Some of us have been in relationships with people or things that cut off our ability to have a voice. Feeling like no one hears us. Being taught to be quiet about things that have happened in our past. Being ridiculed by someone when we speak. Giving power and authority to our negative thoughts which bring silence. Being fearful to say what God has shown us. Scared to tell someone when we need help. Taking verbal abuse from others. Allowing those around us to speak death in our lives. Worrying about what people will think if we open our mouths to praise Jesus.
Don’t you know there are life and death in the power of the tongue? Your gift is in your voice. I don’t know who I’m talking to, but I hear the Holy Spirit. If you could just speak with your mouth your circumstance would change.Your silence will be the thing that welcomes hinderance if you don’t start speaking.
You have to know our voices have power. Think about this… Our God in the book of Genesis created the heavens and earth with His VOICE. He SPOKE it and it existed. If we were made in His image and likeness. Wouldn’t He give us the same ability to speak something and it then exists? The problem is we don’t believe the power God placed inside of us. We have too much doubt and fear. Even though the Bible tells us, those aren’t spirits of God.
My brother and my sister in Christ. It’s time to speak up. You shall have what you say. If you say nothing you will have nothing. If you speak doubt and fear you will continue to have doubt and fear. If you repeat the negativity which was spoken over your life you will cultivate it. The enemy will continue to poison your purpose if you don’t start speaking life. Your healing is in your ability to speak it. Your breakthrough is in your ability to speak it. Your deliverance is in your ability to speak it. There are visions God has given you that have never left your mind. And He’s saying, “If you spoke what I showed you over your life you would activate it. Glory! Don’t spend another moment being quiet. It’s time to speak up. Remember, you have a voice. When you speak things exists.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”
Hello, my brothers and sisters in Christ. We’ve made it to
the end of the week. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and
with purpose. It’s a very special day for me. March 8th is my
Wedding Anniversary. (Insert Confetti) It’s also the day that my husband and I
met almost a decade ago. Being involved with someone for 11 years you tend to
learn a few things. Through the ups, downs, wins, growing pains, healing, and
BLESSINGS. I’m pleased to say we’re still going. More in love than before. Continually transforming into who God
called us to be for each other every day. For this blog post I’m going to
share an important concept when it comes to marriage. “Purpose Partnership” I know for a fact my husband is my Purpose
Partner placed in my life by Jesus Christ. I pray that our story encourages
those who believe God has placed someone in your life for Purpose. Blessings.
I met my husband (Nolan) March 2008. He took it upon himself to slide into my DMs on Black Planet. Lol. Some of you may remember this old dating site. I would like to say we had an instant spark, but we didn’t. The first month was a little sketchy. Getting in touch with him was hit or miss. At the time I was out of state with one of my mentors. Once I returned to Chicago we finally met. Our first encounter I made him breakfast. Eggs, pancakes, and bacon. It’s safe to say he enjoyed the food, because shortly after we started dating.
We would spend the next year inseparable. During that time a
prophet spoke to us. She told Nolan God said, “You’re her future.” A few months
after that prophetic word we broke up. I moved out of state with my family. We
kept in contact. Spent the next several years as an “on again off again”
couple. We held onto what the prophet
told us, but never took the time to grow in God enough to see the manifestation
of the words he spoke to us. How many times have you let what God spoke to
you lay at the wayside, because it didn’t fit into your timeline? By November
2014 we were back “on.” I flew home to Chicago from Houston to see Nolan for
the holidays. When I left to return to Houston he left with me. By March 2015,
we were married.
I always knew I loved my husband in a way that I never loved anyone else. I couldn’t explain it. I just did. When we met all those years ago I was fresh out of a relationship that left me feeling unable to love. Then I met Nolan. He made me do what I thought I couldn’t do anymore. Open my heart. Even though we were involved for so many years we didn’t really know each other. If I’m to be honest we didn’t know ourselves. We were two people who always wanted to be together, but operated in generational curses, and mindsets. Like many other married couples, we had our growing pains. Two halves trying to be a whole instead of being a whole individually before we got married. Those pains hurt, but they didn’t break us. What they did do was cause us to seek help from the one who told Nolan, “You’re her future.” God!
By March 2018, we decided to give our lives to God. It also kicked
off the discovery of our “Purpose
Partnership.” A Purpose Partner
is not something that you can Google for a definition. What I believe it to be is a person placed in your life that is
directly connected to your God-Given Purpose. They’re CALLED to support,
cultivate, and protect the seed that God has put inside of you. My husband
is my “Purpose Partner.” When we gave our lives and marriage to God we were
able to finally see the beauty of each other through the eyes of Jesus Christ.
We gained clarity in our individual purpose and marriage. We grew in our
knowledge of God and who He made us to be. One of the most important things we
learned was how to be who we needed each other to be. My husband needed things
from me that I wasn’t aware of until I grew in God. There were things that I
needed from him that he wasn’t aware of until he grew in God. We both desired
different things and we couldn’t obtain them the same way. God taught us how to
be there for each other in a way we both could interpret.
Who’s your Purpose Partner? Has God called someone to
support, cultivate, and protect the seed that He placed inside of you? Are you
someone’s Purpose Partner? Are you being who God called you to be in their
life? I had to pray for direction from the Lord about being my husband’s
Purpose Partner. He gave me understanding about my role. I moved out of the way
to let God be God in Nolan’s life. I don’t impose my timeline on God’s timeline
in my husband’s relationship with Christ. I support whatever he desires to do. For
instance, my husband wanted to learn to play the guitar around Christmas. I
bought him 2 guitars. God provided the 3rd from another source. He’s
working on starting a Financial Repair Company. I found courses for him to
obtain his certifications and paid for them. Now he’s certified. I’m his
Purpose Partner. I’m who God called me to be in his life.
To the man who is MY FUTURE. You’re everything I needed. You
help grow me every day. God trusted you to care, love, and protect his
daughter. He’s pleased with you. Thank you for exposing me to a life filled
with kindness, compassion, trust, forgiveness, purpose, and love. Every moment
with you is intentional. I will forever choose you. You lead me as God leads
you. I love and thank you for a wonderful 4 years as Mrs. Nolan. I will forever
be your helpmate.
Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. Can you believe January is already over? How are you guys doing with your 2019 goals? Have any adjustments happened with your vision for this year? They have for me. Lol. The overall vision is the same but the path in which it’ll happen has slightly changed. With thirty-three days in the books Yahweh has already slowed me down. Many of you know I finished my Vision Board a week or so before the new year. My goals cosisted of growth in my relationship with Christ, my marriage, my brand, this blog, and a list of other ventures. The more I attempted to reach these deadlines that I set for myself God was directing my attention to the journey that has to happen before I reach the destination. I guess you can say my EGO was getting the best of me.
I was listening to a podcast the other day and the guy referenced his EGO getting in his way. Now I’m not someone who relishes in my own accomplishments. All glory be to God for anything that he has strengthened me through or allowed me to obtain. As the podcast continued he mentions that a pastor told him that when we have a big EGO we are essentially “Edging God Out.” #MindBlown Had I Edged God Out in my bedazzled Vision Board and 2019 Goals? Couldn’t have I thought. I mean He is in the midst of every goal that I have for this year. The more I talked to Yahweh about it He began to reveal to me how my EGO was getting in the way.
Even though my vision was from God I didn’t account for the time needed to prepare for the vision. I started the process but had no expectation of the next steps which left me doing what I thought was necessary. I was leaning on my own understanding. Even for God’s glory. I found myself making all these plans that glorify God but in the same moment, I was edging him out of my preparation process. There is nothing in this world that we will do that doesn’t require seed, time and harvest. If God has planted a seed in you there is no skipping the “time” that is needed before the harvest.
Maybe Christ has given you a vision to write a book, start a credit repair business, an apparel shop, or become a life coach. There is absolutely no way to bypass the necessary journey that you have to take in order to flourish in your God-Given area. There are levels that require our participation as we are on our journey to becoming who we were created to be.
You can find preparation thorughout the bible,
“Put your outdoor work in order and get your fields ready; after that, build your house.”
So what’s the takeaway? Start. God has given you a vision for your life then start. Start the process and allow Yahweh to guide you through each and every step. God isn’t our phone a friend when we are stuck. His place is in front of us before we even make the step. I spoke about being in the process of writing my first book. I had the opportunity of attending a Master Class that focused on “Writing Your First Book & Self-Publishing.” I learned so much that I had no idea about prior to taking the class. The knowledge was necessary as I journey to becoming a first-time author. Don’t allow your EGO to Edge God Out of your preparation process. Blessings.
Update: I went to a Christian Women’s Bible Study last night and it truly was a release for me. I really underestimated how much I missed being able to fellowship with other Women of God. Right at the end, they asked us to write down what we were hearing from God. He simply told me, “Go and be free TRULY Tiffany.” It was as if I still had a spec of my past self in my heart and in that moment Yahweh released me from it. Glory be to God.
Also, I just booked my first speaking engagement of the year. I am so honored and excited about the event. The subject, “There is Beauty in The Vision.” What a befitting topic. Details coming soon. Love you with the love of the Lord.