Our last feature was with Author and Pastor Deborah Hampton Miller. It was such an impactful interview that I felt it necessary to Rewind. She is an ordained Pastor, Prophetess, Prayer Warrior, Wife, Mother, Author, Poet, and currently pursuing a Bachelors of Science in Psychology degree. In our interview, we discussed her first published book entitled, “Secret Sins The Ties That Bind.” We learned how God healed her from sexual trauma, showed her how to forgive her abusers, tear down strongholds, and ultimately break generational curses off her bloodline.
Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I was reading in the Gospels this morning. More specifically, John 1. Towards the end of the text, we find Jesus preparing to journey to Galilee. He calls, Philip to follow Him. Philip then goes to get Nathanael to whom he says, “We have found the one Moses wrote about in the Law, and about whom the prophets also wrote—Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” Skeptical, Nathanael replied, “Nazareth! Can anything good come from there?” Once they arrived the conversation went like this:
When Jesus saw Nathanael approaching, he said of him, “Here truly is an Israelite in whom there is no deceit.” “How do you know me?” Nathanael asked. Jesus answered, “I saw you while you were still under the fig tree before Philip called you.” Then Nathanael declared, “Rabbi, you are the Son of God; you are the king of Israel.” Jesus said, “You believe because I told you I saw you under the fig tree. You will see greater things than that.” He then added, “Very truly I tell you, you will see ‘heaven open, and the angels of God ascending and descending on’ the Son of Man.” John 1:47-51 NIV
After reading the text I immediately felt the prompting of the Holy Spirit asking me, “have you ever limited Gods ability?” I can remember times where all I wanted was to know that God was listening to me. Not understanding that He knows all, sees all, and has a plan for my life. Maybe like me, you’re someone who needed healing from their past, control of their finances, or peace. All circumstances that Jesus Christ sees.
The Holy Spirit continued to speak to me. Saying, “What we perceive as hard times doesn’t even qualify as an issue to God.” I can look back over my life and glimpses of the times where I was stuck in my hurt, pain, and loss of identity will pop up. They serve as a reminder that I spent so much of my time focused on how I saw myself and what I was going through when God already knew. Not only did He know me but in spite of my flaws, there were things he wanted to do in me that I couldn’t even begin to imagine.
I believe that sometimes when we spend so long desiring to be healed, financially stable, or just to have consistent peace that’s all we can see. We pray without ceasing for our circumstance to change, for our living situation to change, for our relationships to change. Then we find out that as we seek God more He changes less of those things and more of us.
So how does this all tie together with Nathanael and Jesus? Nathanael believes that Jesus is the Messiah because Jesus sees Him under a fig tree. Guess what? No matter what your prayer is or what you’ve been through Jesus sees you. Jesus then goes on to say, you believe I’m the Messiah because I told you I saw you under the tree? He may be saying to us, “You believe I’m the Messiah because you got that promotion?” That’s not even the beginning of what I can really do in your life. Just wait and see what I’m really capable of doing. Heaven will open up and angels will appear. The God that we pray to over relationships ending, doors closing, and our finances. Is the same God who will open the windows of Heaven. Heaven! While we’re worried about Him blessings us with a new car.
We have to stop asking God the perform a miracle on circumstances that He has equipped us to handle. Not everything we pray about requires fire from heaven. This is why He changes us instead of the circumstance because if He can change us then we can change the circumstance.
God sees you. He hears you. You are significant. So much so that he knows the number of hairs on your head. I challenge you today to change how you see Jesus. Understand there’s more to Him than just helping us which means there’s more to us. God has placed all these amazing talents and gifts inside of you. We have to allow our vision to be more like God. I encourage you to see yourself. Get a good look. Then realize that the God who opens Heaven Spirit lives within you. You’re capable of more than what you think. Stop limiting the capacity of the gift that is Christ Jesus. Remember, you ain’t seen nothing yet. Blessings.
Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. It’s Self-Care Sunday here on Mindful Of Me Moments. As a rule of thumb, we should all be practicing good self-care techniques daily. I’ve chosen Sundays to be the day that I touch base and provide tips to all of you. As you know I’m currently working my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to establish a relationship with Yahweh. It’s something that I believe will be very beneficial for the “New Christian” or someone who knows Christ and may need to brush up on the fundamentals of their intimate relationship with Him. After all, we can’t have self-care without having a relationship with Christ first. I mean He is the one who knows what we need. For this Self-Care Sunday, we are going to be talking about one of the tips provided in my upcoming book. That tip being “How To P.R.A.Y.” As always I pray that it inspires you to self-reflect and make adjustments as needed. Blessings.
I remember being a young girl and not knowing how to pray. The very first prayer that I learned came from Matthew 6, “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” You know the rest. If you grew up in church then this was probably your first prayer as well. I often times heard the elders in the church describe prayer as “having a conversation with God.” Was it that simple? I just open my mouth and talk to God like I talked to one of my home-girls? There had to be more to it than that. Surely, I would have to speak to Him with more depth and diction. Looking back now I probably spent more time wondering what He wanted me to say versus just speaking to Him. As my relationship with Him started to flourish there were some fundamental points that helped me in my prayer time.
Before we get into those points I thought it would be beneficial to understand why it’s important to pray. The bible says,
“Pray without ceasing.”1 Thessalonians 5:17
“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”
There are many scriptures that explain the importance of prayer. In short, prayer is our display of faith, trust, love, and humility towards Jesus. It’s also a direct avenue to make our requests known to Him and a way to hear from Him. Ultimately, it serves as a catalyst in our relationship with our Father.
Now onto the fundamentals of prayer. Next time you P.RA.Y remember to Praise, Repent, Ask, & Yield.
PRAISE the Lord for who He is. He is wonderful. Marvelous in all His ways. He is King of Kings, Lord of Lords. He is the one and only true God. He is Mighty, our Everlasting Father, the Prince of Prince. He is what was, what is, and what will be. He is Unchanging. He is our Redeemer and Way-maker. Start all your prayers off with giving Him the praise that is due.
REPENT unto the Lord. The bible says, “we all fall short to the glory of God.” True repentance is more than our verbal declaration. It’s our ability to turn away from things that are not pleasing to God. When we pray with a repenting heart we are acknowledging to Yahweh that “we have sinned and we are making a decision to turn away from that sinful act moving forward.” The Bible requires us to confess our sins to God. There may be times that we’ve sinned and are not even aware of it. Make sure you’re praying that God reveals any area that you need to repent and when He does repent then turn away from it.
ASK the Lord. There are three things that the bible says we ought to do when asking God for something. We are to make sure our request glorify God, are parallel to His word, and that they bring joy. See John 14:13, John 15:7, and John 16:23-24. Once you’ve checked all three of those then ask away. “We have not because we ask not.” It’s not good enough to stand on the fact that God knows the desires of our heart. His word tells us that we have to ASK HIM. Whether you’re asking Him to move in someone else’s life or your own. Make sure you’re specific. Don’t ask for God to bless you with the rent for next month. Ask Him to bless you with the wisdom to handle your finances. See what I did there? Lol.
YIELD unto the Lord. This is one of my favorite points in the P.R.A.Y. fundamentals. Yield means to produce or provide. Biblically, it means to wait on or submit to. When we yield to God we are literally giving Him the opportunity to provide or produce a response to our prayer. I know right. No one ever told you to wait for Him to respond after your prayers. Welp, now you know. For me, this is where meditation takes place. I pray then I meditate in silence. I allow His Holy Spirit to comfort me and I wait until I feel released to move. Sometimes He reveals things to me. Other times He just provides me with peace and a clear mind. Either way, I’ve provided Him free range to speak back to me as He sees fit.
So there it is people of God. Our Self-Care Sunday Tip. “How To P.R.A.Y.” I pray that it helped those who may not know how to approach praying. I pray it aides as a refresher for those who already know Christ. I would love to know your fundamentals of prayer. Drop a comment below. I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.
Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. Can you believe January is already over? How are you guys doing with your 2019 goals? Have any adjustments happened with your vision for this year? They have for me. Lol. The overall vision is the same but the path in which it’ll happen has slightly changed. With thirty-three days in the books Yahweh has already slowed me down. Many of you know I finished my Vision Board a week or so before the new year. My goals cosisted of growth in my relationship with Christ, my marriage, my brand, this blog, and a list of other ventures. The more I attempted to reach these deadlines that I set for myself God was directing my attention to the journey that has to happen before I reach the destination. I guess you can say my EGO was getting the best of me.
I was listening to a podcast the other day and the guy referenced his EGO getting in his way. Now I’m not someone who relishes in my own accomplishments. All glory be to God for anything that he has strengthened me through or allowed me to obtain. As the podcast continued he mentions that a pastor told him that when we have a big EGO we are essentially “Edging God Out.” #MindBlown Had I Edged God Out in my bedazzled Vision Board and 2019 Goals? Couldn’t have I thought. I mean He is in the midst of every goal that I have for this year. The more I talked to Yahweh about it He began to reveal to me how my EGO was getting in the way.
Even though my vision was from God I didn’t account for the time needed to prepare for the vision. I started the process but had no expectation of the next steps which left me doing what I thought was necessary. I was leaning on my own understanding. Even for God’s glory. I found myself making all these plans that glorify God but in the same moment, I was edging him out of my preparation process. There is nothing in this world that we will do that doesn’t require seed, time and harvest. If God has planted a seed in you there is no skipping the “time” that is needed before the harvest.
Maybe Christ has given you a vision to write a book, start a credit repair business, an apparel shop, or become a life coach. There is absolutely no way to bypass the necessary journey that you have to take in order to flourish in your God-Given area. There are levels that require our participation as we are on our journey to becoming who we were created to be.
You can find preparation
“Put your outdoor work in orderProverbs 24:26
and get your fields ready;
after that, build your house.”
So what’s the takeaway? Start. God has given you a vision for your life then start. Start the process and allow Yahweh to guide you through each and every step. God isn’t our phone a friend when we are stuck. His place is in front of us before we even make the step. I spoke about being in the process of writing my first book. I had the opportunity of attending a Master Class that focused on “Writing Your First Book & Self-Publishing.” I learned so much that I had no idea about prior to taking the class. The knowledge was necessary as I journey to becoming a first-time author. Don’t allow your EGO to Edge God Out of your preparation process. Blessings.
Update: I went to a Christian Women’s Bible Study last night and it truly was a release for me. I really underestimated how much I missed being able to fellowship with other Women of God. Right at the end, they asked us to write down what we were hearing from God. He simply told me, “Go and be free TRULY Tiffany.” It was as if I still had a spec of my past self in my heart and
Also, I just booked my first speaking engagement of the year. I am so honored and excited about the event. The subject, “There is Beauty in The Vision.” What a
Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. This is the event that we’ve been waiting for and I am excited to release this amazing interview with Author Deborah Hampton-Miller. This is the first “Mindful Moment Feature” here on the site. It’s also our last post of 2018. For those who are unaware, “Mindful Moment Features” is a one-on-one interview series where we get an in-depth look into the mind, heart, and spirit of God’s people who are living out their purpose. We’ll get up close and personal with business owners, authors, educators, pastors, and much more.
It was truly a pleasure being able to sit down with Author Deborah Hampton-Miller as she discussed her memoir entitled, “Secret Sins The Ties That Bind.” Below you will find the audio from the interview, questions with timestamps followed by a few words of appreciation from the Authors family. Don’t forget to follow the website, like, comment, and share. Any questions for the Author can be left in the comment section at the bottom of the page. If you would like to connect with her personally please fill out an inquiry in the “Contact” section of the website. As always, I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings!
Interview Questions & Timestamps
1) Give the listeners a little background of who you are. Did you always know you would be an Author? (57 seconds)
2) The meaning of the book title? (1:26)
3) In chapter 1 there is quote by Joseph Campbell that says, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” What significance does that have to you? And how did the cave come about? (2:43)
4) Excerpt from Chapter 2 and explanation from the Author. (4:05)
5) How does one recognize that they’ve built their own stronghold or strongman? (7:57)
6) How do we get to the point when we are prepared to ask God to show us ourselves? (11:00)
7) Describe the most significant aspects of writing the book? (12:30)
8) How does one know they’ve been cultivated in abuse and sexual perversion? (19:48)
9) Do you feel that majority of your past relationships dealt with some type of physical abuse? (21:54)
10) Chapter 16 you share what seems to be your 1st encounter with the Lord. You heard his voice, you were baptized, and filled with his Holy Spirit with the ability to speak in tongues. Can you share the feeling you had when you felt Gods presence? (23:10)
11) After this initial encounter you had not yet fallen out of agreement with sexual sins. Can you explain to those who have had an encounter with God and what to expect following the encounter? (28:00)
12) How many things have you had to fall out of agreement with in your relationship with God? (32:56)
13) When writing this book did you know you would be going down this path of healing and deliverance? (38:55)
14) Do you believe that everyone’s healing and deliverance requires a “tell-all” experience? (40:43)
15) How does one start their own process of healing and deliverance? (43:57)
16) How has Yeshua been mindful of you? Past, present, future. (45:51)
To The Author
To the woman who they said would never be anything. To the woman who they said no one would ever love. To the woman who they spoke death over. To the woman who they ridiculed for having six children. To the woman who they lied on and didn’t believe. To the little girl who didn’t deserve anything, she went through. Your children thank you. You’re husband honors and loves you. Your family is inspired by you every day. You are the epitome of grace, elegance, and virtue drenched in Yeshua’s anointing. Thank you for enduring, because it gave us a chance to live.
The One Who Made You A Mother
Thank you mom, There’s no repaying you for everything that you’ve done for us. You have been through more things than most people could even imagine. You are the strongest person I know, your an inspiration of strength, courage, faith, wisdom, and love. You’re always there when I need someone to talk to or just need a shoulder to cry on. The sacrifices you’ve made for this family is not taken lightly and is applauded. There is no one in the world like you, truly one of a kind and I adore you.
Your Twinkle Twinkle Little Star
Deborah has been detrimental to my spiritual growth. She is an inspiration to everyone she has come in contact with. Her testimony has been a beacon to those on darkness and has guided them to a path of enlightenment.
I couldn’t ask for a better mother in law than the one I have. My Mother-in-law presence and life can be defined by so many words but perseverance and strength are two that really stand out for me. She has been extremely encouraging and supportive in my spiritual growth. With her influence I’ve grown to new heights. Thank you lord for this woman. Mom, love you forever.
Your Favorite Son-In-Law
Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week thus far living intentionally and with purpose. We are on day 3 of 5 in “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” If you have not taken the time to read posts 1 & 2 I encourage you to do so before reading this one. As excited as I am for 2019 it was important for me to spend the last few days of the year reflecting on how far God has brought me from the beginning of the year. As always I pray that this post causes you to examine yourself and prompts you to allow Yahweh into your mind, heart, body, and spirit. Blessings!
I grew up in a Pentecostal Church. I remember being a young girl and wearing long skirts at all times when I was outside of my home. Attending Sunday School and afternoon service. Serving dinner on first Sunday after church. Participating in “Watch Night Service” on New Year’s Eve followed by the feet washing ceremony. Til this day I can’t stand touching feet, lol. Don’t forget being baptized in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. You would think growing up in the church I would have had a better understanding of Yahweh but I didn’t. The things that I remember for the most part were geared towards religious practices versus relationship. As time went on I was exposed to so many things outside of God that I found myself further and further away from the little girl that grew up wearing long skirts. It wasn’t until this year that I really formed an intimate relationship with Yahweh which would ultimately alter my
I felt it necessary to write about my experience growing up in church because even at that age and in the church I was exposed to sexual perversion. Not only was I but so were other children around me. Not understanding that “playing house” and touching private parts was a door that was opened for the enemy to come in even as children. I spent years trying to forgive myself for operating in spirits that were attached to me as a child. Repenting for things that I didn’t understand at that time in my life. But how great is the God that we serve? This year Yahweh gave me the greatest understanding of forgiveness.
The Word of God Says,Micah 7:18-19
“ Where is another God like you,
who pardons the guilt of the remnant,
overlooking the sins of his special people?
You will not stay angry with your people forever,
because you delight in showing unfailing love.
Once again you will have compassion on us.
You will trample our sins under your
feet andthrow them into the depths of the ocean!“
The part that stands out the most to me in this scripture is the mentioning of the word “remnant.” “Where is another God like you, who pardons the guilt of the remnant overlooking the sins of his special people.” Remnant means, “trace remaining.” The years that I spent carrying the guilt around from things that happened in my childhood, God was telling me that even the small traces left of that guilt he has already overlooked. Jesus! So what the enemy exposed me to as a young girl no longer stood against me as this Woman of God you see today.
The enemy doesn’t want you to forgive yourself. He doesn’t want you to forgive others. If he can keep us captive in unforgiveness he stops us from being free, having peace, and growing in our relationship with God. He’ll do anything to stop us from being who God created us to be. But I’m here to tell you as someone who has forgiven herself and those who hurt me. The plan of the enemy FAILED. Not only did I fall out of agreement with everything that he attached to me as a child. I repented, forgave, and grew in God.
When I tell you no one can do a thing like, Jesus Christ I mean it. If you are struggling with forgiveness I challenge you to start spending more time with Yahweh. Get in His word and apply what it says to your life. I guarantee your life will never be the same. In 2018 Yahweh showed me that I was struggling with unforgiveness but through my intimate relationship with Him I am now walking in my forgiveness.
“Understand this one thing. Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ holds forgiveness in His heart for you. Don’t spend another year carrying around the weight of something that God has already forgotten.” ~T.Nolan