Mindful Morning

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I won’t hold you long this morning I just wanted to share with you something the Holy Spirit shared with me last night. As I was in worship I asked Him what do the people need to know. The Holy Spirit said, “God requires us to give Him all of us, because He gave us all of Him.”

Maybe you’re someone who has struggled with giving God all of you. Maybe you find yourself repeating the same cycle of events that bring you no good. Maybe that thing you can’t seem to shake is your attitude. Maybe it’s your dependency on your job. Maybe it’s your trust in man. Maybe it’s trust in yourself. Whatever the case we serve a God who has already gone ahead of us and paid the ultimate price so that we can have life. There is nothing that we will lose that can compare to what God has already lost when He allowed His one and only son Jesus Christ to be sacrificed.

Remember, the fear you feel to lose it all for the name of Jesus is keeping you from the very thing that will completely transform your existence. Blessings.

Something to watch for – I talk about “How to give God your all” in my new book coming soon. Be looking out for the release of my book, “Relationship Goals.” A beginner guide to building your relationship with God.

Is Your Vision Limited?

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I was reading in the Gospels this morning. More specifically, John 1. Towards the end of the text, we find Jesus preparing to journey to Galilee. He calls, Philip to follow Him. Philip then goes to get Nathanael to whom he says, “We have found the one Moses wrote about in the Law, and about whom the prophets also wrote—Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” Skeptical, Nathanael replied, “Nazareth! Can anything good come from there?” Once they arrived the conversation went like this:

When Jesus saw Nathanael approaching, he said of him, “Here truly is an Israelite in whom there is no deceit.” “How do you know me?” Nathanael asked. Jesus answered, “I saw you while you were still under the fig tree before Philip called you.” Then Nathanael declared, “Rabbi, you are the Son of God; you are the king of Israel.” Jesus said, “You believe because I told you I saw you under the fig tree. You will see greater things than that.” He then added, “Very truly I tell you, you will see ‘heaven open, and the angels of God ascending and descending on’ the Son of Man.” John 1:47‭-‬51 NIV

After reading the text I immediately felt the prompting of the Holy Spirit asking me, “have you ever limited Gods ability?” I can remember times where all I wanted was to know that God was listening to me. Not understanding that He knows all, sees all, and has a plan for my life. Maybe like me, you’re someone who needed healing from their past, control of their finances, or peace. All circumstances that Jesus Christ sees.

The Holy Spirit continued to speak to me. Saying, “What we perceive as hard times doesn’t even qualify as an issue to God.” I can look back over my life and glimpses of the times where I was stuck in my hurt, pain, and loss of identity will pop up. They serve as a reminder that I spent so much of my time focused on how I saw myself and what I was going through when God already knew. Not only did He know me but in spite of my flaws, there were things he wanted to do in me that I couldn’t even begin to imagine.

I believe that sometimes when we spend so long desiring to be healed, financially stable, or just to have consistent peace that’s all we can see. We pray without ceasing for our circumstance to change, for our living situation to change, for our relationships to change. Then we find out that as we seek God more He changes less of those things and more of us.

So how does this all tie together with Nathanael and Jesus? Nathanael believes that Jesus is the Messiah because Jesus sees Him under a fig tree. Guess what? No matter what your prayer is or what you’ve been through Jesus sees you. Jesus then goes on to say, you believe I’m the Messiah because I told you I saw you under the tree? He may be saying to us, “You believe I’m the Messiah because you got that promotion?” That’s not even the beginning of what I can really do in your life. Just wait and see what I’m really capable of doing. Heaven will open up and angels will appear. The God that we pray to over relationships ending, doors closing, and our finances. Is the same God who will open the windows of Heaven. Heaven! While we’re worried about Him blessings us with a new car. 

We have to stop asking God the perform a miracle on circumstances that He has equipped us to handle. Not everything we pray about requires fire from heaven. This is why He changes us instead of the circumstance because if He can change us then we can change the circumstance.

God sees you. He hears you. You are significant. So much so that he knows the number of hairs on your head. I challenge you today to change how you see Jesus. Understand there’s more to Him than just helping us which means there’s more to us. God has placed all these amazing talents and gifts inside of you. We have to allow our vision to be more like God. I encourage you to see yourself. Get a good look. Then realize that the God who opens Heaven Spirit lives within you. You’re capable of more than what you think. Stop limiting the capacity of the gift that is Christ Jesus. Remember, you ain’t seen nothing yet. Blessings.

 

Faith Check

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week thus far living intentionally and with purpose. I wanted to do a check-in with you this morning and see if your faith is flowing or running on E? We know the bible requires us to have Faith in Christ saying, And without faith, it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.(Heb 11:6) The two things that stick out to me in this scripture are: impossible to please God and earnestly seek him. We understand that faith is our ability to trust in Jesus Christ. So when our Faith seems to be fading we are essentially losing trust in God. I believe this is why the Bible says we are to “earnestly seek him.” Earnestly meaning with intense, serious conviction. How can we have full trust in someone we spend no time getting to know?

So where are you this morning in your Faith walk with Christ? If you’re worried about something that you’ve prayed to God about then your faith may be wavering. If you’ve started to take matters into your own hands after you’ve believed God for it then your Faith may be wavering. If you’ve counted yourself out or second guessed what you’ve prayed for then your Faith may be wavering.

I encourage you to get back on track with your Faith today. In your prayer time, ask Jesus if you’ve been wavering with your trust in Him. If you have, repent. I want to leave you with a few scriptures that help build our Faith. I pray that they encourage you. Blessings.

“Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ.”

Romans 10:17


“But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.”

James 1:6


“But my righteous one will live by faith. And I take no pleasure in the one who shrinks back. But we do not belong to those who shrink back and are destroyed, but to those who have faith and are saved.”

Hebrews 10:38-39

“In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.”

Ephesians 6:16

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds,  because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.”

James 1:2-3
Remember, God is always Faithful. He doesn’t stop being faithful because we’re impatient.

How To P.R.A.Y

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. It’s Self-Care Sunday here on Mindful Of Me Moments. As a rule of thumb, we should all be practicing good self-care techniques daily. I’ve chosen Sundays to be the day that I touch base and provide tips to all of you. As you know I’m currently working my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to establish a relationship with Yahweh. It’s something that I believe will be very beneficial for the “New Christian” or someone who knows Christ and may need to brush up on the fundamentals of their intimate relationship with Him. After all, we can’t have self-care without having a relationship with Christ first. I mean He is the one who knows what we need. For this Self-Care Sunday, we are going to be talking about one of the tips provided in my upcoming book. That tip being “How To P.R.A.Y.” As always I pray that it inspires you to self-reflect and make adjustments as needed. Blessings.

I remember being a young girl and not knowing how to pray. The very first prayer that I learned came from Matthew 6, “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” You know the rest. If you grew up in church then this was probably your first prayer as well. I often times heard the elders in the church describe prayer as “having a conversation with God.” Was it that simple? I just open my mouth and talk to God like I talked to one of my home-girls? There had to be more to it than that. Surely, I would have to speak to Him with more depth and diction. Looking back now I probably spent more time wondering what He wanted me to say versus just speaking to Him. As my relationship with Him started to flourish there were some fundamental points that helped me in my prayer time.

Before we get into those points I thought it would be beneficial to understand why it’s important to pray. The bible says,

“Pray without ceasing.”

1 Thessalonians 5:17


“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”

Ephesians 6:18

There are many scriptures that explain the importance of prayer. In short, prayer is our display of faith, trust, love, and humility towards Jesus. It’s also a direct avenue to make our requests known to Him and a way to hear from Him. Ultimately, it serves as a catalyst in our relationship with our Father.

Now onto the fundamentals of prayer. Next time you P.RA.Y remember to Praise, Repent, Ask, & Yield.

PRAISE the Lord for who He is. He is wonderful. Marvelous in all His ways. He is King of Kings, Lord of Lords. He is the one and only true God. He is Mighty, our Everlasting Father, the Prince of Prince. He is what was, what is, and what will be. He is Unchanging. He is our Redeemer and Way-maker. Start all your prayers off with giving Him the praise that is due.

REPENT unto the Lord. The bible says, “we all fall short to the glory of God.” True repentance is more than our verbal declaration. It’s our ability to turn away from things that are not pleasing to God. When we pray with a repenting heart we are acknowledging to Yahweh that “we have sinned and we are making a decision to turn away from that sinful act moving forward.” The Bible requires us to confess our sins to God. There may be times that we’ve sinned and are not even aware of it. Make sure you’re praying that God reveals any area that you need to repent and when He does repent then turn away from it.

ASK the Lord. There are three things that the bible says we ought to do when asking God for something. We are to make sure our request glorify God, are parallel to His word, and that they bring joy. See John 14:13, John 15:7, and John 16:23-24. Once you’ve checked all three of those then ask away. “We have not because we ask not.” It’s not good enough to stand on the fact that God knows the desires of our heart. His word tells us that we have to ASK HIM. Whether you’re asking Him to move in someone else’s life or your own. Make sure you’re specific. Don’t ask for God to bless you with the rent for next month. Ask Him to bless you with the wisdom to handle your finances. See what I did there? Lol.

YIELD unto the Lord. This is one of my favorite points in the P.R.A.Y. fundamentals. Yield means to produce or provide. Biblically, it means to wait on or submit to. When we yield to God we are literally giving Him the opportunity to provide or produce a response to our prayer. I know right. No one ever told you to wait for Him to respond after your prayers. Welp, now you know. For me, this is where meditation takes place. I pray then I meditate in silence. I allow His Holy Spirit to comfort me and I wait until I feel released to move. Sometimes He reveals things to me. Other times He just provides me with peace and a clear mind. Either way, I’ve provided Him free range to speak back to me as He sees fit.

So there it is people of God. Our Self-Care Sunday Tip. “How To P.R.A.Y.” I pray that it helped those who may not know how to approach praying. I pray it aides as a refresher for those who already know Christ. I would love to know your fundamentals of prayer. Drop a comment below. I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

Don’t Let Your Ego “Edge God Out”

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. Can you believe January is already over? How are you guys doing with your 2019 goals? Have any adjustments happened with your vision for this year? They have for me. Lol. The overall vision is the same but the path in which it’ll happen has slightly changed. With thirty-three days in the books Yahweh has already slowed me down. Many of you know I finished my Vision Board a week or so before the new year. My goals cosisted of growth in my relationship with Christ, my marriage, my brand, this blog, and a list of other ventures. The more I attempted to reach these deadlines that I set for myself God was directing my attention to the journey that has to happen before I reach the destination. I guess you can say my EGO was getting the best of me.

I was listening to a podcast the other day and the guy referenced his EGO getting in his way. Now I’m not someone who relishes in my own accomplishments. All glory be to God for anything that he has strengthened me through or allowed me to obtain. As the podcast continued he mentions that a pastor told him that when we have a big EGO we are essentially “Edging God Out.” #MindBlown Had I Edged God Out in my bedazzled Vision Board and 2019 Goals? Couldn’t have I thought. I mean He is in the midst of every goal that I have for this year. The more I talked to Yahweh about it He began to reveal to me how my EGO was getting in the way.

Even though my vision was from God I didn’t account for the time needed to prepare for the vision. I started the process but had no expectation of the next steps which left me doing what I thought was necessary. I was leaning on my own understanding. Even for God’s glory. I found myself making all these plans that glorify God but in the same moment, I was edging him out of my preparation process. There is nothing in this world that we will do that doesn’t require seed, time and harvest. If God has planted a seed in you there is no skipping the “time” that is needed before the harvest.

In due season, what is planted inside of you will grow. Continue to allow God to cultivate you through the process.

Maybe Christ has given you a vision to write a book, start a credit repair business, an apparel shop, or become a life coach. There is absolutely no way to bypass the necessary journey that you have to take in order to flourish in your God-Given area. There are levels that require our participation as we are on our journey to becoming who we were created to be.

You can find preparation thorughout the bible,

“Put your outdoor work in order
    and get your fields ready;
    after that, build your house.”

Proverbs 24:26

So what’s the takeaway? Start. God has given you a vision for your life then start. Start the process and allow Yahweh to guide you through each and every step. God isn’t our phone a friend when we are stuck. His place is in front of us before we even make the step. I spoke about being in the process of writing my first book. I had the opportunity of attending a Master Class that focused on “Writing Your First Book & Self-Publishing.” I learned so much that I had no idea about prior to taking the class. The knowledge was necessary as I journey to becoming a first-time author. Don’t allow your EGO to Edge God Out of your preparation process. Blessings.

Create! Just remember to include Christ in the process.

Update: I went to a Christian Women’s Bible Study last night and it truly was a release for me. I really underestimated how much I missed being able to fellowship with other Women of God. Right at the end, they asked us to write down what we were hearing from God. He simply told me, “Go and be free TRULY Tiffany.” It was as if I still had a spec of my past self in my heart and in that moment Yahweh released me from it. Glory be to God.

Also, I just booked my first speaking engagement of the year. I am so honored and excited about the event. The subject, “There is Beauty in The Vision.” What a befitting topic. Details coming soon. Love you with the love of the Lord.

Mindful Morning

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I don’t normally write a blog this early in the morning but I’m so full with God’s Holy Spirit that I had to write about it. The past few days I’ve continued to hear and see the same message. All having to do with living out your purpose. I am someone who still works a 9-5 but is transitioning into becoming a full-time entrepreneur. I know that this year is my year of preparation for that transition. I attended a Masterclass Tuesday evening. “How To Write & Self-Publish A Book.” For those who don’t know I am currently working on my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to build a relationship with God. I’m completely honored for the vision that Christ has given me for the project and can’t wait till it comes out.

So what does this have to do with you? I’m glad you asked. God created every single one of us with a purpose. There is a special work in you that is instrumental to the Kingdom of God. It is our business to find out what that work is then complete it. There is someone waiting for you to write that book, start that business, become that Doctor, obtain that License. Whatever the call is on your life know that it is bigger than you. Don’t hold up someone’s deliverance because you refuse to be who you were created to be. I want us all to win. So go be great! After all, you were created to dwell in greatness.

Today, I challenge you to do more for your purpose. If you already know God’s purpose for your life then invest in it. Take a class, network with people in that field, supplement leisure time for more time in your calling. Find a balance but definitely increase your efforts if need be. I love you with the love of the Lord. I can’t wait to see the things you’ll accomplish for the Kingdom of God.

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My Comments Were Turned Off

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve been living intentionally and with purpose. I recently noticed not many people were replying to my blog post. Not that I’m looking for it. Anyhow, I figured out that my comments were turned off. I have no clue how that happened. Needless to say, you are now able to comment on my posts. Thank the Lord. I look forward to your feedback on my content. I love reading and posting comments on other blogs so it’s great to see it in return. I love you all with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

God Is Within You

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. It is Self-Care Sunday here on “Mindful of Me Moments.” I haven’t posted a Self-Care Sunday Blog in awhile so I’m excited to touch base with you all. As always I pray that this post inspires you to self-reflect and allows your heart to be open to what God’s Holy Spirit is showing you. Blessings.

Today, my husband and I woke up early to meal prep for the week. We tried out a new grocery delivery service which worked out great. We put some meat on the grill and I made all the sides. As the day progressed I found myself feeling blah. No particular reason at all. Just wasn’t myself. I could have dwelled in that feeling, but thank the Lord I didn’t. I got up about 7 pm, got dressed and went for a jog. While I was jogging I found myself worshiping Jesus while the music played in my headset. When I returned home I followed up with some weightlifting in my gym. I then ran my aromatherapy bath and caught a live feed from a fellow Christian Entrepreneur. I prepared my peppermint tea, meditated, and relaxed in my bath. What a Self-Care Sunday it was…..

So why was this important for me to blog about? I’ll tell you. All day I felt such a spirit of heaviness. I didn’t want to do anything except lay in bed and dwell in my discomfort. How many times have you allowed the spirit of heaviness, doubt, worry, or fear take over you? Don’t you know that those aren’t spirits of God? Instead of dwelling in those spirits I made a decision to get up and take care of myself. In the midst of that, I including Yahweh. He reminded me that, “We should never get so far from Him that we no longer see Him in us.” Wow! Even if you attribute how you’re feeling to an “off day.” We still have to remember whose spirit is within us.

Self-Care Sunday is more than just exercising, bubble baths, and relaxation. It’s about creating an atmosphere that ushers in the spirit of God. It’s about being thankful that Christ has given you another week to live out your purpose. It’s about acknowledging how valuable your existence is. It’s about taking a moment to appreciate this wonderfully made being that God has created in you. Don’t overlook how dynamic you are. Take the time to Self-Care. You’re unlike anything this earth has ever seen. Thank God for making you. Blessings.

Look how special you are,


“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.”

Psalm 139:14-16

Thank you to everyone who has followed me recently. If you have a blog I will definitely be checking out your content this week. I love meeting new bloggers and am very interactive. Look forward to meeting you all soon. I love you with the love of the Lord.

My Broken Pieces

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. As I was getting ready for work this morning I listened to a sermon by TD Jakes entitled, “Nothing As Powerful As A Changed Mind.” It’s an older sermon but was definitely on time for me this morning. If you read my previous blog then you are aware that I’ve been reflecting on God’s hand in my life over the last year. Not that I’m living in the past but I’m acknowledging the transitional growth that has taken place. In the sermon, Bishop Jakes talks about the importance of changing our default setting. My local pastor preached this same word last year at the exact moment that I relinquished everything that I was in order for Yahweh to rewire my own default setting. One thing that Bishop Jakes said in his sermon that stood out to me was, “You know when you’ve changed when your sin is no longer your normal. Not that you won’t mess up ever again but that it’s abnormal when you do. Your desire to go back to it no longer exist.” I can truly say that over the past year my desire to be my former self truly died. I feel out of place thinking or doing some of the things that I use to do. My old decisions don’t make sense to me anymore now that God has changed my mind. What made this time different from all the other times I prayed for God to change my situation? To change me? Unlike, the other times I prayed for deliverance this time I wasn’t afraid of what I would lose once the change started to take place. I wasn’t hesitant to lose everything that I knew in order to discover the newness of who I was in Christ. What is the prayer that you’ve continued to pray over and over? Are you ready to change your default setting? What are you afraid of losing? Let’s talk about it.

A default setting is a preexisting value of a user. Typically, our default settings are formed from how we were raised, our experiences, and generational trends. It is the thing we return to time and time again. It may be triggered by obstacles, verbal concerns, or people. If you’ve ever prayed for God to heal you in a certain area or prayed about not going through the same things over and over. You may be still operating in your default setting somewhere in your life.

I did a blog post about Faith and Works not too long ago. See here. In the post, I talked about the requirement of us to balance the two. We can’t have one without the other. I never understood that my prayers required action on my part. It wasn’t good enough to pray for financial growth then spend my money on clothes and shoes. It wasn’t efficient to pray that my relationship with God would develop and only talk to Him on Sunday. I believe I’m still referencing this transforming revelation because the Lord keeps revealing new layers of it to me. Each time He gives me a deeper understanding. For me, it started with a decision to be obedient to His instruction. I then had to face who I had been and the things I had done over the years. I had to repent and fall out of agreement with those things. I had to allow Christ to change my mind and heart. Then I had to give God full access to break me in order to make me whole. I had to understand that the broken pieces of me were necessary. The hurt of losing people, the pain of revisiting my past, the confusion of letting go of everything that made me who I had been up until that point. All necessary. I finally understood that God couldn’t heal what was not broken. He had to break my thoughts, my understanding, my default setting, my relationships, and my habits. So know when we pray for healing we’re also praying to first be broken.

Are you ready for God to truly change you? It’s going to cost you something, but the price we pay is nothing compared to the payoff. Blessings.

“God, pick up the pieces. Put me back together again. You are my Praise.”

Jeremiah 17:14 (The Message)

What God Expects

Hello, my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve all been living intentionally and with purpose. It’s been about a week since my last blog post. I’ve been quite busy rearranging my thoughts and projects. So here is the update: I’ve decided to change “Faith, Food, & Fitness” to a once a month series. It’s more efficient for me to provide information when it’s a 30-day goal. The next post will be on 2/1/19. It will still include goals for the month and tips. Next update: my birthday was on 1/22/19. (Insert Confetti) I am now 33 years of age. I spent my birthday at work and with my husband. Matter of fact I believe I went to bed around 9 pm. Lol. #OldLadyGang I’ve been preparing to make a huge transition. Can’t really expound upon it but let’s just say its a move in the right direction. I’ve also been working on products for my store. Lastly, I spent the week just breathing. I know we do that anyway but I took a mental break from my surroundings. I think we all need to do that from time to time. Anywho, that’s about it. I won’t keep you long today. Just want to share my takeaway from my mental vaca. Pray it blesses you.

Each year as my birthday approaches I tend to reflect over the previous year. I acknowledge what I’ve accomplished and the challenging situations I faced. This year I did something a little different. I focused on God’s hand in my life over the past year. Taking the spotlight off of me and placing it on Him. When I did that He spoke to me. He gave me a word for our relationship this year. Faithfulness! On my 33rd Birthday, I decreed that this year for God and I would be the year of Faithfulness. He’s always faithful so it was really a decree from me to Him. My prayer the last few weeks has been that I would no longer have relationships or interactions with people or things unless it looked like God. “Look like God,” meaning His characteristics. However, this Faithfulness decree is my personal pledge to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Truer words never spoken.

So I took a week away from blogging and posting on Instagram to just surrender to His peaceful presence. I wrote down the highlights of our conversations. He even gave me insight on a journal series I’m working on that will be available for purchase soon, Lord willing. Needless to say, I am truly grateful for how far He has brought me. I’m grateful that my desires have changed and that I crave His presence more than anything or anyone else. I have mantra’s in so many areas of my life for this year, but this one means the most. This mantra is just for Him and I. I almost didn’t want to share it on the blog. Lol. However, I was released to…

Have you established a “One Word” goal for your relationship with Christ this year? What will be your personal pledge to Him? How do you plan on growing your relationship with Him this year? He’s done so much for us. We can’t repay Him but we can show Him that His love for us isn’t in vein. I challenge you to take some time to
“Just Breathe.” While you’re in His presence listen for His response. What is He expecting from you this year? He expects Faithfulness from me. So Faithfulness I will gladly give.

Remember, a one-sided relationship isn’t a relationship at all. Stop asking God to bless your relationship when you refuse to have one with Him. Blessings.

Top 100 Christian Women Blog Award

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I received an email last week from Feedspot. To my surprise, “Mindful Of Me Moments” was featured on their 2019 Top Christian Women Blogs. You can imagine I was honored and excited. I started my blog in September 2018. Even in this small amount of time, I have been privileged to featured on more than one platform. I’ve also had the opportunity to meet so many other amazing writers. Blogging is truly a community within itself. I look forward to the continued growth of my blog and being able to experience other blogger journey’s. Again, Thank You Feedspot for taking the time to be Mindful of Me. Blessings.

On Feedspot

Womb Care

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week thus far living intentionally and with purpose. At the beginning of this year, I started to pray to Yahweh that all of my relationships moving forward would look like Him. I didn’t want to be connected to or in agreement with anyone or anything that didn’t bring Him glory. In doing so, this included one of my most intimate relationships. That being between myself and my womb. My Mother challenged me to change my perception of my womb. Before I dive into the discovery of my innermost worthy place. I must credit this new found perspective to her. God has truly given her insight in regard to this subject and in return she has shared many of their conversations with me. Now, this post isn’t just for us women. Men can learn a thing or two about the gift that keeps on giving. Either way, I pray that all who reads this post will be encouraged to evaluate their own perception in regard to the womb. Blessings.

I remember the day I got my period for the first time. I was sixteen years old. Late bloomer. I prayed that God would put off me having to wear a diaper and feel the horrible cramps that I heard so much about. I cried like a baby when she came for the first time. She would visit me ten days out of the month bringing along her immobilizing cramps. I hated her. The older I was the more inconsistent she was. Some months she would come and some months she wouldn’t. By the time I got married and desired to have children she showed me again how much she wasn’t my friend. We still haven’t conceived to his day. I can firmly say that not only did she bring me physical discomfort; she brought me emotional pain. I spent so many years feeling as though she was broken. Why couldn’t she do what she was designed to do? Why did she have to be my burden? The thing that inconvenienced my body? I knew some women who would get pregnant if you just looked at them. Others would only see her 3 times a month. But not me. I wasn’t so lucky.

My Monthly Position

A few months ago my Mother asked me to write a letter to my Womb. I know that sounds crazy. She read me a poem that she wrote about her womb and it brought tears to my eyes. It detailed a story about the betrayal of her womb, self-inflicted. She followed up by telling me what God had shown her about her Womb. Again, I was brought to tears. I too had betrayed my Womb.

Did you know that as a woman our gift from God is our Womb. It is the thing that brings forth life. The thing that pleases our husband. It’s also the place that the enemy attacks. Infertility, PCOS, Uterine Fibroids, Endometriosis, Cancer, Excruciating Cramps, Sexual Abuse. All attacks that come against our ability as women to reproduce. Attacks to prevent the growth of our lineage. Attacks that alter our perception about her. Attacks that end up making us curse her instead of praising the fact that she gives life. If you’ve ever dreaded your monthly cycle. You’ve cursed her. If you’ve ever opted to remove your reproductive organs. You’ve cursed her. If you’ve ever wished you never had her. You’ve cursed her. The list goes on and on.

So when we talk about Womb Care we have to think about the physical, emotional, and spiritual relationship we have with her. Physical speaks to our hygiene, as well as, what we allow to come into contact with her. Emotional is how we feel about her. Even in times of discomfort are we proud that she is our prized possession? Spiritual is understanding the beauty and strength that she holds while protecting her against demonic attacks. The very thing that produces life has to be honored as such. We have to take her back from anyone and anything that has spoken death to her. She is our gift from God. So how can we reject God’s gift?

The great thing about God is that even we are ignorant about things that we do. He gives us clarity and understanding which allows Him access to reverse our destruction. Don’t you know He never gives us anything without preparing us? Even during our moments of pain, it’s time that we celebrate our prized possession. Our Womb.

For the rest of the week I challenge you to change your perspective of your womb. If you’re a man I challenge you to change your appreciation for your wife’s womb or the womb of women as a whole.

Remember, even our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ passed through the Womb of a Woman. What if she had cursed the place where He was to be born from…...

“Whenever a woman is in labor she has pain, because her hour has come; but when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy that a child has been born into the world.”

John 16:21

Faith, Food, & Fitness


“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

How we living people of God? We’ve arrived! I Pray you’re ready! We have made it to the first “Faith, Food, & Fitness” series blog. I have been preparing for this series for several months now. As Yahweh began transforming me earlier last year he gave me the word, Intentional. He told me that He wanted me to be Intentional about myself, my mind, body, and spirit. Nearly a year later we finally have what is, “Faith, Food, & Fitness.” This is a series that will have a permanent position here at “Mindful of Me Moments” for the duration of 2019. Every Friday you can look forward to a variation of tips, recipes, workouts, encouragement, and scriptural references that will assist you in being more mindful of your spiritual, mental, and physical health. My prayer is that this series will aid in transforming the way we think and inspires us to take better care of the bodies God has lent us. As a disclaimer, I am not a nutritionist or personal trainer. I am merely a Child of God who hears from the Holy Spirit and does her research. Now that we have that out the way. Are you excited yet? Lol. I truly am! If you could see what God has shown me about this series you would be too. So let’s do this…..

Faith

“Faith” is defined as complete trust in something or someone. As children of God, the expectation is that we have complete faith in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Anyone that knows Him knows how merciful and powerful He is towards His children. So much so that he covers all our faults. His word talks about it in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10. The Word of God says,


“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Perhaps you are someone who has struggled with your health mental or physical. Whether it be excess weight, not enough weight, High Blood Pressure, Diabetes, swelling, aches, pains, or just the mental anguish of self-portrayal. We have to have Faith in the Word of God. In our weakness, our self-image, our perception of our flaws, our understanding of what a healthy mind, body, and spirit are. We are required to have Faith in Christ in all these instances. We have to believe that in our struggles He is truly our strength not just to endure hardships but to overcome and change the way we perceive them. So in the “Faith” section of this series, we will be building and strengthing our relationship with God. In doing so, Yahweh will serve as the foundation of our journey to obtain optimal spiritual, mental, and physical wellness. In efforts of getting you started in your faith building, there will be a goal for you to focus on and reach for the upcoming week in each section. Some goals will be broad others will be precise.

This week’s “Faith Goal” is to find 1 scripture that requires you to perform an act of obedience to God. It can be anything. There are scriptures that talk about being slow to talk and quick to listen. In the book of Proverbs, you will find scriptures that have instructions about how we ought to live. When we are obedient to God our Faith grows. So find 1 scripture and do what it says ALL WEEK. I’m laughing but very serious.

Time to grow in Faith.

Food

“Food” is defined as any nutritious substance that people or animals eat or drink or that plants absorb in order to maintain life and growth. You read that right. Nutritious! Maintain LIFE and GROWTH! Makes you think twice about that pizza, french fries, tacos, and ice cream we love so much. I’ve shared in a prior blog that last year I was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure. As of recent, I’ve found out that I’m pre-diabetic. See what happens when we aren’t intentional about our health. God gave me that word last year and my disobedience to it has resulted in ailments that could kill me. When we think about food I don’t know too many people that tie it to our relationship with God. I am approaching a year since I started my self-care journey with Yahweh, and in this time He has really given me insight about food. What we choose to feed our bodies naturally is just as important as what we feed our bodies spiritually. The Holy Spirit lives within us so why would we only feed our spirit and allow our physical bodies to be poisoned by foods that will cause a natural death? Makes no sense, right? I believe that when we finally understand that our existence belongs to God. Then we will understand that we have a responsibility to take care of the bodies He LENT us.

Some of you may find comfort in unhealthy foods. Maybe you eat healthy already and “treat” yourself from time to time with a dessert or “cheat meal.” I know I’ve been that person. Don’t you know that eating things that can cause Congestive Heart Failure, Diabetes, or High Blood Pressure isn’t comforting? Doesn’t sound like much of treat either. To add to that when was the last time you heard of cheating being a good thing? Lol. Really think about it. We have to allow Yahweh to change our abusive relationship with food.

This week’s “Food Goal” is to replace 1 bad food choice with a healthy food choice every day for the ENTIRE week. Give up something that is killing your physical health and replace it will something that will help your health. This is not a chore. Food can either heal us or kill us. Find excitement in discovering enjoyable healthy options that will give you life. Make sure you’re also adding your food mindsets and struggles into your prayer time with Yahweh. Remember, in our weakness, He is made strong which means we have access to that same strength.

Breakfast Smoothie with 3 handfuls of spinach. 1 cup of frozen unsweetened pineapples and rhubarbs. Unsweetened almond milk.

Fitness

“Fitness” is defined as the condition of being physically fit and healthy. Being a person who was successful in being fit years ago. I know how it feels to love to workout and how it feels to hate working out. Years ago I wanted to go into law enforcement. In order for me to do so, I needed to be able to take the physical exam. I believe at that time it consisted of a mile run under 8 mins, 40 push-ups (timed), 50 or 60 sit-ups (timed), and the sit and reach. At 300 pounds that wasn’t realistic. So I decided to get fit so that I could pursue my then dream to become a cop. It took 11 months but I did it. From 300 plus pounds to about 200 pounds. I was strong. I went from a 45-minute mile to an 8-minute mile. I cried! I killed my numbers for the push-ups and sit-ups. I worked out 6 days a week, twice a day, roughly 4 hours a day. #BeastMode I would like to put a pin right here by saying, “You Don’t Have To Go Do This.” I had a goal and at that time nothing was going to come in between me and that goal. A couple of years later and I chose to not become a cop. In doing so, the weight returned. Present day I needed a new goal. What would be my new motivation for working out?

I’ve found a mixture of two reasons to be motivated to workout. Those being my high blood pressure and pre-diabetic state. The other is understanding that this body isn’t mine to keep. God LENT it to me and I have a responsibility to take care of it. He loves who and what He created. How dare I show my gratitude and appreciation for Him by mistreating the thing He created? What I’m learning about my body is that it’s not mine to do whatever I want with it. It belongs to God. We should all aspire for these bodies of ours to be a strong tower. I mean they do house His Holy Spirit.


This week’s “Fitness Goal” is to spend at least 15-30 mins of some type of exercise for 6 days. You can rest on the 7th day. You can walk on your lunch break at work. You can do a workout video at home. You can dance in your living room. You can clean your house without sitting down. This journey is progressive so starting with 15-30 mins of moving more than what you normally would do is great. Whatever you choose to do make sure it’s something that you actually like to do. Get creative. Make sure you’re adding to your daily prayer that Yahweh changes your mindset of working out. Pray for a spirit that loves to be healthy. Speak it into existence. You know. Faith and Works.

Yes, I own these. No, I didn’t just buy them. No, I’ve never completed any of them. Yes, this is my new fitness goal. Lol. To finish all of these this year one DVD at a time.

Recap

This Week’s Goal’s

  1. This week’s “Faith Goal” is to find 1 scripture that requires you to perform an act of obedience to God ALL week.
  2. This week’s “Food Goal” is to replace 1 bad food choice with a healthy food choice every day for the ENTIRE week.
  3. This week’s “Fitness Goal” is to spend at least 15-30 mins of some type of exercise for 6 days. You can rest on the 7th day.

We made it through the first week’s instructions. I pray that you’ve been inspired. I pray it has changed your perspective even if just a little. Next Friday I will be posting all of my outcomes from the goals and will have a new more specific list of goals. As always I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

I got you, God. Let’s do this.

Being Present In The Process

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. We are in the second week of the new year and I pray you’ve spent your time thus far living Intentionally and with Purpose. I was recently listening to a podcast from a business coach I follow. She said something that really resonated with me. She said, “Your business is a baby. Babies aren’t born immediately.” It reminded me of one of my previous blogs, “Am I in Proper Position.” In this blog, I referenced how God showed me that I was in my incubation period. Incubation being in a state that provides optimal conditions for growth and development. 

Yahweh was growing and developing me. He was also growing and developing my relationships, purpose, and business. Along with my long list of 2019 goals. I had to purpose in mind to take the time to “Be Present in the Process” while allowing Yahweh to continually grow and develop me. It’s so easy to want to microwave your goals, relationships, and purpose. Even when we know things come out better when they have fully developed over time. So let’s talk about just being present. As always, I pray that this blog inspires you to self-reflect and allow correction in areas where you may need an extra moment of Mindfulness.


The Word of God says,

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

Matthew 6:34

If you’re anything like me then you’ve already started working on your 2019 goals. Even though I’m a stickler for making a goal, and putting a date on it. I found myself thinking, “How am I going to reach some of these goals this year?” Then during my meditation time the Lord revealed to me that some of my goals are more about the progression towards the goal versus actually completing the goal before the end of the year. To be honest, I was relieved. I didn’t want to get so wrapped up in the completion part that I forget about the steps that need to take place before the finished product. My blog, business, and relationships all are things that require daily progression. Not everything will have a date of completion. Some of our goals are simply a continual progression of growth. That understanding alone should prompt us all to remove daily pressures and just focus on “Being Present in the Process” of our growth and development.

Meditation for me has always been about being present in a state of rest. Allowing my thoughts to be still in the moment. It reminded me not to take for granted my ability to be present in the midst of my to-dos. It reminded me to, “Slow Down.”


The Lord replied, “My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”

Exodus 33:14

I encourage you to sort out your 2019 goals and acknowledge the ones that are about progression versus completion. I also encourage you to take the time to find a moment of rest in the midst of your process. Don’t be overwhelmed with completing things that you will forever be continually growing in. Allow yourself to feel and see how you’re evolving. Don’t diminish your level of growth by focusing on a finish line that isn’t there. Be Present in the Process. Blessings.

The Balancing Act – Faith vs Works

Happy New Year my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve made plans to live intentionally and with purpose this year. We’ve made it all the way through 2018 by God’s grace and mercy. I am truly excited about 2019 and everything that’s in store for the next 12 months. I have an upcoming series that will start 1/11/19 entitled, “Faith, Food, & Fitness.” You can anticipate tips, recipes, workouts, and scriptural reference every Friday beginning 1/11/19. As the body of Christ, it’s important that we are intentional about the body that God has given us. It’s not just something that we use every day; it’s also the place where the Holy Spirit lives. I’ll be discussing my own experiences along with my journey to becoming my healthiest in my mind, body, and spirit. I’m super excited about this series and can’t wait to blog about it.


As always, I pray that today’s post will inspire you to self-reflect and make adjustments as needed with the help of Yahweh. Blessings.

I was sitting at my desk this morning and the Lord dropped in my spirit, “Faith without Works is dead.” A familiar scripture that I’m sure most of you have heard or recited a time or two. He followed up with, “Never to compete with each other but to coexist.” I found this to be an interesting revelation. Whenever Yahweh drops something in my spirit I always stop to meditate on it. I think to myself, “He’s telling me this for a reason.” I typically follow up with a quick prayer that says, “Give me your insight, understanding, and the wisdom to apply it, Father.” Then I open my bible. If I’m not at home I open the YouVersion Bible app on my cellphone.

Sidenote: YouVersion provided me with a snapshot of my stats from last year. I was at a loss for words. I didn’t feel proud that I used the Bible app 362 days out of 365. I was humbled because I understood how many times I needed Yahweh. If it had not been for Him and His word I wouldn’t have made it through the obstacles or reached my blessings in 2018.

“Glory Be To The Most High”

Back to the subject at hand. I then open my bible to read the chapter that references the subject or scripture He has given me. There is always a scriptural text that serves as the base of any revelation. After that I found myself thinking how many times has my Faith and Works competed?

Before I even address that thought it’s important that I lay a foundation of Faith and Works. Faith is defined as complete trust or confidence in someone or something. In Christian Theology, Works are defined as a person’s actions or deeds in contrast to inner qualities such as grace or faith. I know that internally I believe in Jesus Christ. I have Faith in His ability. There is nothing that He can’t do. The way that I show my Faith in Him is by my works which serve as the external expression of the Faith that I have in Him internally. That’s a mouthful, lol. What we do (our works) in this life should NOT be done separately from our Faith. Instead, it should be done due to our Faith. Our Faith is the inspiration for our works. So if we are INSPIRED in our Faith in God we ought to ASPIRE to be like Him in our actions aka our Works.

“Have the Faith to surrender the way you Work.” 
T. Nolan

It’s not good enough to say we live for God then operate in disobedience. The same applies to other areas of our life. We can’t believe God to heal us from health issues then continue eating fast food. We can’t believe God to open the door for entrepreneurial success then go home and watch TV. We can’t believe Him to deliver us from alcoholism then keep drinking. There is Work associated with our Faith. They have to COEXIST for COMPLETION to take place. When that happens it says, “I have Faith in Christ and I show my Faith with what I do.” Our works are our ability to be obedient to the one we have Faith in, Jesus. It’s our ability to produce what the Father planted on the inside of us. My husband and I have Faith that Yahweh will bless us with natural children. Our works….. Well, you know how children come about. Lol. I have Faith that Yahweh is going to take “Mindful of Me Moments” and magnify it to the multitude. My works are shown by my diligence to create content, post blogs, network, and consistently hear from Yahweh for direction.

“When we put in the work He will create opportunities for us.”
T.Nolan

So when I think about the times my Faith competed with my Works I think about the times I believed in my own ability vs God’s ability. These were the times I put any and everything above Christ Jesus then expected Him to bless it. The nerve. Our Faith and Works should never compete. They go hand in hand. If you ever find that what you’re doing has taken over your Faith know that you’re working for nothing. Remember, apart from God we can do NOTHING. As the new year rolls out I challenge you to check what and who you’re working for. The only way you will ever be truly effective is when your Faith and Works are in God. Blessings.

Foundational Scripture


 “What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them?  Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food.  If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.
 But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.”
Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds. You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder.
 You foolish person, do you want evidence that faith without deeds is useless? Was not our father Abraham considered righteous for what he did when he offered his son Isaac on the altar?  You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did.  And the scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,” and he was called God’s friend. You see that a person is considered righteous by what they do and not by faith alone.
 In the same way, was not even Rahab the prostitute considered righteous for what she did when she gave lodging to the spies and sent them off in a different direction? As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.”

James 2:14-26

Happy New Year 2019

Happy New Year my brothers and sisters in Christ. It is the first day of 2019 which means you have a complete year to focus on living intentionally and with purpose. I’m sure we all can expect our social media accounts to be flooded with “New Year Resolutions,” and “Vision Boards.” I am one who takes the time to complete a “Vision Board” yearly. This year I did something different. I prayed for Yahweh to lead me to a foundational scripture to stand on for the entire year. Of course, He did just that. Among my many other goals, aspirations, and visions that are on my board. At the very top, you will find my 2019 Foundational Scripture. 

The Scripture Reads,


“His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.”
“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.
 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins. Therefore, my brothers and sisters, make every effort to confirm your calling and election. For if you do these things, you will never stumble,  and you will receive a rich welcome into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.”

2 Peter 1:3-11

Wow! What a promise from God to us. I highlighted in bold letters the instructions in the scripture as they will are my guide for this year. I love you with the love of the Lord. I am excited to grow and expand with you all this year. Thank you for allowing Mindful of Me Moments to be apart of your life. Blessings.

Question: Do you have a “Foundational Scripture” for the New Year? If so, feel free to comment below.

“Don’t take for granted the one who already has the RESOLUTION for everything you want, need, and desire. Make your relationship with Yahweh your priority in 2019.” Happy New Year!

T. Nolan

“Mindful Moment Feature” with Author Deborah Hampton-Miller

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. This is the event that we’ve been waiting for and I am excited to release this amazing interview with Author Deborah Hampton-Miller. This is the first “Mindful Moment Feature” here on the site. It’s also our last post of 2018. For those who are unaware, “Mindful Moment Features” is a one-on-one interview series where we get an in-depth look into the mind, heart, and spirit of God’s people who are living out their purpose. We’ll get up close and personal with business owners, authors, educators, pastors, and much more.

It was truly a pleasure being able to sit down with Author Deborah Hampton-Miller as she discussed her memoir entitled, “Secret Sins The Ties That Bind.” Below you will find the audio from the interview, questions with timestamps followed by a few words of appreciation from the Authors family. Don’t forget to follow the website, like, comment, and share. Any questions for the Author can be left in the comment section at the bottom of the page. If you would like to connect with her personally please fill out an inquiry in the “Contact” section of the website. As always, I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings!

Thank you, Author Deborah Hampton-Miller. Your assignment is needed and your transparency was renewing. Many Blessings Woman of God.

Interview Questions & Timestamps

1) Give the listeners a little background of who you are. Did you always know you would be an Author? (57 seconds)

2) The meaning of the book title? (1:26)

3) In chapter 1 there is quote by Joseph Campbell that says, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” What significance does that have to you? And how did the cave come about? (2:43)

4) Excerpt from Chapter 2 and explanation from the Author. (4:05)

5) How does one recognize that they’ve built their own stronghold or strongman? (7:57)

6) How do we get to the point when we are prepared to ask God to show us ourselves? (11:00)

7) Describe the most significant aspects of writing the book? (12:30)

8) How does one know they’ve been cultivated in abuse and sexual perversion? (19:48)

9) Do you feel that majority of your past relationships dealt with some type of physical abuse? (21:54)

10) Chapter 16 you share what seems to be your 1st encounter with the Lord. You heard his voice, you were baptized, and filled with his Holy Spirit with the ability to speak in tongues. Can you share the feeling you had when you felt Gods presence? (23:10)

11) After this initial encounter you had not yet fallen out of agreement with sexual sins. Can you explain to those who have had an encounter with God and what to expect following the encounter? (28:00)

12) How many things have you had to fall out of agreement with in your relationship with God? (32:56)

13) When writing this book did you know you would be going down this path of healing and deliverance? (38:55)

14) Do you believe that everyone’s healing and deliverance requires a “tell-all” experience? (40:43)

15) How does one start their own process of healing and deliverance? (43:57)

16) How has Yeshua been mindful of you? Past, present, future. (45:51)

To The Author

To the woman who they said would never be anything. To the woman who they said no one would ever love. To the woman who they spoke death over. To the woman who they ridiculed for having six children. To the woman who they lied on and didn’t believe. To the little girl who didn’t deserve anything, she went through. Your children thank you. You’re husband honors and loves you. Your family is inspired by you every day. You are the epitome of grace, elegance, and virtue drenched in Yeshua’s anointing. Thank you for enduring, because it gave us a chance to live.

Love,
The One Who Made You A Mother


Thank you mom, There’s no repaying you for everything that you’ve done for us. You have been through more things than most people could even imagine. You are the strongest person I know, your an inspiration of strength, courage, faith, wisdom, and love. You’re always there when I need someone to talk to or just need a shoulder to cry on. The sacrifices you’ve made for this family is not taken lightly and is applauded. There is no one in the world like you, truly one of a kind and I adore you.

Love,
Your Twinkle Twinkle Little Star

Deborah has been detrimental to my spiritual growth. She is an inspiration to everyone she has come in contact with. Her testimony has been a beacon to those on darkness and has guided them to a path of enlightenment.

Love,
Your Husband

I couldn’t ask for a better mother in law than the one I have. My Mother-in-law presence and life can be defined by so many words but perseverance and strength are two that really stand out for me. She has been extremely encouraging and supportive in my spiritual growth. With her influence I’ve grown to new heights. Thank you lord for this woman. Mom, love you forever.

Love,
Your Favorite Son-In-Law

Who Has Time For Self-Care?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. It is the last Sunday in 2018. What a year it has been. I pray you’ve spent this year living intentionally and with purpose. We have made it to day 5 of “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” As a recap, I’ve shared how He showed me that I had no idea who I was, I believed in my own ability versus His, I struggled with unforgiveness, and how I placed everything except Him at the throne of my heart. Seeing as “Mindful Of Me Moments” was created when I received a revelation that God was mindful of me when I wasn’t mindful of myself. It was only right I ended this mini-series speaking about how He showed me that I was unaware of how to self-care. I pray that this post encourages you to self-reflect and if needed inspires you to alter your own ability to self-care. Blessings.

If you been following this mini-series the last 5 days then you have a good idea of the areas that I struggled with in my lifetime. You’re also aware of how Yahweh has healed me in those areas. I won’t spend time revisiting any particular instances where I didn’t properly consider the care of myself. What I will do is talk about how Yahweh has enhanced my knowledge of self-care as well as share a list of things that I do now that promote positive self-care.

If you’re anything like me then you’re use to always having something on your plate. No time to sit down. There is work to do. Clean the house, cook dinner, tend to my spouse, do schoolwork, respond to emails, attend church, attend family functions, be the mediator in friendships, and take care of the kids for those who have children. This year Yahweh showed me what my to-do list consisted of and guess what? I wasn’t anywhere on it. Out of all my obligations, I never considered myself as an obligation.

It’s amazing how we can make time for everything and everyone else except ourselves. The crazy thing about that is you spend the most time with yourself. When Yahweh revealed that to me I literally had to ask Him what I should do. I had no idea what it meant to have a positive self-care routine. Piece by piece He showed me. Before I list my self-care routine I want to mention that you will not be as effective to anyone or anything if you are not taking the time to self-care. You need a healthy mind, body, and spirit in order to function at your highest capacity. With that being said, here is my self-care routine.

  1. I find moments of quiet time daily. Doesn’t matter where I am. I can be at work, at home, in the car. I make it a point daily to sit in quiet and meditate. Sometimes that consists of a 15-30 min breathing technique. That helps me to focus on my breath instead of my mind running all over the place. Other times I recite positive affirmations over and over.
  2. I write daily. You don’t have to be gifted in writing to write. Even if no one ever reads what you wrote it’s a healthy habit to keep a journal. Writing has always been therapeutic for me. It allows me to put my thoughts, ideas, revelations, and goals on paper. Out of my mind and on paper.
  3. I use aromatherapy scents daily. I have a diffuser that sits on my nightstand. If I need to relieve stress I’ll drop some eucalyptus. If I need to calm my spirit I’ll use lavender. To wake up I use orange or grapefruit in the morning. I also use aromatherapy in the bath along with Epsom salt to soothe my body. I have aromatherapy body oils that I put on depending on how I’m feeling. Our sense of smell sends triggers to our brain. If you don’t currently use some type of aromatherapy I encourage you to try it out. It helps.
  4. I drink tea. I have a complete section in my kitchen that’s dedicated to tea. I have my electric tea kettle, mason jars filled with loose leaf tea, and a pitcher of bagged teas. I probably have about 30 different teas. Tea is RELAXING. I drink it daily. If I’m sick, if I need energy, if I need to sleep, if I need to be calm. Tea is a big part of my self-care routine.
  5. I eat healthily and workout. This is something that is on my 2019 Vision Board. I was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure earlier this year and am currently working towards getting off my meds. This means that the way I eat has now become a goal for me moving forward. If we are unhealthy in our physical body then we for sure limit our opportunities. Along with that comes working out which should also be a priority in our ability to self-care. How we feel in our body affects what we do.
  6. I monitor my thoughts and speak life into myself. There is life and death in the power of the tongue. We shall have what we speak. I have become very cautious about the things that I allow to come out of mouth especially about myself. Our thoughts determine how we feel about ourselves. Being mentally sound stems from what or who we listen to, and what we say about ourselves. So be conscious of what you’re thinking and saying about yourself.
  7. I spend time with myself outside of the home. That’s right. I get a break from home and work. Lol. Majority of the time I do this while getting a mani and pedi which again is, RELAXING. Other opportunities include getting a facial, massage, shopping, or getting your hair done. Any activity that relieves stress or anxiety I’m all for.
  8. I listen to music. Music is another avenue that alters your mind. I listen to a lot of gospel, worship, and Christian rap. When I’m looking for a chill/funky type of music to zone out or write too I listen to, Sango Radio on Pandora. Go check it out if you haven’t. You’re welcome in advance. It’s a VIBE.
  9. I buy myself something every month. Sometimes I get expensive things. Sometimes I buy something as simple as a new journal. This is something that my husband taught me to do. I use to be very frugal. I still am in some respect. What he taught me was I should not work just to pay bills. Now we’re wise when it comes to finances. However, it’s important to treat yourself consistently not just for special occasions. You don’t know how many women and men I’ve come across that can’t remember the last time they bought themselves something. I promise it matters in your self-care routine.
  10. I invest in my spirit daily. Understanding that the Holy Spirit lives within me. It was important to implement a self-care routine for my spirit. I read the word of God every day. I pray every day. I deny my flesh so that my spirit can be strong every day.

As you can tell there is a common theme among my top 10 self-care techniques. The theme being anything that I can do to promote relief, relaxation, growth, and appreciation for me. All of the techniques have made a tremendous difference in my ability to self-care. I’ve learned what I like, what I don’t like, how to relax, how to wake up, how to focus on me, and how not to forget that I have an obligation to myself to be healthy enough to be effective.

This year has been the most impactful year that I have had to date. I’ve acquired so much new knowledge of Yahweh and myself. I’ve grown in my relationship with Him and with me. All of which has made me more effective in my marriage, friendships, business, and ministry. In less than 12 months I’ve reached a level of intimacy with Christ that I never knew I could, I learned my true identity, my purpose was born, I faced my greatest fear, my marriage completely leaped in progression, I started a business, I fell out of agreement with things and people that blocked my spiritual growth. For the first time in my life, I finally started living intentionally and with purpose.

Thank you, Yahweh. 2018 Blessed Me.

Who Has Your Heart?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent another day living intentionally and with purpose. If you’ve been following my blog the last few days then you are aware that I’ve been posting about “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” We are on day 4 of 5 of this mini-series. To recap we’ve discussed how Yahweh revealed to me that I had no idea who I was, that I believed in my own ability over His, and that I struggled with unforgiveness. All of which He has changed in me. Tonight, I will be discussing how He revealed to me that He was not at the throne of my heart. As always I pray that this post prompts you to examine yourself and pushes you towards God. Blessings.

The first time I heard the phrase “Throne of your heart” was during a sermon by Pastor Michael Todd from Transformation Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma. It put into perspective the way I looked at every task, relationship, and obstacle I faced thereafter. The sermon served as confirmation to what God was already doing in my life. If anything, it brought about further clarity in regard to my priorities. I understood that if I were going to live for Christ then that required a level of obedience. As I continued to grow in God I would soon learn that my relationship with Him was more than just being obedient.

The Word of God Says,
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”

Proverbs 4:23

As this year progressed I started to shift the amount of time I spent with Yahweh. I began waking up at 4 am every morning to pray and read my bible. I would listen to sermons throughout the day at work when I had the opportunity too. I stopped feeding my spirit anything that was on the radio or on T.V. I even stopped engaging in certain conversations with friends. Making those few adjustments showed me a couple of things. It showed me that my desires for certain things shifted. It also showed me all the things that I once placed before Yahweh. Work, relationships, money, ministry, school, my flesh. All of these things were sitting in God’s sit at the throne of my heart.

The shift happened when I realized God doesn’t fit into my life. My life fits into God. I no longer made my own plans. I consulted Him in order to obtain the plan. In doing so, I began to desire to know Him more intimately. I get excited about spending time with Him. I’m interested in growing closer to Him through His word every day. I started to form a real relationship with Him. It reminds me of times when you start dating someone and you’re super consumed with them. You can’t wait to talk to them in the morning. You stay up all night on the phone even if you have to work the next day. They’re always on your mind. You even share your life story with them. That’s how I started to feel about Yahweh. I couldn’t wait to speak to Him in the morning, and before I went to bed. He was and is still always on my mind. I’ve granted Him access to all my secret places. I am utterly consumed by His presence. For the first time, He was and is truly the front-runner in my heart.

My obedience to Christ led me to the discovery of what it really meant to have Him seated at the throne of my heart. Who you are, what you do, what you desire, how you perceive things, how you conduct yourself, how you feel, your actions, your responses, your emotions, your character all come from what’s in your heart. This is why the Bible speaks so much about our heart. We will NEVER change any of those things without first changing our heart.

Know we can only permanently change our hearts with God. He is the only person who can successfully handle the job. Understand, He doesn’t want us to give Him our heart because we’re scared of what will happen if we don’t. Believe me, He’ll know the reason why we’re doing it anyway. Our hearts will tell Him. He wants us to give Him our hearts because we desire to know and live for Him.

In 2018, I grew in love with Christ. I took every idol out of His seat and I put Him in His rightful place. I did it because I knew that apart from Him I would continue destroying myself. So I gave it the one and the only person who could take care of my heart, Him. When I did that He started showing me who He was and what He could do. I’ll never take Him out of His rightful place again. YAHWEH will FOREVER have my HEART.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
    do not depend on your own understanding.
Seek his will in all you do,
    and he will show you which path to take.

Proverbs 3:5-6

The Greatest Understanding of Forgiveness

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week thus far living intentionally and with purpose. We are on day 3 of 5 in “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” If you have not taken the time to read posts 1 & 2 I encourage you to do so before reading this one. As excited as I am for 2019 it was important for me to spend the last few days of the year reflecting on how far God has brought me from the beginning of the year. As always I pray that this post causes you to examine yourself and prompts you to allow Yahweh into your mind, heart, body, and spirit. Blessings!

I grew up in a Pentecostal Church. I remember being a young girl and wearing long skirts at all times when I was outside of my home. Attending Sunday School and afternoon service. Serving dinner on first Sunday after church. Participating in “Watch Night Service” on New Year’s Eve followed by the feet washing ceremony. Til this day I can’t stand touching feet, lol. Don’t forget being baptized in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. You would think growing up in the church I would have had a better understanding of Yahweh but I didn’t. The things that I remember for the most part were geared towards religious practices versus relationship. As time went on I was exposed to so many things outside of God that I found myself further and further away from the little girl that grew up wearing long skirts. It wasn’t until this year that I really formed an intimate relationship with Yahweh which would ultimately alter my understanging of everything that I wasn’t taught.

I felt it necessary to write about my experience growing up in church because even at that age and in the church I was exposed to sexual perversion. Not only was I but so were other children around me. Not understanding that “playing house” and touching private parts was a door that was opened for the enemy to come in even as children. I spent years trying to forgive myself for operating in spirits that were attached to me as a child. Repenting for things that I didn’t understand at that time in my life. But how great is the God that we serve? This year Yahweh gave me the greatest understanding of forgiveness.

The Word of God Says,
Where is another God like you,
    who pardons the guilt of the remnant,
    overlooking the sins of his special people?
You will not stay angry with your people forever,
    because you delight in showing unfailing love.
Once again you will have compassion on us.
    You will trample our sins under your feet
    and throw them into the depths of the ocean!

Micah 7:18-19

The part that stands out the most to me in this scripture is the mentioning of the word “remnant.” “Where is another God like you, who pardons the guilt of the remnant overlooking the sins of his special people.” Remnant means, “trace remaining.” The years that I spent carrying the guilt around from things that happened in my childhood, God was telling me that even the small traces left of that guilt he has already overlooked. Jesus! So what the enemy exposed me to as a young girl no longer stood against me as this Woman of God you see today.

The enemy doesn’t want you to forgive yourself. He doesn’t want you to forgive others. If he can keep us captive in unforgiveness he stops us from being free, having peace, and growing in our relationship with God. He’ll do anything to stop us from being who God created us to be. But I’m here to tell you as someone who has forgiven herself and those who hurt me. The plan of the enemy FAILED. Not only did I fall out of agreement with everything that he attached to me as a child. I repented, forgave, and grew in God.

When I tell you no one can do a thing like, Jesus Christ I mean it. If you are struggling with forgiveness I challenge you to start spending more time with Yahweh. Get in His word and apply what it says to your life. I guarantee your life will never be the same. In 2018 Yahweh showed me that I was struggling with unforgiveness but through my intimate relationship with Him I am now walking in my forgiveness.

“Understand this one thing. Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ holds forgiveness in His heart for you. Don’t spend another year carrying around the weight of something that God has already forgotten.” ~T.Nolan


“He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor punished us according to our iniquities. For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is His mercy toward those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.”
Psalm 103:10-12