How To P.R.A.Y

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. It’s Self-Care Sunday here on Mindful Of Me Moments. As a rule of thumb, we should all be practicing good self-care techniques daily. I’ve chosen Sundays to be the day that I touch base and provide tips to all of you. As you know I’m currently working my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to establish a relationship with Yahweh. It’s something that I believe will be very beneficial for the “New Christian” or someone who knows Christ and may need to brush up on the fundamentals of their intimate relationship with Him. After all, we can’t have self-care without having a relationship with Christ first. I mean He is the one who knows what we need. For this Self-Care Sunday, we are going to be talking about one of the tips provided in my upcoming book. That tip being “How To P.R.A.Y.” As always I pray that it inspires you to self-reflect and make adjustments as needed. Blessings.

I remember being a young girl and not knowing how to pray. The very first prayer that I learned came from Matthew 6, “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” You know the rest. If you grew up in church then this was probably your first prayer as well. I often times heard the elders in the church describe prayer as “having a conversation with God.” Was it that simple? I just open my mouth and talk to God like I talked to one of my home-girls? There had to be more to it than that. Surely, I would have to speak to Him with more depth and diction. Looking back now I probably spent more time wondering what He wanted me to say versus just speaking to Him. As my relationship with Him started to flourish there were some fundamental points that helped me in my prayer time.

Before we get into those points I thought it would be beneficial to understand why it’s important to pray. The bible says,

“Pray without ceasing.”

1 Thessalonians 5:17


“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”

Ephesians 6:18

There are many scriptures that explain the importance of prayer. In short, prayer is our display of faith, trust, love, and humility towards Jesus. It’s also a direct avenue to make our requests known to Him and a way to hear from Him. Ultimately, it serves as a catalyst in our relationship with our Father.

Now onto the fundamentals of prayer. Next time you P.RA.Y remember to Praise, Repent, Ask, & Yield.

PRAISE the Lord for who He is. He is wonderful. Marvelous in all His ways. He is King of Kings, Lord of Lords. He is the one and only true God. He is Mighty, our Everlasting Father, the Prince of Prince. He is what was, what is, and what will be. He is Unchanging. He is our Redeemer and Way-maker. Start all your prayers off with giving Him the praise that is due.

REPENT unto the Lord. The bible says, “we all fall short to the glory of God.” True repentance is more than our verbal declaration. It’s our ability to turn away from things that are not pleasing to God. When we pray with a repenting heart we are acknowledging to Yahweh that “we have sinned and we are making a decision to turn away from that sinful act moving forward.” The Bible requires us to confess our sins to God. There may be times that we’ve sinned and are not even aware of it. Make sure you’re praying that God reveals any area that you need to repent and when He does repent then turn away from it.

ASK the Lord. There are three things that the bible says we ought to do when asking God for something. We are to make sure our request glorify God, are parallel to His word, and that they bring joy. See John 14:13, John 15:7, and John 16:23-24. Once you’ve checked all three of those then ask away. “We have not because we ask not.” It’s not good enough to stand on the fact that God knows the desires of our heart. His word tells us that we have to ASK HIM. Whether you’re asking Him to move in someone else’s life or your own. Make sure you’re specific. Don’t ask for God to bless you with the rent for next month. Ask Him to bless you with the wisdom to handle your finances. See what I did there? Lol.

YIELD unto the Lord. This is one of my favorite points in the P.R.A.Y. fundamentals. Yield means to produce or provide. Biblically, it means to wait on or submit to. When we yield to God we are literally giving Him the opportunity to provide or produce a response to our prayer. I know right. No one ever told you to wait for Him to respond after your prayers. Welp, now you know. For me, this is where meditation takes place. I pray then I meditate in silence. I allow His Holy Spirit to comfort me and I wait until I feel released to move. Sometimes He reveals things to me. Other times He just provides me with peace and a clear mind. Either way, I’ve provided Him free range to speak back to me as He sees fit.

So there it is people of God. Our Self-Care Sunday Tip. “How To P.R.A.Y.” I pray that it helped those who may not know how to approach praying. I pray it aides as a refresher for those who already know Christ. I would love to know your fundamentals of prayer. Drop a comment below. I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

Let’s Talk Lifestyle – Doing Something New

Good Evening God’s people. I pray you’ve all spent the week living with intention and purpose. I wanted to share an experience that I had recently that was a first for me. My husband has really taken the initiative to make sure we are doing a new activity as a family at least once a month. This month he made reservations for us to go paint-balling. This is something that neither of us have done. We thought it would be a good idea to invite a few family members to join us. They were newbies as well. Before I dive into the specifics of this new venture, and how it ties into self-love. I would like to say for the record that I wasn’t nervous at all. Even after I was hit with the paintball that was traveling 275 fps. (Insert side eye emoji)

Now that my disclaimer is out of the way. We arrived at the park, and went through our “training.” They paired us with a few other first-timers and the “non-professional/professional” players. Lol. The other team consisted of a bunch of people who frequent the park. They even had semi-automatic paintball guns. (Insert side eye emoji times 2) I believe 120 seconds went by before I became a human target. The initial sting from being hit by a paintball gun was more surprising then anything. Don’t get me wrong it hurt. Even got a nice bruise when it was all said and done. The round ended shortly after I was taken out of the game, because someone shot me in the chest. That was considered a “kill shot.” After the first round my sister, and I were DONE. The men kept playing though. Even though it wasn’t for me I am so happy that I experienced this new adventure.

When I think about self-care and self-love I think about living my best life. Taking the time to experience a new activity that allows me to get some cardio in while bonding with my family is amazing. People will short themselves in life by doing the same thing over and over year after year. We should really take the time to see the world. If you’re unable to travel then do something locally. We often limit ourselves from experiences, because people associate new experiences with costly events. Life will literally pass you by if you allow all your decisions to be surrounded by money.

Tip: This week try something new that’s positive. Do something that you’ve never done that will allow you to bond with your family, and get your heart rate up. Create new happy experiences that you can reflect on in the future. It’s so easy to meditate on negative things. This is how the enemy torments us. Remember, “what you magnify you get more of.” (Pastor Steven Furtick) So choose to magnify happiness. Choose to magnify the Word of God. Choose to magnify the moments that stimulate you to be in a state of mindfulness. Most importantly choose to magnify life and living it more abundantly. Blessings.

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How I Started Meditating with Intention

Good Morning my brother/sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve been living with intention, and purpose on today. Just like many of you as I journey on my path to purpose and self-care I’m trying new things that make me press the pause button. Naturally, when I think about being at peace I think about meditating. Whether that’s meditating on the Word of God or meditating in a quiet place. My goal was to find a healthy alternative to some bad habits I had when I found myself stressed or having anxiety. (Tip: In order to be intentional you have to have a reason why you’re doing it. Then you have to establish an end goal.)

I began my meditation pursuit with the Google App store. Lol. There are so many apps that are geared toward meditation. I tired a few of them out. Listened to people telling me to, “focus on their voice. Clear my mind. Be one with myself.” I soon learned that listening to other people talk me through mantra’s wasn’t that peaceful. I spent most of the time thinking about other things. I found a few apps that didn’t have someone talking to me. Instead, they offered an extensive list of sounds. That wasn’t so bad. The only downfall was the app automatically placed ads on my phone. So I was annoyed, again. I finally did some research about things to focus on while meditating and came across what seems to be working for me now. So here is how I finally started meditating with intention:

  1. I first realized why I wanted to explore meditation as a self-care technique. I was drawn to meditation because it was something that I could do to add focus to my life.
  2. I then set a goal. My goal was to find out which meditation technique worked for me. You will have to try a few to find your fit.
  3. I came up with a time frame when to meditate. Ultimately, I would like to do it every day. At this current moment, I do it when I’m stressed, have anxiety, am feeling overwhelmed, or when I need to recharge.

Note: Often times we have a battle going on in our minds. Our thoughts can dictate how we feel, how we express ourselves, and how we react to certain situations. We spend a good amount of time trying to master our thoughts. You know, “show them who’s boss.” Mediation has truly allowed me to acknowledge my thoughts without allowing them to dictate my response. For instance, I acknowledge that work was stressful today. However, my mental focus is on peace. I choose to meditate on my breathing. Allowing each breathe to be intentional. Realizing that as I breathe slowly in through my nose, and out through my mouth that I’m blessed to be living. As I inhale and exhale it resembles the sounds of the music I’m listening to through my earbuds. This is important! I have a meditation Spotify playlist that I listen to THROUGH MY EARBUDS. The sound penetrates through me when it’s in close proximity versus me playing music over a speaker. (Sidenote: If you would like my Meditation Spotify Playlist email me mindfulofmemoments@gmail.com)

As I mention earlier I focus on my breathing when I meditate. I do that through my entire meditation session. I literally have never been so in-tune to inhaling or exhaling in my life. Lol. I wanted to share my breathing counts with you so that you can have a starting point when trying to develop meditation techniques. There are numerous breathing techniques on the web that you can find. I tried a few and decided to make up my own. (Sidenote: When meditating I am positioned in an upright stance with my legs crossed. I also do this sitting upright in a chair focusing on proper posture.) Here is my breathing technique:

  1. Inhale slowly through your nose taking air from stomach diaphragm. As you inhale slowly count to 5.
  2. Hold your breath for 2-3 seconds.
  3. Exhale slowly through your mouth making a whoosh sound. Count to 5.
  4. Repeat

Simple enough, right. Keep in mind folks I am a beginner. My meditation playlist is roughly 30 mins. That seems to be the sweet spot for my time frame currently. As I progress I’m sure I will adapt alternate breathing techniques and postures. As for now, I’m loving my new found zen. Remember, all of this is about self-care. Find something that you can do for yourself that brings you joy, and peace. Blessings.

 

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Create an Evening of Relaxation

You should always find time to spend with yourself. If you haven’t had the luxury of doing that throughout your week then start with one day out of the week. Sunday is my designated day to really create a luxurious self-care experience. I always take special care of myself by running an aromatherapy bath with candles, incense, cucumber slices for my eyes, avocado oatmeal face mask, a citrus or peppermint drink, and soothing music. I use my dry body brush before I bathe to exfoliate my skin. While I’m in the bath I always take time to speak life into myself. I resight my affirmations out loud. I speak things over myself like, “you are healed, you are whole, you are beautiful inside and out, your finances are thriving, your marriage is thriving, your blog is thriving, your business is thriving, you’re debt-free, through the Holy Spirit your business will reach a multitude of Gods people, you are obedient to the word of God, you are operating in your purpose.” These are just a few affirmations I resight daily as well as during my Self-Care Sunday routine.

After I’ve spoken life over myself I RELAX. Self-Care is just what it says it is. Taking care of yourself. Self-Care Sunday is less about the bath and more about the experience. Yes, baths are relaxing. I enjoy the aromatherapy from my bath, and how soothing it is to my body. Most importantly I enjoy the fact that I’ve become intentional about taking time for myself. It has allowed me to form the habit of finding peace of mind. We wear so many hats. Mother’s, wives, husbands, father’s, students, CEO’s, and a list of other roles. Taking time for you means you get to just be a person; even if it’s only for an hour. Lol. Maximize your self-care experience doing something that allows you to just spend time with yourself in a relaxing state. It may not be taking a bath or getting a pedicure. Maybe relaxation for you is listening to music in a quiet place, reading a book, taking a bike ride, going to the gym. However, you perceive relaxation make sure you’re thinking about yourself at some point weekly. Once you do that make sure you take time to speak life into yourself. The bible says, “there is life and death in the power of the tongue.” You will ultimately have what you speak. If no one has ever taken the time to speak life into you I challenge you to be the first person to consistently speak life into yourself.

Self-Care Sunday tip this week is to create your own self-care routine. Make sure you’re doing something that puts you in a state of relaxation, and also allows you time to speak life over yourself through affirmations. You only get one you so take of yourself. Blessings.

Everyone Loves a Good Pedicure

Everyone loves a good pedicure. Today, I spent 45 mins in the massage chair listening to some tunes and channeling my inner quiet. A good practice that I’ve acquired while being a frequent visitor to my local nail salon is leaving my list of to-dos at the door. When I treat myself to a pedi I make it a habit to enjoy the experience. It’s a special time that I don’t have to worry about meeting deadlines for work, cooking dinner, completing classwork, grocery shopping, cleaning my home, or tending to other people needs. It’s MY TIME, and I’m allowed to have MY TIME. I know that concept is so foreign to so many people. Who has time to spend with themselves? Lol. You do! I promise. Figuring out tools to promote relaxation starts with how you visualize what it means to relax. Relaxation means clearing your mind. Being in a state of peace. Next time you get a pedi make sure you’ve disconnected from social media, text messages, phone calls, and anything else that will distract you from focusing on being in a state of peace. Find some calming music, plug in your headphones, and allow your mind to take a break. You’re not just getting pretty toes. You’re getting time alone to take a breath. Sometimes that’s all you need to recharge.

What It Means to Be Mindful

Welcome my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. I am so happy that you’ve stopped by Mindful of Me Moments. If you know the Lord then you’re already aware that NOTHING just happens. You being here is a divine meeting. As you journey through my blog I pray that you’re able to gain clarity into the importance of being Intentional in your decision making, self-care, and ability to self-love.

To be Mindful is all about your ability to be Intentional. You’ll find several posts that will provide you with insight on how to live intentionally, discover your purpose, establish healthy relationships, move forward from your past, commit to your self-development along with the opportunity to shop for gifts that promote everything self-care. The health of your mind, body, and spirit are a necessity. Our goal at Mindful of Me Moments, LLC is to equip God’s people with the necessary tools for self-awareness and growth in order to live a life of purpose. Look around the blog, check out our features, and shop with us. Blessings!

REMEMBER, there is a God who is mindful of you and who loves you even in your darkest moments. Thank you for being here. Enjoy. Blessings.