Knowledge Is Power

“My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge.
Because you have rejected knowledge,
    I also reject you as my priests;
because you have ignored the law of your God,
    I also will ignore your children.
 The more priests there were,
    the more they sinned against me;
    they exchanged their glorious God for something disgraceful.”

Hosea 4:6-7

You know what I find interesting about us humans? How uninspired we can be when it comes to developmental growth. Now I’m not talking about those who have accomplished educational accolades. I’m all for school if it’s beneficial for your purpose. I’m talking about those of us who jump on the trend bandwagon without taking the time to discover the foundation of what we’re about to embark on.

I remember growing up in a Pentecostal Church. As a little girl, I often heard the scripture “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” This was a pillar in my home to ensure we went to school to further our education. You know, “Live the American Dream.” Looking back I can’t honestly say this concept was applied to all areas of my life. When I think about it the bible speaks about growing in knowledge in many realms. Physical, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual to name a few. Having a “sound” mind. Our bodies being a “temple” Holy and acceptable. Being “renewed” daily. It makes you wonder why so many of us were not raised knowledgeable in our overall health.

In my adult life I’m presently transitioning to a Christian Holistic Lifestyle. I’ve previously written about this which you can find here. As a recap let me explain what a Christian Holistic Lifestyle embodies? Essentially, it means you’ve made a choice to take responsibility for your own well-being and everyday decisions which affect your health. By creating balance in your life in efforts to achieve the highest level of well-being for your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health while drawing directly from the Lord.

I have to continually make it known this is a CHRISTIAN Holistic Lifestyle. It’s interesting when people decide to become “healthier” they run to things like aligning chakras, burning sage, placing crystals throughout their homes, and praying to Mother Earth. This is the lack of knowledge I was referencing earlier. Here’s a fun fact! Chakra, also spelled Cakra, Sanskrit C̣akra, (“wheel”), any of a number of psychic-energy centers of the body, prominent in the occult physiological practices of certain forms of Hinduism and Tantric Buddhism. The chakras are conceived of as focal points where psychic forces and bodily functions merge with and interact with each other. In case you were wondering psychics are linked to demonic practices and witchcraft. I think it’s safe to say, we will operate in realms not of God and have no idea we’re doing it. So do your research folks.

It’s not beneficial to put God first and get an education solely. We also need to equally encourage ourselves to eat whole foods, acknowledge our emotions and mental state then choose the most productive way we respond. We have to do a better job of becoming more proactive about being knowledgeable in every area of our makeup. If no one ever exposed us to being whole in our life then how do we do it? We grow in our knowledge. We decide to be a participant in the developing of our WHOLE self. Mental, physical, mental, and emotional. That my dear brothers and sisters is up to us. No one else.

All in all, it’s our knowledge which opens the door for opportunities. It exposes us to a higher level of thinking and understanding. It provides us with the ability to create spaces intentionally and with purpose. Knowledge is powerful. We live in a world full of generational curse breakers, billionaire’s, best-selling authors, and self-care activist who will never tap into their respective gifts. It’s their decision to repeat what they’ve learned instead of seeking knowledge for themselves in their individual craft. The bible says it best, “My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge because they REJECT it.” When we don’t take the time to learn how to grow in our mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health we are literally destroying ourselves. It’s time to tap into one of our sources of power, Knowledge. Blessings!

What Happens When We Apply Pressure?

Good Afternoon my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. We are a few days post my usual Self-Care Sunday blog. Seems I’ve been transitioning out of the routine of posting every Sunday. Needless to say, behind the scenes of blogging I’ve had my hand in a few other projects. My last post talked about the foundations of a Christian Holistic Lifestyle. To sum it up it’s the decision one makes to live whole in all aspects of life. Spiritually, Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically. I provided some ideas useful for promoting more activity in those 4 areas daily. I pray they helped all of you who are interested in shifting the way you’ve chosen to live.

This past week I found myself feeling off balanced. In the past when this feeling would come over me I would resort to things or activities to make myself “feel better.” Fast forward to the present day I’m more interested in acknowledging an unsteady emotion while discovering the trigger behind it. This week I couldn’t figure out the trigger immediately. What caused me to be in a state of “Blah?” One thing I know is we can be so close to a situation we can’t see what’s in front of us. I spoke to my Spiritual Mentor and she brought clarity to my clouded emotion. With her wisdom, we were able to pinpoint a trigger of mine. Goals! Expectations! Time!

Have you ever heard the phrase, “I’m my worse critic?” Truly, this is something God is healing me from daily. I no longer bash myself verbally like I once did. However, the pressure I place on myself to produce in a certain time frame doesn’t always align with God’s timing. The pressure was my adversary in the unbalanced emotional state I felt earlier this week. I realized even though I’m growing I can’t speed up the process of my growth. With all my goals and visions there is a time and season for them to fully bloom. The Bible depicts this concept as seed, time, and harvest. I believe most of us throw the towel in right when the “time” portion exceeds what we had in mind.

This was it! I subconsciously started to feel defeat, because I realized the journey ahead of me wasn’t instantaneous. I understood in order for me to operate in the fullness of who God created me to be would take more TIME. We spend so much of our life living how we want then expect God to expedite our journey to our purpose. Reflecting, I’m not sure I really conceptualized what it would take to undo all the layers of who I chose to be before I gave myself to Christ. With each growth spurt, I experienced an additional discovery of hidden triggers. Who I was all those years produced layers of chaos and as they are exposed God is correcting each layer.

I had a dream a few nights ago. My local Pastor spoke to me saying,” You are in a state of Corrective Chaos.” When I opened my eyes I looked up the definition of both words. I had this revelation: Corrective Chaos is the state in which God corrects or counteracts complete disorder and confusion. The Holy Spirit calmed my uneasiness immediately. Jesus is correcting EVERY chaotic thing associated with me and my history. This is why I couldn’t speed up the process. He was undoing what I had done while allowing me to grow in my newness. My instruction during this time was to endure the process, have compassion for who I was, and fall in love with who I’m becoming. Thank you, Jesus.

Perhaps you’re on your journey to purpose and find yourself applying pressure where it isn’t needed. Maybe you’re growing weary in your well-doing. If so, I want to encourage you. I want you to stop applying pressure in the places God is correcting. One thing I know about working under pressure is you’ll never produce optimally. If you operate in a state of pressure you lose the clarity, and wisdom needed for the task. It’s time to stop pressuring yourself to produce a harvest out of season. It will NEVER happen. So take a deep breath. Listen to what God is telling you. Most importantly, endure the process, have compassion for who you were, and fall in love with who you’re becoming. Blessings!

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

Galatians 6:9

Happy Resurrection Sunday

Good Evening my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. It’s Resurrection Sunday. I wanted to bring you a mindful moment video for today’s post. As you are celebrating the resurrection of Jesus Christ think about all the things needed to be resurrected in your own life. Blessings.

Mindful Moment – God Can

Great Morning my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. This week is coming to a close. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. This morning I want to leave you with a thought. Think about the most outrageous goal you have. Really think about it. For some of us the goal may be to have a globally successful Christian business. Others it may be traveling the entire world or becoming the largest resource for women to find their God given purpose. No matter how far the reach of our goals is know that God’s abilities surpass our grandest thoughts. He reaches places we can’t imagine having access too. If you’ve ever limited the idea of where you can go, who you can be, or the influence of what you can do. I’m here to tell you, STOP LIMITING GOD. He takes us where we can’t go on our own. He already placed the best version of us inside of us. He told us He made us in His image. His word says, “we rule over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals on the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground.” Which means we came out the womb with authority and influence.

I challenge you to retrain your thought process. When you’re connected to Jesus Christ you’re connected to the ultimate source. There’s nothing too hard for God. Next time you pray do it with authority. Decree and declare (whatever the outrages goal) it’s mine, I shall have it, it belongs to me. Remember, God CAN. Blessings!

Mindful Moment – A Love Poem

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. I wrote this piece on my lunch break today. I know that it’s the day of “love.” I’m sure most of you have made some gesture to a loved one, a friend, Jesus, or yourself. One thing that I love about Yahweh is that He is the epitome of intentional. Everything He does is with purpose. So in the spirit of this “love” day, I was drawn to reflect on how much He loves me. Poetry is my first love when it comes to writing. I don’t share it much but this piece meant something to me. I pray you enjoy it. Happy Love Day. Blessings.

Who is this woman you created me to be?


This creature who I’m learning to love.

I wonder what you were thinking when you weaved me together.

Did you intentionally make me a creative?

Did you say, “Passion” will be in this one?

I wonder if you intentionally made me with dimples and long hair.

If you purposely gifted me with my hands.

Did you mean to make me a “go-getter?”

What about my desire to build women up?

Did you place that in me while I was in my mother’s womb?

How did you find the time to be so methodical in creating me?

Did you know that I would be in this place right now?

A place of complete submission to you?

Did you know that you would be introducing me to your original craftsmanship 33 years after her birth?

I can’t imagine how it feels to perfectly form something that won’t begin developing til decades later.

How loving and patient you are.

The more I think about you the more I am in awe of your existence.

I’m filled with emotion every time I try to conceptualize your thoughts.

You love in a way that I will never.

Your mind goes beyond my greatest ambition.

You’re the ultimate creative.

Guess that’s why you made me in your image.

You wanted me to see the greatness of you in me.

Thank you, Yahweh!

Thank you, for loving me.

Spirit Care Sunday – What Does Your Spirit Need?

Blessed Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. As you may know it’s Self-Care Sunday, however, I’ve decided to change it to “Spirit Care Sunday.” I was among the many people who were apart of the Bedside Ministry this morning. Lol. Tuning into The Potter’s House by way of Houston. Bishop Jakes spoke from the subject matter of “A Thirst Collision.” I encourage you all to check the sermon out as it has inspired the “Spirit Care Sunday” post for today. As always I pray that this post encourages you to self-reflect and allows you to open your heart to what the Holy Spirit is telling you. Blessings.

I want to start our conversation off with a simple question. What does your spirit need? Your spirit is the nonphysical part of you which is the seat of emotions and character; your soul. If you’re anything like me then this is the first time someone is asking you this question. When we look in the bible there are several texts that reference the spirit. Proverbs 20:27 says, “The spirit of man is the lamp of the Lord, searching all his innermost parts.” Romans 8:16 says, “The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God.” 1 Corinthians 6:17 says, “But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him.” John 4:24 says, “GOD IS A SPIRIT AND THOSE WHO WORSHIP HIM MUST WORSHIP HIM IN SPIRIT AND IN TRUTH.” I believe it’s safe to say that our spirit needs to, has to, and should desire to be one with Jesus Christ.

So if our spirit needs Jesus then there are some things that we need to do in order to build our spirit man. We understand that coming into a relationship with Jesus requires the death of our flesh. This is why the bible talks about being born again of the spirit. When we are born again we have a new desire not of our flesh but of God. We no longer are controlled by our human inclinations. We have surrendered our spirit to Jesus Christ. Understand, He isn’t interested in fixing our flesh. There aren’t any parts of it that are salvageable. The only way we can get rid of it is if we let it die. This is why you can’t keep holding onto that person or that addiction because those things will kill you before you have a chance to kill them. We are talking about in the spirit. Anything or anyone that keeps you from God is killing your spirit. I don’t know about you but there are some people or something that you need to tell, “You’re Not Going To Kill Me.”

So again, “What does your spirit need?” The first thing that your spirit needs is for your flesh to die.


Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again.[a
“How can someone be born when they are old?” Nicodemus asked. “Surely they cannot enter a second time into their mother’s womb to be born!”
Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit. Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit.

John 3:3-6

I pray that this quick “Spirit Care Sunday” post has inspired you to rid yourself of anything not like God. Each Sunday I will be posting steps to help you understand what your spirit needs. This is one of many to come. I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

How To P.R.A.Y

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. It’s Self-Care Sunday here on Mindful Of Me Moments. As a rule of thumb, we should all be practicing good self-care techniques daily. I’ve chosen Sundays to be the day that I touch base and provide tips to all of you. As you know I’m currently working my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to establish a relationship with Yahweh. It’s something that I believe will be very beneficial for the “New Christian” or someone who knows Christ and may need to brush up on the fundamentals of their intimate relationship with Him. After all, we can’t have self-care without having a relationship with Christ first. I mean He is the one who knows what we need. For this Self-Care Sunday, we are going to be talking about one of the tips provided in my upcoming book. That tip being “How To P.R.A.Y.” As always I pray that it inspires you to self-reflect and make adjustments as needed. Blessings.

I remember being a young girl and not knowing how to pray. The very first prayer that I learned came from Matthew 6, “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” You know the rest. If you grew up in church then this was probably your first prayer as well. I often times heard the elders in the church describe prayer as “having a conversation with God.” Was it that simple? I just open my mouth and talk to God like I talked to one of my home-girls? There had to be more to it than that. Surely, I would have to speak to Him with more depth and diction. Looking back now I probably spent more time wondering what He wanted me to say versus just speaking to Him. As my relationship with Him started to flourish there were some fundamental points that helped me in my prayer time.

Before we get into those points I thought it would be beneficial to understand why it’s important to pray. The bible says,

“Pray without ceasing.”

1 Thessalonians 5:17


“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”

Ephesians 6:18

There are many scriptures that explain the importance of prayer. In short, prayer is our display of faith, trust, love, and humility towards Jesus. It’s also a direct avenue to make our requests known to Him and a way to hear from Him. Ultimately, it serves as a catalyst in our relationship with our Father.

Now onto the fundamentals of prayer. Next time you P.RA.Y remember to Praise, Repent, Ask, & Yield.

PRAISE the Lord for who He is. He is wonderful. Marvelous in all His ways. He is King of Kings, Lord of Lords. He is the one and only true God. He is Mighty, our Everlasting Father, the Prince of Prince. He is what was, what is, and what will be. He is Unchanging. He is our Redeemer and Way-maker. Start all your prayers off with giving Him the praise that is due.

REPENT unto the Lord. The bible says, “we all fall short to the glory of God.” True repentance is more than our verbal declaration. It’s our ability to turn away from things that are not pleasing to God. When we pray with a repenting heart we are acknowledging to Yahweh that “we have sinned and we are making a decision to turn away from that sinful act moving forward.” The Bible requires us to confess our sins to God. There may be times that we’ve sinned and are not even aware of it. Make sure you’re praying that God reveals any area that you need to repent and when He does repent then turn away from it.

ASK the Lord. There are three things that the bible says we ought to do when asking God for something. We are to make sure our request glorify God, are parallel to His word, and that they bring joy. See John 14:13, John 15:7, and John 16:23-24. Once you’ve checked all three of those then ask away. “We have not because we ask not.” It’s not good enough to stand on the fact that God knows the desires of our heart. His word tells us that we have to ASK HIM. Whether you’re asking Him to move in someone else’s life or your own. Make sure you’re specific. Don’t ask for God to bless you with the rent for next month. Ask Him to bless you with the wisdom to handle your finances. See what I did there? Lol.

YIELD unto the Lord. This is one of my favorite points in the P.R.A.Y. fundamentals. Yield means to produce or provide. Biblically, it means to wait on or submit to. When we yield to God we are literally giving Him the opportunity to provide or produce a response to our prayer. I know right. No one ever told you to wait for Him to respond after your prayers. Welp, now you know. For me, this is where meditation takes place. I pray then I meditate in silence. I allow His Holy Spirit to comfort me and I wait until I feel released to move. Sometimes He reveals things to me. Other times He just provides me with peace and a clear mind. Either way, I’ve provided Him free range to speak back to me as He sees fit.

So there it is people of God. Our Self-Care Sunday Tip. “How To P.R.A.Y.” I pray that it helped those who may not know how to approach praying. I pray it aides as a refresher for those who already know Christ. I would love to know your fundamentals of prayer. Drop a comment below. I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

Don’t Let Your Ego “Edge God Out”

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. Can you believe January is already over? How are you guys doing with your 2019 goals? Have any adjustments happened with your vision for this year? They have for me. Lol. The overall vision is the same but the path in which it’ll happen has slightly changed. With thirty-three days in the books Yahweh has already slowed me down. Many of you know I finished my Vision Board a week or so before the new year. My goals cosisted of growth in my relationship with Christ, my marriage, my brand, this blog, and a list of other ventures. The more I attempted to reach these deadlines that I set for myself God was directing my attention to the journey that has to happen before I reach the destination. I guess you can say my EGO was getting the best of me.

I was listening to a podcast the other day and the guy referenced his EGO getting in his way. Now I’m not someone who relishes in my own accomplishments. All glory be to God for anything that he has strengthened me through or allowed me to obtain. As the podcast continued he mentions that a pastor told him that when we have a big EGO we are essentially “Edging God Out.” #MindBlown Had I Edged God Out in my bedazzled Vision Board and 2019 Goals? Couldn’t have I thought. I mean He is in the midst of every goal that I have for this year. The more I talked to Yahweh about it He began to reveal to me how my EGO was getting in the way.

Even though my vision was from God I didn’t account for the time needed to prepare for the vision. I started the process but had no expectation of the next steps which left me doing what I thought was necessary. I was leaning on my own understanding. Even for God’s glory. I found myself making all these plans that glorify God but in the same moment, I was edging him out of my preparation process. There is nothing in this world that we will do that doesn’t require seed, time and harvest. If God has planted a seed in you there is no skipping the “time” that is needed before the harvest.

In due season, what is planted inside of you will grow. Continue to allow God to cultivate you through the process.

Maybe Christ has given you a vision to write a book, start a credit repair business, an apparel shop, or become a life coach. There is absolutely no way to bypass the necessary journey that you have to take in order to flourish in your God-Given area. There are levels that require our participation as we are on our journey to becoming who we were created to be.

You can find preparation thorughout the bible,

“Put your outdoor work in order
    and get your fields ready;
    after that, build your house.”

Proverbs 24:26

So what’s the takeaway? Start. God has given you a vision for your life then start. Start the process and allow Yahweh to guide you through each and every step. God isn’t our phone a friend when we are stuck. His place is in front of us before we even make the step. I spoke about being in the process of writing my first book. I had the opportunity of attending a Master Class that focused on “Writing Your First Book & Self-Publishing.” I learned so much that I had no idea about prior to taking the class. The knowledge was necessary as I journey to becoming a first-time author. Don’t allow your EGO to Edge God Out of your preparation process. Blessings.

Create! Just remember to include Christ in the process.

Update: I went to a Christian Women’s Bible Study last night and it truly was a release for me. I really underestimated how much I missed being able to fellowship with other Women of God. Right at the end, they asked us to write down what we were hearing from God. He simply told me, “Go and be free TRULY Tiffany.” It was as if I still had a spec of my past self in my heart and in that moment Yahweh released me from it. Glory be to God.

Also, I just booked my first speaking engagement of the year. I am so honored and excited about the event. The subject, “There is Beauty in The Vision.” What a befitting topic. Details coming soon. Love you with the love of the Lord.

God Is Within You

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. It is Self-Care Sunday here on “Mindful of Me Moments.” I haven’t posted a Self-Care Sunday Blog in awhile so I’m excited to touch base with you all. As always I pray that this post inspires you to self-reflect and allows your heart to be open to what God’s Holy Spirit is showing you. Blessings.

Today, my husband and I woke up early to meal prep for the week. We tried out a new grocery delivery service which worked out great. We put some meat on the grill and I made all the sides. As the day progressed I found myself feeling blah. No particular reason at all. Just wasn’t myself. I could have dwelled in that feeling, but thank the Lord I didn’t. I got up about 7 pm, got dressed and went for a jog. While I was jogging I found myself worshiping Jesus while the music played in my headset. When I returned home I followed up with some weightlifting in my gym. I then ran my aromatherapy bath and caught a live feed from a fellow Christian Entrepreneur. I prepared my peppermint tea, meditated, and relaxed in my bath. What a Self-Care Sunday it was…..

So why was this important for me to blog about? I’ll tell you. All day I felt such a spirit of heaviness. I didn’t want to do anything except lay in bed and dwell in my discomfort. How many times have you allowed the spirit of heaviness, doubt, worry, or fear take over you? Don’t you know that those aren’t spirits of God? Instead of dwelling in those spirits I made a decision to get up and take care of myself. In the midst of that, I including Yahweh. He reminded me that, “We should never get so far from Him that we no longer see Him in us.” Wow! Even if you attribute how you’re feeling to an “off day.” We still have to remember whose spirit is within us.

Self-Care Sunday is more than just exercising, bubble baths, and relaxation. It’s about creating an atmosphere that ushers in the spirit of God. It’s about being thankful that Christ has given you another week to live out your purpose. It’s about acknowledging how valuable your existence is. It’s about taking a moment to appreciate this wonderfully made being that God has created in you. Don’t overlook how dynamic you are. Take the time to Self-Care. You’re unlike anything this earth has ever seen. Thank God for making you. Blessings.

Look how special you are,


“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.”

Psalm 139:14-16

Thank you to everyone who has followed me recently. If you have a blog I will definitely be checking out your content this week. I love meeting new bloggers and am very interactive. Look forward to meeting you all soon. I love you with the love of the Lord.

Who Has Time For Self-Care?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. It is the last Sunday in 2018. What a year it has been. I pray you’ve spent this year living intentionally and with purpose. We have made it to day 5 of “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” As a recap, I’ve shared how He showed me that I had no idea who I was, I believed in my own ability versus His, I struggled with unforgiveness, and how I placed everything except Him at the throne of my heart. Seeing as “Mindful Of Me Moments” was created when I received a revelation that God was mindful of me when I wasn’t mindful of myself. It was only right I ended this mini-series speaking about how He showed me that I was unaware of how to self-care. I pray that this post encourages you to self-reflect and if needed inspires you to alter your own ability to self-care. Blessings.

If you been following this mini-series the last 5 days then you have a good idea of the areas that I struggled with in my lifetime. You’re also aware of how Yahweh has healed me in those areas. I won’t spend time revisiting any particular instances where I didn’t properly consider the care of myself. What I will do is talk about how Yahweh has enhanced my knowledge of self-care as well as share a list of things that I do now that promote positive self-care.

If you’re anything like me then you’re use to always having something on your plate. No time to sit down. There is work to do. Clean the house, cook dinner, tend to my spouse, do schoolwork, respond to emails, attend church, attend family functions, be the mediator in friendships, and take care of the kids for those who have children. This year Yahweh showed me what my to-do list consisted of and guess what? I wasn’t anywhere on it. Out of all my obligations, I never considered myself as an obligation.

It’s amazing how we can make time for everything and everyone else except ourselves. The crazy thing about that is you spend the most time with yourself. When Yahweh revealed that to me I literally had to ask Him what I should do. I had no idea what it meant to have a positive self-care routine. Piece by piece He showed me. Before I list my self-care routine I want to mention that you will not be as effective to anyone or anything if you are not taking the time to self-care. You need a healthy mind, body, and spirit in order to function at your highest capacity. With that being said, here is my self-care routine.

  1. I find moments of quiet time daily. Doesn’t matter where I am. I can be at work, at home, in the car. I make it a point daily to sit in quiet and meditate. Sometimes that consists of a 15-30 min breathing technique. That helps me to focus on my breath instead of my mind running all over the place. Other times I recite positive affirmations over and over.
  2. I write daily. You don’t have to be gifted in writing to write. Even if no one ever reads what you wrote it’s a healthy habit to keep a journal. Writing has always been therapeutic for me. It allows me to put my thoughts, ideas, revelations, and goals on paper. Out of my mind and on paper.
  3. I use aromatherapy scents daily. I have a diffuser that sits on my nightstand. If I need to relieve stress I’ll drop some eucalyptus. If I need to calm my spirit I’ll use lavender. To wake up I use orange or grapefruit in the morning. I also use aromatherapy in the bath along with Epsom salt to soothe my body. I have aromatherapy body oils that I put on depending on how I’m feeling. Our sense of smell sends triggers to our brain. If you don’t currently use some type of aromatherapy I encourage you to try it out. It helps.
  4. I drink tea. I have a complete section in my kitchen that’s dedicated to tea. I have my electric tea kettle, mason jars filled with loose leaf tea, and a pitcher of bagged teas. I probably have about 30 different teas. Tea is RELAXING. I drink it daily. If I’m sick, if I need energy, if I need to sleep, if I need to be calm. Tea is a big part of my self-care routine.
  5. I eat healthily and workout. This is something that is on my 2019 Vision Board. I was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure earlier this year and am currently working towards getting off my meds. This means that the way I eat has now become a goal for me moving forward. If we are unhealthy in our physical body then we for sure limit our opportunities. Along with that comes working out which should also be a priority in our ability to self-care. How we feel in our body affects what we do.
  6. I monitor my thoughts and speak life into myself. There is life and death in the power of the tongue. We shall have what we speak. I have become very cautious about the things that I allow to come out of mouth especially about myself. Our thoughts determine how we feel about ourselves. Being mentally sound stems from what or who we listen to, and what we say about ourselves. So be conscious of what you’re thinking and saying about yourself.
  7. I spend time with myself outside of the home. That’s right. I get a break from home and work. Lol. Majority of the time I do this while getting a mani and pedi which again is, RELAXING. Other opportunities include getting a facial, massage, shopping, or getting your hair done. Any activity that relieves stress or anxiety I’m all for.
  8. I listen to music. Music is another avenue that alters your mind. I listen to a lot of gospel, worship, and Christian rap. When I’m looking for a chill/funky type of music to zone out or write too I listen to, Sango Radio on Pandora. Go check it out if you haven’t. You’re welcome in advance. It’s a VIBE.
  9. I buy myself something every month. Sometimes I get expensive things. Sometimes I buy something as simple as a new journal. This is something that my husband taught me to do. I use to be very frugal. I still am in some respect. What he taught me was I should not work just to pay bills. Now we’re wise when it comes to finances. However, it’s important to treat yourself consistently not just for special occasions. You don’t know how many women and men I’ve come across that can’t remember the last time they bought themselves something. I promise it matters in your self-care routine.
  10. I invest in my spirit daily. Understanding that the Holy Spirit lives within me. It was important to implement a self-care routine for my spirit. I read the word of God every day. I pray every day. I deny my flesh so that my spirit can be strong every day.

As you can tell there is a common theme among my top 10 self-care techniques. The theme being anything that I can do to promote relief, relaxation, growth, and appreciation for me. All of the techniques have made a tremendous difference in my ability to self-care. I’ve learned what I like, what I don’t like, how to relax, how to wake up, how to focus on me, and how not to forget that I have an obligation to myself to be healthy enough to be effective.

This year has been the most impactful year that I have had to date. I’ve acquired so much new knowledge of Yahweh and myself. I’ve grown in my relationship with Him and with me. All of which has made me more effective in my marriage, friendships, business, and ministry. In less than 12 months I’ve reached a level of intimacy with Christ that I never knew I could, I learned my true identity, my purpose was born, I faced my greatest fear, my marriage completely leaped in progression, I started a business, I fell out of agreement with things and people that blocked my spiritual growth. For the first time in my life, I finally started living intentionally and with purpose.

Thank you, Yahweh. 2018 Blessed Me.

Mid-Week Check-In

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. As always I pray you’ve spent the beginning of the week living intentionally and with purpose. I wanted to pop in mid-work week to check-in with you all. We haven’t done a “Self-Check” in a while. If you’re new to my blog take a moment to reference my previous post about performing a spirit self-check here: Check Yourself Post

How are you feeling? What’s going in your world? What are your priorities looking like? The last few days Yeshua has shown me where He needs to be positioned in my life. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in work, family, school, and ministry. Even if we are operating in those avenues under the direction of the Lord it doesn’t replace the fact that He should always be our first priority. I’m learning that my hour long morning bible study and journal time is no longer sufficient for my relationship with Christ. It’s become more than just spending time in His word. I’m now desiring to spend time talking to Him separate from my personal bible study. He is showing me that there are levels of intimacy with Him, and I’m approaching a new level.

My mid-week check-in is peaceful and productive. My priorities are on par with Christ and are about to shift once again. I’m learning the various areas that I can worship Yeshua throughout my day. I’m understanding that spending time in His word is only one way of being intimate with Him. Lastly, I’m transitioning into having a daily designated time when I can just talk with Him.

I encourage you to take a moment to do a Self-Check. Examine where you are right now. What is getting your attention? What is your mind focused on? What are you making time for? Have you taken time out of your to-do list to place Jesus at the top? Remember, every answer you’re looking for God already has; check-in with Him regularly. Blessings.

 “Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test? And I trust that you will discover that we have not failed the test.  Now we pray to God that you will not do anything wrong—not so that people will see that we have stood the test but so that you will do what is right even though we may seem to have failed. For we cannot do anything against the truth, but only for the truth. We are glad whenever we are weak but you are strong; and our prayer is that you may be fully restored. This is why I write these things when I am absent, that when I come I may not have to be harsh in my use of authority—the authority the Lord gave me for building you up, not for tearing you down.”

2 Corinthians 13: 5-10

 

Do What You Love

Good evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. If you haven’t listened to my audio about my “Perpetual State of Worship.” Check out my prior post from this week. I pray that it will encourage you to become more cognizant of the time you spend in worship with God.

Today is another edition of Self-Care Sunday. This is my weekly Sunday post where I get to provide further insight and tips on how to become more conscious of your ability to self-care. In the past, my posts have typically dealt with our state of mind and allowing God to lead us in our lives. As a baseline, all my posts will be intertwined with growing in God then building upon that relationship. Now that we’ve got that disclaimer out the way let’s talk Self-Care.

I love to write! I can’t tell you when I started writing but I have journals that are 20 years old. When I write I pour everything I’m feeling into what I’m writing. It brings me happiness, it relaxes me, it’s a great stress reliever, and it comes naturally. When I was praying for God to reveal to me what this weeks Self-Care Sunday post should be about; He told to write about what I love to do. He told me to ask His people, “What is it they love to do and does that thing edify Him?” I can remember a time that I use to love to drink alcohol and party. It provided no lasting fulfillment, but every weekend I was out with my girls. Even in the midst of my emptiness I always found myself writing. From poetry, songs, blog posts, and soon to be books writing is what I love to do.

Self-Care is about investing in yourself. Your inner self first then in all other areas. When was the last time you spent time doing something that you love to do that was just about you? Not you and your friends. Not you and work. Not you and you’re significant other. Just you and the thing that you inherently love to do. Don’t forget to ask yourself does it edify God?

The more I grow in Christ I understand that the thing that I love to do so much that is natural to me is a gift God gave me. Even though it brings me so much joy and satisfaction it ultimately isn’t just for me. My love of writing is my God-given contribution to the Kingdom. When He told me to ask you does what you love to do edify Him. He wanted us to gain perspective. When Christ gives you an ability He expects that ability to grow. When cultivated properly not only will it grow you but it will grow those who come into contact with you. Ask yourselves, “Does what you love to do grow you and those around you? Or does what you love to do prevent growth within yourself and others around you?”

The word of God says,

So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors, and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.

(Ephesians 4:11-13)

This means that we were all given a gift to do something. God is so gracious that He allows the gift He placed on the inside of us to also be the thing that we love to do. When you love to do something it isn’t a chore. It’s the thing that you will invest in, the thing that will build you, and grow you. It’s the thing that will change the lives of people who come in contact with you. Your gift is impactful. Your ability to do it is unlike anyone else. It was specifically planted on the inside of you and is awaiting the opportunity to be birthed and grow. God sent me here to tell you, “Don’t allow life issues to stop the growth of what He planted on the inside of you.” Develop that thing that you inherently love to do that edifies Christ. Invest your time in it. Allow it to blossom. Don’t hold up someone else deliverance by your stubbornness to not grow what God gave you. When you do that you are forfeiting your right to be connected to the vine.

The Bible tells us,

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me?

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from m,e, you can do nothing. If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.

(John 15:1-8)

Have you been cut from the vine, because you’re choosing to not grow your God-given gift? If so, I challenge you to reconnect to the vine, which is Jesus. Dig deep. As Him to reveal to you what He placed on the inside of you. Maybe you have been so estranged from the Father that you can’t remember what that thing is. Ask Him to restore your gift. As you seek Him more He will do what you asked. When He does don’t miss the opportunity to grow the gift He planted. Remember, we all have a gift. Yours is unlike anyone else. No one can do it like you. The Kingdom is waiting for you to do what you love to do. This is your sign to do it. Blessings.

My Perpetual State of Worship

I heard the Lord say, “Perpetual State of Worship” as I was in worship this morning. Perpetual means never ending, everlasting, eternal, undying. I know you’re wondering how can I worship God all day? Worship isn’t just an intimate moment with our Father where we are crying out to Him during prayer. We worship Him in our obedience to His word. We worship Him when we follow His directions. We worship Him when we repent for our sins and turn from them. We worship Him by putting Him first in our lives.

This morning in my prayer and study time He was speaking to me while simultaneously giving me a vision. He began to show me the beauty inside of me. This beauty was my spirit blossoming in Him.  I’ve recorded an audio that I’ve placed at the bottom of this post. It’s me talking about my worship experience with Christ. As always I pray that it causes you to reflect and examine yourself. Allow God to become your first priority, because you’re His priority. Blessings!

This week’s Moment Of Mindfulness task is to develop a perpetual state of worship for Jesus Christ. 

 

What Are You Committed To?

Thanks for stopping by this week’s Self-Care Sunday Post. Before you read press play and take a listen.

In May of this year, Yeshua told me that I needed to change my priorities and commitments. He gave me a list in the following order of importance:

  1. My relationship with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Understanding that at the root of me you would now find the presence of God.
  2. My covenant with my husband. Knowing that we made the biggest commitment to each either when we chose to commit to God.
  3. My level of influence in the Kingdom. Accepting that I will not be the Woman of God who keeps God’s glory to herself. I have an obligation in my position to draw all men and woman to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

These three things were the priorities God gave me. He told me that in order to thrive in these relationships I needed to learn how to commit to them. I needed to become disciplined in order to invest time and be consistent with my commitments. He gave me Matthew 7: 7-8 as my foundation for this journey. The text which reads,

 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.  For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”

This scripture is the cause and effect when we are committed to God. Yeshua told me that if I were to become disciplined and consistent in my relationship with Him that I would find everything that He has for me. Needless to say, I did just as He instructed me to do.

Fast Forward six months and so much has changed in my life. Just last week as I was in morning prayer and Bible study I heard the Lord say, “He is adjusting my values and my list of importance has now changed.”  Immediately following this I heard a pastor say, “the enemy attacks what you value the most. He does it in efforts to get to our Faith in God.” WOW! It made me think about all the things that I valued above my relationship with God. The things that were first prior to the last six months of my life. It made me reflect on how the enemy attacked those things and those relationships. How those attacks affected my Faith in God. I received so much revelation about commitment this week. I came into the understanding that when God is the person you value the most above everything else in your life; the enemy can’t attack that. He can attack our finances, our marriage, our jobs, our business, our faith, but HE CAN’T ATTACK GOD. So if the thing that I value the most is the thing the enemy can’t get too; why wouldn’t I commit to that before anything else?

What have you valued more than the Lord? Is it social media, relationships, money, appearance, gossip, people, recreational activities? Yeshua wants the first fruits from us. That’s our best. What have you been giving your best too over God? Get your pen and paper. Let’s write it down. Now that you have your list let me walk you through a few definitions before I share how I became committed.

  • Self-Discipline is the ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weakness; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it.
  • Value is the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
  • Consistent is unchanging in nature, standard, or effect over time.
  • Commitment is the willingness to give your time and energy to something you believe in, or a promise, or firm decision to do something.

One thing that I learned about self-discipline is that it’s a decision. We have to decide if our weaknesses will continue to control us or will we control our weaknesses? I understood that I can only find the strength to become self-disciplined in Yeshua. So the base of my success was contingent upon my commitment to God. Here’s how I went from putting everything and everyone before God. To putting Him first and completely altering my life.

  1. I was tired of the trauma from my past spilling over into every area of my life. My past was prevalent in my now, and I didn’t want to live with it anymore. So I made a decision to seek God wholeheartedly. It caused me to expose areas that I was trying to hide, but in the end, God fixed what was broken. It was hard but His grace and mercy towards me reigned. Now my life, marriage, and my level of influence have forever changed.
  2. I changed my priorities. If I was going to put God first then that looked like something. Every morning I get up at 4am to spend an hour in prayer and Bible study. I do this seven days a week. Throughout my day I find moments to give God praise. I pray, read the word, listen to sermons, and journal often. I had to edit what I was allowing my ears to hear, my eyes to see, and my mind to think. I invested time with the Father before I invested time in anything or anyone else. Doing these things showed me how to form a habit of discipline, consistency, and commitment. Understand that if you can become disciplined and consistent in your relationship with Yeshua then you can become disciplined and consistent in anything.
  3. I got comfortable with the fact that as I became committed to God I was going to fall out of agreement with things and people. I gave up some “friendships” when I became committing to God. My interest changed, my thought process changed, my values changed. Some of those old relationships were no longer conducive to who I was becoming in Christ. To be honest, the more I grew the more I saw I didn’t really like certain things that I thought I did at one point.
  4. I didn’t stop when things got tough. This journey is a life-long journey. Submitting to Yeshua is something that you have to know that you will be doing the rest of your life. In doing so, every illegal spirit that has been lying dormant in your life will come up and come out. You’ll have to revisit some hurtful moments, but God is a healer. You’ll have to let some people go, but He’s a friend. You’ll have to relinquish your comfort, but He’s a great comforter. You’ll have to put all your trust in Him, but He’s faithful. When you think you’re losing everything on your journey you’re really gaining more than you could imagine.

To sum it all up I had to get tired of living an unpurposeful life, I had to change my priorities, I had to give up my life so that I could gain life, and I didn’t give up my pursuit of growing in my relationship with Yeshua when things became tough.

If your priorities are out of order and you lack commitment to Christ I challenge you to take a stand for yourself. Lack of self-discipline and commitment is a lack of self-care. Don’t you know that God desires to take care of you and show you how to take care of yourself? Don’t spend another day living life with no structure. You will only find transformation in your ability to commit to the Father. Once you do then you’ll truly be able to tap into everything that God has for you. Blessings.

Man on chair

 

 

Am I in Proper Position?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. As we continually grow in our knowledge of self-care I’m learning the importance of being in proper position. I know that our understanding of proper positioning may have been planted in us as children. Sometimes our life experiences form our belief in the way we think, who we are, and what we should be doing. Ultimately, we only find proper positioning in Christ. Self-Care is all about ensuring that you are intentional about yourself in a way that allows you to function at your highest capacity. If you’re practicing good self-care, then you should be in proper position in every area of your life. I want to spend this time walking you through my own experience in getting into proper position. My prayer is that it will provide insight to you while you are yet on your journey to being positioned properly.

So often we think the enemy is attacking us. Dealing with infertility for several years now. I often felt as if he was attacking my body to prevent me from having children. As I grow in God; He continues to give me understanding regarding the birthing process. I was in worship this morning I heard God say, “The attack on your body isn’t an attack. It’s your spiritual incubation period.” Yeshua told me that He was using this time to extinguish generational curses from my lineage so that I can carry out the healed legacy that my Mother is currently birthing.”

Incubation is the maintenance of an infant, especially a premature infant, in an environment of controlled temperature, humidity, and oxygen concentration to provide optimal conditions for growth and development. Carry means to support and move from one place to another; to support the weight of.

Yeshua reveals to me daily something new about my Mother. She is the one person in my family who He ordained to shift the trajectory of our legacy. The weight of her purpose is massive. It’s one that she has carried solo for a long time. As I am yet in alignment with Yeshua He is showing me the proper positioning to carry out the vision He gave her for our lineage. A vision that is free from generational curses, sexual immorality, abuse, perversion, incest, molestation, debt, inconsistency, self-sabotaging, disobedience, witchcraft, pride, jealousy, and rebellion. He told me that I couldn’t be in any kind of condition while supporting the weight of the vision. He told me if He had allowed me to birth children when I wanted to I would have undone years of intercessory prayers that went forth for our bloodline.

Culturally we spend so much time worrying about the natural births that we ignore that they should first be cultivated in the spirit. If we spent more time focusing on spiritual incubation we would be in a proper position to produce in a season that has optimal conditions for growth and development. The word of God says,

“For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2

You may be at a point in your life where you feel out of position. If you are unsettled in your mind, relationships, finances, or purpose then you’re probably not in proper position. To shift your life into proper positioning there are a few things you should be meditating on and practicing.

  1. Understand that this life is not your own. God created us all in His image and has placed purpose on the inside of us. Allow Him to reveal your purpose so that you are truly living intentionally and not just existing.
  2. Repent for the things that you’ve done that are not pleasing to Him then turn from those behaviors. God examines our hearts. He wants us to know that with His help we can overcome our past and choose to no longer live without Him again.
  3. Realize that if you’ve made plans, decisions, or moves without the guidance from God then you have placed yourself out of proper position. Once you’ve realized this you have to allow the Holy Spirit to retrain your thought process.
  4. Understand you will never reach the abundance of blessings that Yeshua has for you if you’re choosing to live a life that is disobedient to Him. Disobedience to the Word of God limits and distracts you from reaching blessings, purpose, healing, deliverance, protection, discernment, knowledge, understanding, and wisdom.
  5. Get comfortable with God’s timing. You don’t get to tell God what your timeline is for your life. Your life is already written. He has already formed it. You must get in alignment with His already written timeline.
  6. Proper Position is a lifestyle that requires you to forever be submissive to Yeshua. Whatever you’re looking for you will ONLY find in God. If you choose to live life not submitting to God and His word you will never be in proper position.
  7. Put a value on your relationship with God. This is going to be key from this moment forward. So many of us never valued the importance of having a relationship with Yeshua. We valued our relationships with other people. Parents, boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives, children, money, sex. Everything and everyone except the one who knows and has everything that you will ever need. You must make Him number 1 if you’re going to shift your position.

Self-care and proper positioning go hand in hand. Both things must be directed by the Lord. They both place you in position to operate during the most opportune times. They both give your life meaning. Lastly, they both provide you with ways to live intentionally and with purpose.

I challenge you today to examine your life and pinpoint every plan, decision, and move you’ve made without consulting God. Get a list going. After you’ve completed your list pray and ask Yeshua to reveal to you the effects those decisions had on your life. Take your time. This is an intimate moment between you and the Father. He begins to show you the effects your decisions have had on your life, repent. The single most important relationship you will ever have is your relationship with Yeshua. It’s also the only relationship that exposes you to purpose. Blessings.

 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.  If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.”

James 15: 5-8

Identity

Good afternoon my siblings in Christ. I pray you all have been living intentionally and with purpose. I wanted to put a pin in my current journey and share what’s been going on. I pray you are able to see yourself through my experiences and it encourages you to challenge yourself as you are on your journey to being the best you possible.

IDENTITY! Who are you? This question is one that I’ve been asked more than once in my life. I’m a lot of things. A wife, daughter, sister, friend, college grad, business owner, employee, writer. I am all of these things however these are titles. Though true they don’t define me nor do they give a depiction of who I am. I’m a wife because my husband married me. I’m a daughter because my parents conceived then birthed me. I’m a sister because my parents had additional children. I’m a friend because I’ve invested my time in relationships. I’m a college graduate because I completed school. You get the point, lol. All these things were inherited or obtained through my work ethic.

While on this journey to self-love and self-care you will find yourself at this exact point. The point at which you are so distant from your former self that you no longer recognize who you are. Your past no longer defines you. I’m a survivor of domestic violence. Yeshua protected and graced me to make it through an abusive first marriage. I’m not ashamed of it anymore. I’m healed from it now. I’ve forgiven him and myself. It’s a part of my testimony, but it is not my identity. Identity is defined as the distinguishing character or personality of an individual. It is no longer my character to operate like someone who was abused. On the flip slide, I survived it, and I have been a survivor the majority of my life. So much so that I had to learn how to be a submissive wife to my current husband. So being a survivor isn’t my identity either. So again I ask, “Who are you?”

If you find yourself in this place along your journey. The place that closes a door and opens a new one. Don’t freak out! Lol. It’s perfectly fine that you don’t recognize yourself now that you’ve given your life to God. It’s going to take some time to discover the newness of you. It’s fine to re-evaluate your relationships and friendships at this point. You may even feel the need to step away from some relationships while you’re discovering the new you. If so, it’s ok to do that unless you’re married. (Side note: It is not ok to step away from your marriage, because you’re finding yourself.) I have some people that I’ve considered friends for over a decade and am now at a place that I’ve realized that I don’t know who they are in their current life. As adults who have families, I couldn’t even tell you anything about them and vice versa. It made me think that if our only connection is the past, and I’m no longer living in the past then maybe we don’t have the relationship that we once did. When God comes into your life you fall out of agreement with things and people. Somethings or some people will no longer be familiar to you. I’m not saying to dump all your friends, but take the time to learn who you are as this new man or woman in Christ. Once you’re established in that then seek Him about your relationships.

Fully giving myself to God has me in a place where I don’t recognize who I am since I’ve become a new creature in Him. I know my past and how He has healed me from it. I know how He protected me from my bad decisions and forgave me. Every trait, idea, characteristic, mannerism, and response were wiped away to make room for God’s presence when I gave my life up to live for Him. So what worked for me in the past no longer works for me as a Woman of God. Those things and some people no longer identify with me.

WHO AM I?

I AM A CHILD OF GOD! That I know for sure. As I grow in Him I am learning every day the identity in which He ordained for me. How I think, my character, my morals, and values are all provided by Him not by what I was taught or learned from others. I’m no longer pressed about figuring it all out. I find peace in the fact that I’m intentionally pursuing the one who has already figured it all out for me. Life is no longer about what I have been through, what decisions I made, what others thought about me or what I thought about myself. Life is about discovering the richness of Yeshua. Learning what He had in mind when He created me. Being intentional about loving myself. Thriving in the relationships He established for me. Growing my spirit, spreading the Word of God, and fulfilling my purpose. The more I seek Him the more I find out who I am.

I challenge you to re-evaluate who you are. Do you even know? If not, are you taking the necessary steps to grow in God so that He can reveal it to you? Today is a great day to start if you haven’t already done so. Don’t spend another year, month, week, hour or second allowing your titles to define who you are. Blessings.

“What marvelous love the Father has extended to us! Just look at it—we’re called children of God! That’s who we really are. But that’s also why the world doesn’t recognize us or take us seriously, because it has no idea who He is or what He’s up to.”

“But friends, that’s exactly who we are: children of God. And that’s only the beginning. Who knows how we’ll end up! What we know is that when Christ is openly revealed, we’ll see Him—and in seeing Him, become like Him. All of us who look forward to his Coming stay ready, with the glistening purity of Jesus’ life as a model for our own.”

1 John 3:1-3 The Message (MSG)

Unconditional Self-Love

Good Afternoon my siblings in Christ. I pray you all have been spending your time living intentionally and with purpose. This past week Yeshua has been revealing to me my placement. He’s showing me my roles while providing an understanding of the depths of those roles. I have so many areas that I desire to share with you all, and I will over time. Today, I wanted to touch on unconditional love and it’s placement in my life.

Unconditional love is defined as affection without any limitations, or love without conditions. Biblically, unconditional love is referenced as Agape. I don’t believe I actually understood what unconditional love was until recently. All credit be to Yeshua for my new found understanding. Unconditional love has always been associated with how God loves us, marriage, or being a parent. The idea of having someone love me unconditionally seemed like a fantasy for most of my life. The last several months my relationship with Yeshua has grown and has put somethings into perspective for me.

First, I became aware that I had never loved myself unconditionally. My love for myself was cultivated in wrong thinking, lies, sexual immorality, and self-condemnation. My parents were young when I was born. My grandparents raised me most of my youth and spent a lot of time emphasizing that they were the only ones who loved me. I was a prisoner of my past and that prevented me from seeing the beauty in which God made me. It never even crossed my mind that I had no idea what it meant to love me unconditionally. I had such a distorted vision of love. Especially self-love. I was never taught how to love myself. I was never exposed to an environment that displayed unconditional love. Everything that I had become prior to the discovery of who I was in Christ was rooted in pain.

Second, I became aware that my ability to love myself wasn’t validated through a relationship or activity. I spent the majority of my life searching for validation. I wanted someone or something to love me through my flaws and all. Something that I didn’t think I was capable of doing for myself. When we do that we allow other people or things to dictate our worth. When I didn’t do something that someone liked or I made a bad decision in relationships I adopted their distaste for me and allowed it to become a self-reflection. By doing this I started to form a level of self-hate, and unforgiveness for me. God calls us to see ourselves how he sees us. When we are obedient to His word then He will begin taking the blinders off of us. He will set the standard by which we conduct ourselves, and how we allow people to treat us. He has truly shown me what it means to love my flaws and all. He has shown me that in my position of self-love, and self-forgiveness no one gets to take away from it. He has given me the right to move past my past, and grow as a new creature in Christ. One who knows what it means to love herself, forgive herself, see the beauty in herself, and one who has created the standard in which she is treated. Selah!

Third, I became aware that now I must live my life intentionally, and with purpose. Now that all of these things have been revealed to me I have become intentional about my life. For me being intentional means taking a step back to realize what’s in front of me, praying about my next move, and following the direction of God. I’m not leaning on my own understanding to handle life. I pray for wisdom and guidance continually. In doing so, I am ensuring that I’m under the protection and guidance of the Lord. He gives me clarity and understanding that I wouldn’t have if I were making decisions on my own. When I’m faced with challenging moments He graces me to handle those moments and walks me through the flames without being harmed. I love myself in such a way now that I’ve given my life to Christ it’s not explainable.  My past may come up from time to time. I acknowledge it without guilt or fear. I know what my past looks like, and I’m still worthy through it all.

Psalm 139:14-18 (NLT)

14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
15 You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
16 You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

17 How precious are your thoughts about me,[a] O God.
They cannot be numbered!
18 I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
you are still with me!

Today, I want you to take a step back and acknowledge the level at which you love yourself. Is it unconditional? Do you allow others to validate how you love you? Do you allow others to dictate the point at which you forgive yourself? Has your life shaped your understanding of you? If you’ve answered yes to any of this questions I challenge you to disconnect yourself from the beliefs that are false and plug into God. He will transform you and guide you as you are on your journey to loving yourself unconditionally. Blessings.

 

Check Yourself

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent this week living with purpose and intention. I want you to take the time to perform a Self-Check. I was riding around with my husband last night, and we started talking about our growth as children of God. The conversation led to me explaining how I find myself performing Spiritual Self-Checks to make sure I’m in alignment with the Will of God throughout my daily interactions.

The Word of God says,

“Test and evaluate yourselves to see whether you are in the faith and living your lives as [committed] believers. Examine yourselves [not me]! Or do you not recognize this about yourselves [by an ongoing experience] that Jesus Christ is in you—unless indeed you fail the test and are rejected as counterfeit?” (2 Corinthians 13:5 AMP)

 ‘Therefore, believers, be all the more diligent to make certain about His calling and choosing you [be sure that your behavior reflects and confirms your relationship with God]; for by doing these things [actively developing these virtues], you will never stumble [in your spiritual growth and will live a life that leads others away from sin]; for in this way entry into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ will be abundantly provided to you.” (2 Peter 1:10-11 AMP)

Wow! When I read these two scriptures I had a vision of the Lord standing before me saying, “You are a reflection of me; so act right. You hear me?” Lol. But it’s so true. We are in a relationship with the Father, and how we behave solidifies that relationship. How can two walk together unless they agree? So Yeshua creates a guide in the bible that maps out how we ought to behave in order to confirm a relationship with Him.

Here are some things you can do when performing a Self-Check.

  • Evaluate Your Priorities. Take the time to write out a list of your daily activities. Don’t say God is your number one priority, but you’re not spending time with Him. If you’re at work majority of the time, grab dinner on the way home, watch TV once you get home, squeeze in some family time at the end of your night, then you finish with the Lord’s Prayer. Your list should reflect those activities in that order. Remember, your priorities are the things you’re investing your time in. (Self-Check: Ask yourself where on my priority list does the development of my relationship with Yeshua fall? If He doesn’t fall at the top of your list then start adjusting your daily life around spending time with Him; DO NOT adjust spending time with Him around your daily life.)
  • Be Intentional About Your Responses. You can’t control what people say to you. However, you can control how you respond to people. Working in the healthcare field I am challenged daily with high-intensity situations. More often than not I am bombarded with an overload of tasks. Some that belong to me, and others that don’t. I’ve recently adopted the understanding that “I’m only one person. I can’t do everything, but I Can Do Something.” This mantra allows me to have peace in the midst of chaos.

Let’s Go a Little Deeper. How are you responding to yourself when the enemy tries to torment you in your mind; stirring up memories of your past? When I’m faced with moments like this I have to be intentional about my response. Since he likes to bring up my past I like to bring up my present. He may say, “Don’t forget who you are! Abused, abuser, liar, adulterer, alcoholic, porn addict, worthless, financially irresponsible,  inconsistent, and double-minded.” My response, “Old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. You’re bringing up things that are far from me. Things that I fell out of agreement with a long time ago. I’m not ashamed of who I was, because look at who I am now. I AM free from sexual immorality, truthful, faithful, sober, financially responsible, worthy, consistent, and rooted in God. I was washed by the blood of the lamb. Jesus died for my sins so that I can walk in my freedom. He’s already paid the price for me so I can stand up tall, and relish in my victory. My testimony is the evidence of His greatness.”

Remember, “Therefore if anyone is in Christ [that is, grafted in, joined to Him by faith in Him as Savior], he is a new creature [reborn and renewed by the Holy Spirit]; the old things [the previous moral and spiritual condition] have passed away. Behold, new things have come [because spiritual awakening brings a new life].” 2 Corinthians 5:17

(Self-Check: Are you taking the time to assess your reactions? If not, you ought to start checking yourself. It’s always better to think before you speak.) 

  • Acknowledge How You’re Feeling. You have to stop ignoring your feelings. I spent so many years suppressing my emotional health that it was foreign for me to admit how I felt. Generationally, I was taught that I had to be strong. No matter what was going on in my life I was taught that I had to operate in survival mode. This taught me three things: 1) How to get the job done. 2) How NOT to be successful at communicating. 3) How to ignore my mental and emotional health.

I have struggled my entire life with communicating how I feel. In relationships, I allowed people to treat me any kind of way, because I didn’t acknowledge how I felt. As I become more mindful of me Yeshua is showing me how to acknowledge how I’m feeling while placing those feelings in their appropriate place. You can do the same thing by performing these steps:

“Acknowledging Yourself Checklist”

  1. Ask yourself how you’re feeling.
  2. Acknowledge that it’s ok for you to feel this way. Good or bad.
  3. Establish the reason you’re feeling this way. List these reasons as your triggers.
  4. Discover ways to combat this feeling if the feeling causes you to be in a state of mind that isn’t parallel to how Yeshua requires you to be. (Do this by finding out what the bible says about this feeling.)
  5. Discover ways that will support how you’re feeling if the feeling causes you to be in alignment with the Word of God. (Do this by finding the scriptures that bring you confirmation about how you’re feeling.)
  6. Take the time to put into practice these steps daily.

When you acknowledge how you’re feeling you’re able to be intentional about yourself. You’re able to put your mental health into proper position. You’re able to fix your mind on the solution instead of the problem. You’re able to meditate on what is right which will ultimately direct you towards operating at your highest level of self. (Self-Check: Are you someone who suppresses their feelings? If so, start to acknowledge NOT dismiss them. Once you’ve acknowledged them follow the above 6 steps so that you are able to be purposely in your mental and emotional health.)

As always it’s been great spending this time with you. I pray that you will spend a little extra time “Checking Yourself.” Blessings.

Self-Control, Self-Love, and Obedience

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally, and with purpose. I’m a couple of days past Sunday but needed the time to really hear from the Lord regarding this post. For the last several months I’ve been drawn to working on my self-control. Self-control to me is parallel to obedience, discipline, and the ability to be intentional in all areas of my life. I believe that often people associate these abilities with being deprived of something or someone. The bible is full of passages that speak about being obedient to the Word of God. The more I grow in my relationship with Yeshua the more He provides me with wisdom pertaining to self-control. I felt it necessary to share how impactful it is to live a life of self-control, obedience, discipline, and intent.

I spent the majority of my life practicing poor self-control. There were many nights that I found myself begging the Lord to take me back because I strayed too far. I could go on and on about the many instances where I failed people, myself, and the Lord. For the sake of this being Self-Care Sunday, I want to strictly focus on myself, and Yeshua of course. The root issue to my demise throughout the years was tangled in generational curses, spirits of perversion, Jezebel, selfishness, doubt, worry, fear, suicide, soul-ties, and strongmen. The mix of those things did a number on my ability to love me and practice self-control. I would venture to say that a lack of self-love will always produce a lack of self-control.

To love myself I had to first believe what Yeshua said about me instead of what I said about me. I always knew that God loved me, and I needed to learn how to love me how He loved me. When you love yourself, you begin to set a standard. Your worth increases. You start to thrive as God separates you from things that you were once attracted to. See, the enemy loves for you to be disobedient. When you lack self-control, you deliberately forfeit your inheritance from the Lord. This includes forfeiting your covering from the Lord. That is ultimately what the enemy wants you to do. Remember, he is here to steal, kill, and destroy. So when you choose to be disobedient to God by sinning deliberately; you open the door to spirits that are not of God. Inconsistency, double-mindedness, anxiety, depression, self-sabotage, inability to set and accomplish goals, hatred, jealousy, greed, addiction, worthlessness, perversion, adultery, as well as a lack of self-love to name a few. All of which you expose yourself to through your disobedience. Food for Thought: How can you ask God to deliver and protect you from what you so willingly participate in?

The bible says, “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19-21)

When we live with intent serving the Lord we inherit his Holy Spirit. The bible talks about the fruits of the Holy Spirit. It says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

I had to get to a place in my life that I CHOSE to start living with intent. I no longer saw obedience as a restriction. I saw obedience as favor, wisdom, peace, guidance, and relationship with the Father. Self-Control allowed me to reach a level of intimacy in Christ that I was always longing for. It was the very thing that I aimlessly was searching for all these years. He was the void that I needed in a world that taught me to hate myself as a young girl. He showed me how to forgive myself, how to love myself,  how to be vulnerable in my marriage,  how to be strong as a woman of God, and how to speak life into myself. He’s shown me that I have dominion over the enemy and his attacks. Most importantly, He has shown me that my WILLINGNESS to choose Him over myself is pleasing to Him.

God’s Holy Spirit living in me has placed me in position through my obedience. Now I can love me and see the beauty in God’s creation. I live my life with intent as I pursue the path of righteousness. And I finally know my purpose. Everything that I lacked I have found in Christ Jesus.

Self-Care Sunday isn’t strictly for Sundays. It’s a practice that you should be doing every day; naturally and spiritually. This world is full of people who operate in their flesh. The same people who will speak death into you. Perhaps you’re the person speaking death into yourself. If you don’t know who you are or who God says you are I challenge to you seek Him to find out. I challenge you to live an of life of self-control, and obedience to God. I know with certainty that you will never see yourself in the same light after seeing yourself how God sees you.

Remember, Yeshua is the one who knows EVERYTHING about you and is also the one who loves you unconditionally through it all. Blessings.

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Let’s Talk Lifestyle – Doing Something New

Good Evening God’s people. I pray you’ve all spent the week living with intention and purpose. I wanted to share an experience that I had recently that was a first for me. My husband has really taken the initiative to make sure we are doing a new activity as a family at least once a month. This month he made reservations for us to go paint-balling. This is something that neither of us have done. We thought it would be a good idea to invite a few family members to join us. They were newbies as well. Before I dive into the specifics of this new venture, and how it ties into self-love. I would like to say for the record that I wasn’t nervous at all. Even after I was hit with the paintball that was traveling 275 fps. (Insert side eye emoji)

Now that my disclaimer is out of the way. We arrived at the park, and went through our “training.” They paired us with a few other first-timers and the “non-professional/professional” players. Lol. The other team consisted of a bunch of people who frequent the park. They even had semi-automatic paintball guns. (Insert side eye emoji times 2) I believe 120 seconds went by before I became a human target. The initial sting from being hit by a paintball gun was more surprising then anything. Don’t get me wrong it hurt. Even got a nice bruise when it was all said and done. The round ended shortly after I was taken out of the game, because someone shot me in the chest. That was considered a “kill shot.” After the first round my sister, and I were DONE. The men kept playing though. Even though it wasn’t for me I am so happy that I experienced this new adventure.

When I think about self-care and self-love I think about living my best life. Taking the time to experience a new activity that allows me to get some cardio in while bonding with my family is amazing. People will short themselves in life by doing the same thing over and over year after year. We should really take the time to see the world. If you’re unable to travel then do something locally. We often limit ourselves from experiences, because people associate new experiences with costly events. Life will literally pass you by if you allow all your decisions to be surrounded by money.

Tip: This week try something new that’s positive. Do something that you’ve never done that will allow you to bond with your family, and get your heart rate up. Create new happy experiences that you can reflect on in the future. It’s so easy to meditate on negative things. This is how the enemy torments us. Remember, “what you magnify you get more of.” (Pastor Steven Furtick) So choose to magnify happiness. Choose to magnify the Word of God. Choose to magnify the moments that stimulate you to be in a state of mindfulness. Most importantly choose to magnify life and living it more abundantly. Blessings.

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