastly, they both provide you with ways to live intentionally and with purpose.

I challenge you today to examine your life and pinpoint every plan, decision, and move you’ve made without consulting God. Get a list going. After you’ve completed your list pray and ask Yeshua to reveal to you the effects those decisions had on your life. Take your time. This is an intimate moment between you and the Father. He begins to show you the effects your decisions have had on your life, repent. The single most important relationship you will ever have is your relationship with Yeshua. It’s also the only relationship that exposes you to purpose. Blessings.

 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.  If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.”

James 15: 5-8

Identity

Good afternoon my siblings in Christ. I pray you all have been living intentionally and with purpose. I wanted to put a pin in my current journey and share what’s been going on. I pray you are able to see yourself through my experiences and it encourages you to challenge yourself as you are on your journey to being the best you possible.

IDENTITY! Who are you? This question is one that I’ve been asked more than once in my life. I’m a lot of things. A wife, daughter, sister, friend, college grad, business owner, employee, writer. I am all of these things however these are titles. Though true they don’t define me nor do they give a depiction of who I am. I’m a wife because my husband married me. I’m a daughter because my parents conceived then birthed me. I’m a sister because my parents had additional children. I’m a friend because I’ve invested my time in relationships. I’m a college graduate because I completed school. You get the point, lol. All these things were inherited or obtained through my work ethic.

While on this journey to self-love and self-care you will find yourself at this exact point. The point at which you are so distant from your former self that you no longer recognize who you are. Your past no longer defines you. I’m a survivor of domestic violence. Yeshua protected and graced me to make it through an abusive first marriage. I’m not ashamed of it anymore. I’m healed from it now. I’ve forgiven him and myself. It’s a part of my testimony, but it is not my identity. Identity is defined as the distinguishing character or personality of an individual. It is no longer my character to operate like someone who was abused. On the flip slide, I survived it, and I have been a survivor the majority of my life. So much so that I had to learn how to be a submissive wife to my current husband. So being a survivor isn’t my identity either. So again I ask, “Who are you?”

If you find yourself in this place along your journey. The place that closes a door and opens a new one. Don’t freak out! Lol. It’s perfectly fine that you don’t recognize yourself now that you’ve given your life to God. It’s going to take some time to discover the newness of you. It’s fine to re-evaluate your relationships and friendships at this point. You may even feel the need to step away from some relationships while you’re discovering the new you. If so, it’s ok to do that unless you’re married. (Side note: It is not ok to step away from your marriage, because you’re finding yourself.) I have some people that I’ve considered friends for over a decade and am now at a place that I’ve realized that I don’t know who they are in their current life. As adults who have families, I couldn’t even tell you anything about them and vice versa. It made me think that if our only connection is the past, and I’m no longer living in the past then maybe we don’t have the relationship that we once did. When God comes into your life you fall out of agreement with things and people. Somethings or some people will no longer be familiar to you. I’m not saying to dump all your friends, but take the time to learn who you are as this new man or woman in Christ. Once you’re established in that then seek Him about your relationships.

Fully giving myself to God has me in a place where I don’t recognize who I am since I’ve become a new creature in Him. I know my past and how He has healed me from it. I know how He protected me from my bad decisions and forgave me. Every trait, idea, characteristic, mannerism, and response were wiped away to make room for God’s presence when I gave my life up to live for Him. So what worked for me in the past no longer works for me as a Woman of God. Those things and some people no longer identify with me.

WHO AM I?

I AM A CHILD OF GOD! That I know for sure. As I grow in Him I am learning every day the identity in which He ordained for me. How I think, my character, my morals, and values are all provided by Him not by what I was taught or learned from others. I’m no longer pressed about figuring it all out. I find peace in the fact that I’m intentionally pursuing the one who has already figured it all out for me. Life is no longer about what I have been through, what decisions I made, what others thought about me or what I thought about myself. Life is about discovering the richness of Yeshua. Learning what He had in mind when He created me. Being intentional about loving myself. Thriving in the relationships He established for me. Growing my spirit, spreading the Word of God, and fulfilling my purpose. The more I seek Him the more I find out who I am.

I challenge you to re-evaluate who you are. Do you even know? If not, are you taking the necessary steps to grow in God so that He can reveal it to you? Today is a great day to start if you haven’t already done so. Don’t spend another year, month, week, hour or second allowing your titles to define who you are. Blessings.

“What marvelous love the Father has extended to us! Just look at it—we’re called children of God! That’s who we really are. But that’s also why the world doesn’t recognize us or take us seriously, because it has no idea who He is or what He’s up to.”

“But friends, that’s exactly who we are: children of God. And that’s only the beginning. Who knows how we’ll end up! What we know is that when Christ is openly revealed, we’ll see Him—and in seeing Him, become like Him. All of us who look forward to his Coming stay ready, with the glistening purity of Jesus’ life as a model for our own.”

1 John 3:1-3 The Message (MSG)

Unconditional Self-Love

Good Afternoon my siblings in Christ. I pray you all have been spending your time living intentionally and with purpose. This past week Yeshua has been revealing to me my placement. He’s showing me my roles while providing an understanding of the depths of those roles. I have so many areas that I desire to share with you all, and I will over time. Today, I wanted to touch on unconditional love and it’s placement in my life.

Unconditional love is defined as affection without any limitations, or love without conditions. Biblically, unconditional love is referenced as Agape. I don’t believe I actually understood what unconditional love was until recently. All credit be to Yeshua for my new found understanding. Unconditional love has always been associated with how God loves us, marriage, or being a parent. The idea of having someone love me unconditionally seemed like a fantasy for most of my life. The last several months my relationship with Yeshua has grown and has put somethings into perspective for me.

First, I became aware that I had never loved myself unconditionally. My love for myself was cultivated in wrong thinking, lies, sexual immorality, and self-condemnation. My parents were young when I was born. My grandparents raised me most of my youth and spent a lot of time emphasizing that they were the only ones who loved me. I was a prisoner of my past and that prevented me from seeing the beauty in which God made me. It never even crossed my mind that I had no idea what it meant to love me unconditionally. I had such a distorted vision of love. Especially self-love. I was never taught how to love myself. I was never exposed to an environment that displayed unconditional love. Everything that I had become prior to the discovery of who I was in Christ was rooted in pain.

Second, I became aware that my ability to love myself wasn’t validated through a relationship or activity. I spent the majority of my life searching for validation. I wanted someone or something to love me through my flaws and all. Something that I didn’t think I was capable of doing for myself. When we do that we allow other people or things to dictate our worth. When I didn’t do something that someone liked or I made a bad decision in relationships I adopted their distaste for me and allowed it to become a self-reflection. By doing this I started to form a level of self-hate, and unforgiveness for me. God calls us to see ourselves how he sees us. When we are obedient to His word then He will begin taking the blinders off of us. He will set the standard by which we conduct ourselves, and how we allow people to treat us. He has truly shown me what it means to love my flaws and all. He has shown me that in my position of self-love, and self-forgiveness no one gets to take away from it. He has given me the right to move past my past, and grow as a new creature in Christ. One who knows what it means to love herself, forgive herself, see the beauty in herself, and one who has created the standard in which she is treated. Selah!

Third, I became aware that now I must live my life intentionally, and with purpose. Now that all of these things have been revealed to me I have become intentional about my life. For me being intentional means taking a step back to realize what’s in front of me, praying about my next move, and following the direction of God. I’m not leaning on my own understanding to handle life. I pray for wisdom and guidance continually. In doing so, I am ensuring that I’m under the protection and guidance of the Lord. He gives me clarity and understanding that I wouldn’t have if I were making decisions on my own. When I’m faced with challenging moments He graces me to handle those moments and walks me through the flames without being harmed. I love myself in such a way now that I’ve given my life to Christ it’s not explainable.  My past may come up from time to time. I acknowledge it without guilt or fear. I know what my past looks like, and I’m still worthy through it all.

Psalm 139:14-18 (NLT)

14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
15 You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
16 You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

17 How precious are your thoughts about me,[a] O God.
They cannot be numbered!
18 I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
you are still with me!

Today, I want you to take a step back and acknowledge the level at which you love yourself. Is it unconditional? Do you allow others to validate how you love you? Do you allow others to dictate the point at which you forgive yourself? Has your life shaped your understanding of you? If you’ve answered yes to any of this questions I challenge you to disconnect yourself from the beliefs that are false and plug into God. He will transform you and guide you as you are on your journey to loving yourself unconditionally. Blessings.

 

Check Yourself

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent this week living with purpose and intention. I want you to take the time to perform a Self-Check. I was riding around with my husband last night, and we started talking about our growth as children of God. The conversation led to me explaining how I find myself performing Spiritual Self-Checks to make sure I’m in alignment with the Will of God throughout my daily interactions.

The Word of God says,

“Test and evaluate yourselves to see whether you are in the faith and living your lives as [committed] believers. Examine yourselves [not me]! Or do you not recognize this about yourselves [by an ongoing experience] that Jesus Christ is in you—unless indeed you fail the test and are rejected as counterfeit?” (2 Corinthians 13:5 AMP)

 ‘Therefore, believers, be all the more diligent to make certain about His calling and choosing you [be sure that your behavior reflects and confirms your relationship with God]; for by doing these things [actively developing these virtues], you will never stumble [in your spiritual growth and will live a life that leads others away from sin]; for in this way entry into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ will be abundantly provided to you.” (2 Peter 1:10-11 AMP)

Wow! When I read these two scriptures I had a vision of the Lord standing before me saying, “You are a reflection of me; so act right. You hear me?” Lol. But it’s so true. We are in a relationship with the Father, and how we behave solidifies that relationship. How can two walk together unless they agree? So Yeshua creates a guide in the bible that maps out how we ought to behave in order to confirm a relationship with Him.

Here are some things you can do when performing a Self-Check.

  • Evaluate Your Priorities. Take the time to write out a list of your daily activities. Don’t say God is your number one priority, but you’re not spending time with Him. If you’re at work majority of the time, grab dinner on the way home, watch TV once you get home, squeeze in some family time at the end of your night, then you finish with the Lord’s Prayer. Your list should reflect those activities in that order. Remember, your priorities are the things you’re investing your time in. (Self-Check: Ask yourself where on my priority list does the development of my relationship with Yeshua fall? If He doesn’t fall at the top of your list then start adjusting your daily life around spending time with Him; DO NOT adjust spending time with Him around your daily life.)
  • Be Intentional About Your Responses. You can’t control what people say to you. However, you can control how you respond to people. Working in the healthcare field I am challenged daily with high-intensity situations. More often than not I am bombarded with an overload of tasks. Some that belong to me, and others that don’t. I’ve recently adopted the understanding that “I’m only one person. I can’t do everything, but I Can Do Something.” This mantra allows me to have peace in the midst of chaos.

Let’s Go a Little Deeper. How are you responding to yourself when the enemy tries to torment you in your mind; stirring up memories of your past? When I’m faced with moments like this I have to be intentional about my response. Since he likes to bring up my past I like to bring up my present. He may say, “Don’t forget who you are! Abused, abuser, liar, adulterer, alcoholic, porn addict, worthless, financially irresponsible,  inconsistent, and double-minded.” My response, “Old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. You’re bringing up things that are far from me. Things that I fell out of agreement with a long time ago. I’m not ashamed of who I was, because look at who I am now. I AM free from sexual immorality, truthful, faithful, sober, financially responsible, worthy, consistent, and rooted in God. I was washed by the blood of the lamb. Jesus died for my sins so that I can walk in my freedom. He’s already paid the price for me so I can stand up tall, and relish in my victory. My testimony is the evidence of His greatness.”

Remember, “Therefore if anyone is in Christ [that is, grafted in, joined to Him by faith in Him as Savior], he is a new creature [reborn and renewed by the Holy Spirit]; the old things [the previous moral and spiritual condition] have passed away. Behold, new things have come [because spiritual awakening brings a new life].” 2 Corinthians 5:17

(Self-Check: Are you taking the time to assess your reactions? If not, you ought to start checking yourself. It’s always better to think before you speak.) 

  • Acknowledge How You’re Feeling. You have to stop ignoring your feelings. I spent so many years suppressing my emotional health that it was foreign for me to admit how I felt. Generationally, I was taught that I had to be strong. No matter what was going on in my life I was taught that I had to operate in survival mode. This taught me three things: 1) How to get the job done. 2) How NOT to be successful at communicating. 3) How to ignore my mental and emotional health.

I have struggled my entire life with communicating how I feel. In relationships, I allowed people to treat me any kind of way, because I didn’t acknowledge how I felt. As I become more mindful of me Yeshua is showing me how to acknowledge how I’m feeling while placing those feelings in their appropriate place. You can do the same thing by performing these steps:

“Acknowledging Yourself Checklist”

  1. Ask yourself how you’re feeling.
  2. Acknowledge that it’s ok for you to feel this way. Good or bad.
  3. Establish the reason you’re feeling this way. List these reasons as your triggers.
  4. Discover ways to combat this feeling if the feeling causes you to be in a state of mind that isn’t parallel to how Yeshua requires you to be. (Do this by finding out what the bible says about this feeling.)
  5. Discover ways that will support how you’re feeling if the feeling causes you to be in alignment with the Word of God. (Do this by finding the scriptures that bring you confirmation about how you’re feeling.)
  6. Take the time to put into practice these steps daily.

When you acknowledge how you’re feeling you’re able to be intentional about yourself. You’re able to put your mental health into proper position. You’re able to fix your mind on the solution instead of the problem. You’re able to meditate on what is right which will ultimately direct you towards operating at your highest level of self. (Self-Check: Are you someone who suppresses their feelings? If so, start to acknowledge NOT dismiss them. Once you’ve acknowledged them follow the above 6 steps so that you are able to be purposely in your mental and emotional health.)

As always it’s been great spending this time with you. I pray that you will spend a little extra time “Checking Yourself.” Blessings.

Let’s Talk Lifestyle – Career, Purpose, & Passion

How we choose to live our lives has a huge impact on our purpose. It affects our emotions, our level of success, our relationships, our morals, and standards. Lifestyle is defined as the habits, attitudes, tastes, moral standards, economic level., that together constitute the mode of living of an individual or group. If I had to guess I would think the three most talked about lifestyle decisions are religion, career, and sex. Today I’m going to touch on career.

Growing up it was an unspoken expectation that in order for me to be successful I had to go to college and work for a company that pays me top dollar. There was never a thought to do anything else after high school except go to college. I graduated from high school in 2004. Directly after I traveled hundreds of miles away to continue my education. I was an 18-year-old freshman who like many had no idea what I wanted my major to be. So I tried a few. Social Work, Nursing, English, Cosmetology, and Sociology to name a few. I finally completed my degree in Business Administration Human Resource Concentration 14 years after my initial stent out of high school. Don’t judge. Lol. There was a 10-year life gap in-between high school, and me deciding to go back to school to finish my degree. My graduation day was really special to me. I finally completed something that I was expected to complete well over 10 years ago, and even though it took me so long I did it. No one could take that away from me. My family was proud. I was proud. It even inspired my Mother to go back to school to finish her degree.

Post-graduation there wasn’t a smooth transition into my degree field. I’m still not working in my degree field. I know that this is something that many people deal with after graduating from college. I know some people with Master degrees that are not in their field of study. So I had to have a conversation with Jesus. He led me to something that ultimately answered my questions. The response was so profound to me that it completely changed the trajectory of how I choose to live my life now, as well as, what I will be doing in my purpose. Below are a few tips to think about when it comes to being intentional about what you will be doing for the rest of your life.

  1. Seek the Lord. Be relentless in your pursuit. 

The bible says,  For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11. He already has the plans for your future. I wonder how many of us would have saved so much time had we just pursued the one who had the blueprint for our lives. The more I sought after my relationship with Christ. The more He began to reveal to me the plans He had for my life.  I had to underline the last couple of sentences because you need to understand that this is the benefit to a relationship. Jesus says,” you come close to me and I’ll come close to you.” Don’t get me wrong He loves us regardless even when we haphazardly pursue Him. However, there is something about our willingness to be obedient to Him that opens up doors to our purpose. Continue seeking Him, and follow the blueprint. (Tip: Make sure your plans are the same plans that the Lord has for you.)

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2. Understand the difference between a career and your purpose.

Career is defined as an occupation undertaken for a significant period of a person’s life and with opportunities for progress. Purpose is defined as the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. 

I don’t know about you, but my spirit got excited when I finally made a distinction between my career path versus the path that was purposed for me. I was raised to give life to a career, and not my purpose. The Lord literally showed me that I was living to work for someone else’s vision. Not that I couldn’t be impactful in that atmosphere, but that it was not something that should be taking up a significant period of my life. He purposed me to own a business that connects biblical principle and self-care. He revealed to me that in order to be the best version of His creation I had to understand that as it is natural it is also spiritual. That self-care happens from the inside to the outside, and that he had purposed me to help others to make the distinction so that they can be their best in the kingdom. When he showed me that I made a decision to no longer follow a career, but to breathe life into what I was created to do. My purpose is the very reason why I exist. It’s my contribution to the kingdom, and it was made just for me. (Tip: NEVER compare your purpose to someone else’s. Even if they’re in the same industry as you. God made you unlike anyone else, and your portion is just as significant to the kingdom as your brothers/sisters in Christ)

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3. Work your PASSION. Faith without works is DEAD.

Now that you’ve sought the Lord. (Tip: Don’t stop seeking Him after he takes you to a new place. Keep seeking Him intentionally. Never stopping.) He’s revealed to you what your purpose consists of; it’s time to Work Your PASSION. One definition of passion is “intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or conviction.” When people try to figure out what they will be doing for the rest of their life you will often hear people ask them “what are passionate about?” They’re looking for the thing or act that drives you to continue to master it or grow in it. For some their passion may be to sing, write, build, play video games, repair credit, motivate others. Whatever area you thrive in naturally is worth you going to God in prayer to seek counsel to confirm if this is where you find purpose. If He’s already shown you your purpose then it’s time to put in work for you’re passion. You know the difference between doing something you’re passionate about vs something you’re not. Your level of desire to still pursue it when obstacles come your way. When you’re not passionate about something, and obstacles come your way. You’re fighting to overcome those obstacles isn’t as impactful as it would be if it were something that you were drawn to be connected too. Have faith in God in your passion, and work it. (Tip: Continually perfect your craft. Breathe life into it. Seek God first. He knows your next step in the blueprint.)

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Find your purpose. Allow Jesus to be your first decision when journeying towards your purpose. Stop living for someone else’s vision, and live for the vision God has given you. Father God under the sound of my voice I decree that the blueprint for everyone who’s reading this post vision will manifest itself. I pray that as they live intentionally for you that you will transform their lifestyle. I pray that they will willingly surrender everything and everyone that combats who and what you’ve purposed them to do. I pray that you will open doors no man can open, and close doors no man can close. I pray that their plans begin to come into alignment with your plans for their lives. I pray that they will fall out of agreement with their flesh. I pray that their lifestyle will be one that is pleasing to you. Lord, you’re able to do it. In faith, it’s already done. In Jesus name, Amen.

Live on purpose people of God. Blessings.

 

 

 

Be Intimate Intentionally

This evening I was worshiping Jesus as I routinely do in my prayer space at home, and He showed me that I was being intimate with Him intentionally. When I wake up in the morning the first thing that I do is grab my phone, and read the bible from my YouVersion app. After that, I pray. I give thanks to the Lord, I pray for my husband, my family, friends, and whomever else He has put on my heart to intercede for. Then I get up and start my day. When I arrive at home in the evening after having dinner, and relaxing with my husband I spend time with the Lord. I read my bible. I meditate on what I read. I allow Him to highlight the portions of the scriptures I read, and I put a mental pin in it. Then I take time to journal. After that, I go to my prayer space. I cover my head with my prayer cloth and I worship Jesus Christ. I don’t ask for anything. I don’t pray for anyone. I just spend time worshiping Him in all his glory. More often than not I find myself crying out in the midst of worship because He’s been so GREAT to me.

So this evening as I was routinely in worship He said, “you are intimate with me intentionally.” Intimate is defined as closely acquainted; familiar, close, private and personal. Intimacy is defined as a private cozy atmosphere. When I’m intimate with Jesus it’s my time to bare all the private things that I don’t want anyone else to know about. It’s my time to bare my shame in front of him. It’s my time to be vulnerable, and submissive to Him. It’s my time to lay at his feet, and offer myself to Him. It’s my time to die to my flesh so that His spirit can LIVE in me. During my intimate time, He loves on me. He comforts me. His spirit wraps himself around me. He builds me up. He fills me with his compassion. He loves me as I am. He believes in who He created.

Every night I find myself in awe during my intimate time with the Lord. He loved me when no one else did. He protected me when no one else would. He valued me when I didn’t value myself. He was with me when I thought I was alone. He was, is, and always will be mindful of me.

In order to “Be Intentional,” you have to start with your relationship with Christ. If you have not purposed in your mind that you are nothing without Him you will never reach the level of love, peace, joy, success, or fulfillment that you seek. You have to make a decision that you’re going to “Be Intimate Intentionally” when you go before Him. There is nothing that you’ve done that the Lord doesn’t already know about. There is nothing that you’ve done that He hasn’t already forgiven you for. Don’t you know that YOU belong to HIM? Don’t you know that He died so that you can have life. Who else do you know loves that way?

I am standing in agreement with you this evening that from this moment forward you will BE INTIMATE INTENTIONALLY WITH JESUS. That when you go to Him in worship you will let it all hang out. Shame, guilt, worthlessness, pride, jealousy, envy, promiscuity, rage, defeat, boastfulness, heaviness, sickness, disease, sabotage, and you will deliberately kill your flesh so that His spirit can live in places within you that are preventing you from thriving. In Jesus name, Amen.

Tonight, take time to meditate on His word. Make a mental note of what He’s pointing out to you. Remember, Be Intimate Intentionally. Blessings.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

“Christ died for us so that, whether we are dead or alive when he returns, we can live with him forever.” 1 Thessalonians 5:10

“Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.” John 15:4

“If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.” Matthew 10:39

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Be Intentional

To be intentional means, “you are purposeful in word and action. It means you live a life that is meaningful and fulfilling. It means you make thoughtful choices in your life. Being intentional means you actively interact and engage with your life.”

God has placed the words Be Intentional in my spirit for a few weeks now. I’ve continued to hear daily that I need to Be Intentional in my relationships, in my nutrition, in my purpose, in my work, in my thoughts, in what I’m feeding my spirit, in my writing. Basically, in every area of my life. He has required me to transform from who I was to who I am in Him. That task alone requires a level of intent that I previously didn’t possess. When I think about being intentional I think of the ability to make choices. Will I continue this relationship with this person who leads me away from Yeshua’s instruction when I know that path leads to destruction. Will I continue to eat certain foods when I have high blood pressure. Will I continue to ask God to show up when I need something, but won’t invite Him into every other area of my life. 32 years on this earth and I now know that my intentions for myself, my relationships, my health, my finances, my values, my purpose, and my integrity have all been malicious.

Now malicious may sound harsh, but hear me out. The word of God says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in ALL your ways submit to him, and HE will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5‭-‬6 NIV

HE will make your paths straight. Not you. Not me. HE WILL MAKE YOUR PATHS STRAIGHT. I spent my entire life leaning on my own understanding not submitted to God. How are you able to have pure intentions in your life without seeking God for His direction first? How are you able to walk in the fullness of your life without consulting the one who orchestrated your path to victory? I had no idea what I was doing with my life, my relationships, my health, my finances, my purpose, my values until I stopped trying to take the position of God.

Mindful of Me Moments was birthed from the revelation that God was mindful of me when I wasn’t mindful of myself. He loved me when I hated me. HE was INTENTIONAL about ME. Through my deliberate surrendering to Him; He transformed my malicious intentions into how He intended me to see myself. I had no idea what living my best life was until I gave up my life to live for God.

So I am currently on this journey of understanding the depths of Being Intentional in every area of my life. He reveals them to me I’m writing them down. I’m being obedient to his instruction. I’m walking down the path that He has made. Living my life humbling serving my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ Intentionally. Getting a complete understanding of the Woman of God He ordained me to be.

Remember, God has always had you in mind. There is nothing that can separate you from the love of God. He loves all his children. Don’t allow tormentors to distract you from the fact that you are not alone, you are worth it, or the fact that it’s never too late to surrender your life so that you can have life. Take the time today to evaluate what areas in your life you haven’t given to God. Be intentional about adjusting them, and understand that if you’re leaning on your own understanding you’re not truly walking toward the path of victory. Blessings.

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Romans 8:38‭-‬39 NIV

The Importance of Having a Prayer Space in Your Home

Developing a prayer life with God is going to be the single most important thing you can ever do. It is through prayer, and supplication that we are able to break free from bondage and be a new person in Christ. A person who is intentional, and has a purpose to win in life. I grew up with a Prayer Warrior Mother. My Mom is a Pastor, Prophetess, Author, Wife, Mother of 6, Sister, and Friend. She would pray throughout the house warring on our behalf. It wasn’t until my early twenties when she had a designated “War Room.”

I’m probably one of the few people who have yet to see, “War Room.” The movie encourages a couple whose marriage is failing to find happiness through prayer. Through prayer, they are able to develop prayer strategies that transform their lives. As a married woman myself, I know first hand that without developing a prayer life, and having faith in the Lord my marriage would not be thriving how is it. Recently, I was led to make a designated prayer space in my home. I didn’t have an additional room so I chose an area in my bedroom. I have my head covering, a chair, stand for my bible, and journals in this space. Now I pray throughout my home, but I felt it was important to have a space that was just for Yeshua and I. A place that I could really be intimate with Him and meditate on His word. The space has become a pillar in my everyday prayer life. I’ve become extremely Intentional about spending time there because it’s where I get direction for everything that I do.

If you’re yearning to grow in your relationship with God. If you’re desiring peace in your mind or healing in your life it’s important that you have a place where you can be intimate with God. A place that is free from distractions. A place where you can be completely transparent in your prayer life. Prayer changes things. It’s through your faith in God while you’re praying that you and your situation will begin to transform.

Be Intentional in your prayer time with God. Designate a special place that is especially for you and Him. While you’re there take the time to meditate on the following verses that teach us about prayer. Blessings.

“But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” Matthew 6:6 NIV

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6 NIV

“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”
Mark 11:24 NIV

“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
1 Thessalonians 5:16‭-‬18 NIV

What It Means to Be Mindful

Welcome my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. I am so happy that you’ve stopped by Mindful of Me Moments. If you know the Lord then you’re already aware that NOTHING just happens. You being here is a divine meeting. As you journey through my blog I pray that you’re able to gain clarity into the importance of being Intentional in your decision making, self-care, and ability to self-love.

To be Mindful is all about your ability to be Intentional. You’ll find several posts that will provide you with insight on how to live intentionally, discover your purpose, establish healthy relationships, move forward from your past, commit to your self-development along with the opportunity to shop for gifts that promote everything self-care. The health of your mind, body, and spirit are a necessity. Our goal at Mindful of Me Moments, LLC is to equip God’s people with the necessary tools for self-awareness and growth in order to live a life of purpose. Look around the blog, check out our features, and shop with us. Blessings!

REMEMBER, there is a God who is mindful of you and who loves you even in your darkest moments. Thank you for being here. Enjoy. Blessings.