Knowledge Is Power

“My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge.
Because you have rejected knowledge,
    I also reject you as my priests;
because you have ignored the law of your God,
    I also will ignore your children.
 The more priests there were,
    the more they sinned against me;
    they exchanged their glorious God for something disgraceful.”

Hosea 4:6-7

You know what I find interesting about us humans? How uninspired we can be when it comes to developmental growth. Now I’m not talking about those who have accomplished educational accolades. I’m all for school if it’s beneficial for your purpose. I’m talking about those of us who jump on the trend bandwagon without taking the time to discover the foundation of what we’re about to embark on.

I remember growing up in a Pentecostal Church. As a little girl, I often heard the scripture “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” This was a pillar in my home to ensure we went to school to further our education. You know, “Live the American Dream.” Looking back I can’t honestly say this concept was applied to all areas of my life. When I think about it the bible speaks about growing in knowledge in many realms. Physical, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual to name a few. Having a “sound” mind. Our bodies being a “temple” Holy and acceptable. Being “renewed” daily. It makes you wonder why so many of us were not raised knowledgeable in our overall health.

In my adult life I’m presently transitioning to a Christian Holistic Lifestyle. I’ve previously written about this which you can find here. As a recap let me explain what a Christian Holistic Lifestyle embodies? Essentially, it means you’ve made a choice to take responsibility for your own well-being and everyday decisions which affect your health. By creating balance in your life in efforts to achieve the highest level of well-being for your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health while drawing directly from the Lord.

I have to continually make it known this is a CHRISTIAN Holistic Lifestyle. It’s interesting when people decide to become “healthier” they run to things like aligning chakras, burning sage, placing crystals throughout their homes, and praying to Mother Earth. This is the lack of knowledge I was referencing earlier. Here’s a fun fact! Chakra, also spelled Cakra, Sanskrit C̣akra, (“wheel”), any of a number of psychic-energy centers of the body, prominent in the occult physiological practices of certain forms of Hinduism and Tantric Buddhism. The chakras are conceived of as focal points where psychic forces and bodily functions merge with and interact with each other. In case you were wondering psychics are linked to demonic practices and witchcraft. I think it’s safe to say, we will operate in realms not of God and have no idea we’re doing it. So do your research folks.

It’s not beneficial to put God first and get an education solely. We also need to equally encourage ourselves to eat whole foods, acknowledge our emotions and mental state then choose the most productive way we respond. We have to do a better job of becoming more proactive about being knowledgeable in every area of our makeup. If no one ever exposed us to being whole in our life then how do we do it? We grow in our knowledge. We decide to be a participant in the developing of our WHOLE self. Mental, physical, mental, and emotional. That my dear brothers and sisters is up to us. No one else.

All in all, it’s our knowledge which opens the door for opportunities. It exposes us to a higher level of thinking and understanding. It provides us with the ability to create spaces intentionally and with purpose. Knowledge is powerful. We live in a world full of generational curse breakers, billionaire’s, best-selling authors, and self-care activist who will never tap into their respective gifts. It’s their decision to repeat what they’ve learned instead of seeking knowledge for themselves in their individual craft. The bible says it best, “My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge because they REJECT it.” When we don’t take the time to learn how to grow in our mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health we are literally destroying ourselves. It’s time to tap into one of our sources of power, Knowledge. Blessings!

What Is A Christian Holistic Lifestyle?

Great Morning my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. I missed last week’s Self-Care Sunday post but I’m back. Better than before! Over the last year or so my life has transformed drastically. One area of change has been my understanding of self-care in relation to mind, body, spirit, emotion. I’ve been drawn for a while now to live a Holistic Lifestyle. As I began doing the research I felt it necessary to establish any information I share with you in regard to living a Holistic Lifestyle will come from a Christian point of view. Disclaimer: I meditate and do yoga which has been tied to demonic practices in some instances. This is certainly not that. I won’t be drawing energy from crystals or praying to Mother Earth. When I meditate it’s a time for me to be present, here from the Holy Spirit, and show gratitude to God. Know everything I do is to glorify Jesus Christ. With that being said, I pray my Christian Holistic Lifestyle Journey will inspire you all.


“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:33-34

So let’s dive into it. What is a Christian Holistic Lifestyle? Living a Christian Holistic Lifestyle means you’ve made a choice to take responsibility for your own well-being and everyday decisions which affect your health. By creating balance in your life in efforts to achieve the highest level of well-being for your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health while drawing directly from the Lord.

More often than not we tend to neglect something in our lives. Some of you may be at an optimal level in your physical health but lack the same growth in your spiritual health. You may have a great understanding of your emotional health, but lack the physical discipline to be in shape. A Christian Holistic Lifestyle is focused on you balancing all areas of your life at the same time with the same amount of energy, consistency, determination, and drive. If we’re ever going to reach optimal health we can’t afford for any areas to be neglected in our well-being. Essentially, it’s knowing our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health all work interchangeably in order for us to be the best version of ourselves. Nothing left behind. All needed to add balance to our lives.

“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.” 3 John 1:2

The base of starting a Christian Holistic Lifestyle is creating a Personal Well-Being Plan. Your personal well-being plan consists of goals to develop and grow the four areas of your overall well-being. Those areas being your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Create an outline and place at least five goals in each area. Once you completed the list of goals carve out 2 hours of your day to complete one goal in each area daily for 30 mins. So you have 4 areas with a range of goals in each area. Choose 1 goal for the day in EACH area and spend 30 mins DAILY on EACH goal. Doing so creates balance in your overall health and ensures all areas of your well-being are closely attended to.

“Put your outdoor work in order
    and get your fields ready;
   after that, build your house.” Proverbs 24:27

To give you a jump start on your Personal Well-Being Plan I’ve included examples of goals for the 4 areas of health. Feel free to add some of them to you own plan.

Spiritual

Spiritual

~ Bible Study

~ Prayer

~ Meditation (Attitude of Gratitude)

~ Fellowship with others about God.

~ Seek counsel from your Spiritual Mentor.

Physical

Note: What you eat and getting enough sleep are also a part of your physical health.

~ Walk

~ Do a workout video at home

~ Join a class at your local gym

~ Meal Prep – Eat whole foods rich in nutrients, fiber, and protein.

~ Get enough sleep

Mental

~ Meditation (Taking 30 mins a day to meditate on who God says you are, what your day will look like, and reciting affirmations aids in positive mental health)

~ Seek mentorship or counsel

~ Surround yourself with positive people.

~ Be present (disconnect from social media, work, relationship)

~ Acknowledge your thoughts then decide if you want to be a participant in the feeling (See BLOG here to learn how to acknowledge your feelings without allowing them to run rampant in your life)

Emotional

~ Think before you act (Something I do when I’m emotional is count to 10 before I respond)

~ Write down how you’re feeling instead of acting on the feeling.

~ Read the bible and see if what you’re feeling is a fruit of the spirit of the flesh.

~ Allow yourself the room to be compassionate for you.

~ Don’t allow people or things to negatively decide or alter how you feel.

All in all, God wants us to activate every seed He’s planted on the inside of us. The best version of you already exists and is patiently waiting for you to ignite the fuse to becoming a better you. I say it all the time. Before you can be anything to anyone you have to be everything to yourself. God doesn’t want us to only be focused on growing in Him. We are to also be good stewards over our overall health. How can we ask God to heal our bodies then eat foods causing diseases which can kill us? It makes no sense. We have to be active participants in our wellness journey.

Today, I challenge you to choose LIFE. I challenge you to make a decision to live a Christian Holistic Lifestyle. One which will lead you into becoming the best version of yourself. Remember, our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health is a reflection of the life we chose. You decide the type of life you want to live. Blessings.

Motivational Monday “Acknowledge Then Choose”

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. Happy Monday! God has afforded us another opportunity to be better than we were yesterday, a week ago, even a year ago. I pray you’ve purposed in your mind to spend your time living intentionally and with purpose throughout the coming week. How was your Resurrection Sunday? Did you go to church or spend time with your family? If you checked out the video from my blog yesterday I challenged you to resurrect your self-worth. The post before I spoke about “It’s Always Been You” which serves as a foundation to understanding you alone are reason enough to become the best version of yourself.

In efforts of starting your week off with perspective, I recorded audio which I pray will inspire, encourage, and bring about a sense of correction in your current headspace. So often we participate in our emotions. Whether happy, sad, angry, passionate, or overwhelmed. Some of us suppress or overlook those feelings focusing on the task ahead versus our mental state. Some of us have vices to “deal” with the unresolved hurts and pains life has distributed. Then some of us indulge in the emotions and all the effects they spew out at us. I wanted to be the person who tells you, “acknowledge how you’re feeling.” We have to stop ignoring our emotions. Check out the audio below to find out how I am able to acknowledge my emotions without giving them free rein to run rampant in my life. Blessings.

“Acknowledge then Choose”


So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.  For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery;
idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things, there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

Galatians 5:16-26

Happy Resurrection Sunday

Good Evening my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. It’s Resurrection Sunday. I wanted to bring you a mindful moment video for today’s post. As you are celebrating the resurrection of Jesus Christ think about all the things needed to be resurrected in your own life. Blessings.

Unintentionally Inspiring

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. Guess what? I’m doing a mid-week check-in with you guys. I know you’re used to my Sunday post, but I like to switch things up sometimes. I pray you’ve spent your week thus far living intentionally and with purpose. I was having a conversation with my husband this morning, and he said something I felt would inspire you. Taking into consideration our personal conversation I will share my takeaway versus the actual ins and outs of what we spoke about. As always I pray it causes you to self-reflect and adjust where needed. Blessings.

I started my relationship journey with Jesus Christ a little over a year ago. From this journey of “self-mastery,” my company was born and so was this blog. Growing in Christ I started thinking and processing things differently. I understood the way I lived my life accompanied by the mindsets I learned from people were my default setting. Ultimately, they weren’t how God intended me to operate. Needless to say, I grew. I developed new habits, new mindsets, new processes. I began operating my life with more intent and purpose. One thing I do often is daily self-evaluations. Asking myself several questions. Is what I’m doing growing me? Is it pushing towards God? Is it challenging me to be better?

Even when it comes to my level of influence I find myself always surveying. Asking am I helping grow the person I’m in connection with? Am I pushing them towards God? Am I challenging them to be better without being overbearing? One thing I’ve learned is when you begin changing who people know you to be they notice. They silently watch, wait, and take note to the newness of you. Some of those people will meet you at the level they’re comfortable at or rise to the occasion of new discovery. It’s up to us to evaluate the value they bring and decide if we’re able to provide them with our new found value.

Whether someone gives you accolades about your growth or not you have to know they’re watching. You have to know God has attached certain people to your ministry, your purpose, and your life. Delay in your growth places a delay in theirs. So how can you be of influence? Easy! Never stop growing. Never stop challenging yourself to be better. Never stop seeking direction from God. The way we live our life has three effects on people we’re connected to. It will keep them stagnant, set them on a backward spiral towards their default setting or push them into greatness. Which role do you want in the lives of those connected to you?

To be “Unintentionally Inspiring” means choosing to live your life at a level of greatness for yourself; causing people to be inspired enough to go after their own greatness. Yes, I made that up. Lol. It’s what it means to me. Before I am anything to anyone I have to be everything to myself. People who knew me can’t recognize me now. They aren’t supposed too. We all should be at a constant state of evolving. Every day I make it a point to be better than the day before. Every day I’m challenging myself to do something I haven’t done. Learn something I didn’t know. I encourage the people in my circle to strive for greatness for them, and not for anyone else.

I challenge you to ask yourself, “What role do I want to have in the lives of those connected to me?” Do you want to keep them stagnant, set them backward, or push them towards greatness? The way you choose to live your life determines the role you will serve in the lives of others. There’s no escaping it. Whether you want to or not you have the power of unintentional influence. There are too many people watching you. So choose to be GREAT. Blessings.


“You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.”

Matthew 5:14-16

Misplaced Value

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. We’ve made it through the week. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. This week I found myself torn between a few areas I wanted to cover in this post. I felt inspired to completely change what I originally was going to write about this evening. In the realm of sudden inspiration, I pray that whoever this is for you are also inspired. Blessings.

What makes you feel good? Is it winning a game? A promotion? Is it when he or she expresses their admiration for you? Where do you seek validation? For me, I sought validation in relationships. My relationships were the places I found value. How I made people feel made me feel worthy. It made me feel important. Needed. Desired.

So you can imagine when my relationships diminished I lost a part of me. Why would this person leave me? I gave them all of me. I would spend days and nights crying, depressed, mourning the death of where I once placed my value. Not realizing I was searching for a person to introduce me to the beauty God created in me. Isn’t it amazing we will spend our entire lives looking for love, peace, validation, and stability in everyone and everything except Jesus Christ? We will pass up opportunities because we don’t have a title associated with our name. Even though God is the one who opened the door for the opportunity regardless of our lack of a title. Why are we so consumed with the approval of others? Why do we thirst for acceptance from people when God has already accepted us?

I can remember the times I cried out to God asking Him why no one loved me. It wasn’t until I grew in my relationship with Jesus when I understood it wasn’t the fact that people didn’t love me. It was the fact no one loved me as God did. That was the “Aha Moment.” All those years I was looking for my value in relationships I was really limiting my value. As much as we might love someone. No one can see into you as God can. No one knows your innermost thoughts as God does. No one feels the depths of your pain like God. No one knows your desire’s like God does. Most importantly, no one knows how wonderfully you were made like the one who made you. We will love, but we will never feel love the way God loves us.

I spent most of my adult life misplacing my value. Searching for fulfillment in relationships, alcohol, jobs, and school. Never finding what I was really searching for until I found God. When I found Him I found myself. I found I was stronger than I thought I was. I found I didn’t have to return to the people or things which hurt me. I found I could forgive myself for my past ignorance. I found peace. For the first time in my life, I found value within myself and no one had to give it to me. I was good enough all by myself.

This week I challenge you to write down where you’ve placed your value. Is it in titles, accomplishments, designer labels, relationships? After you’ve written them down I want you to ask God to show you how to find your value in Him. Blessings.

“For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.”

Psalm 139:13-16

Mindful Moment – God Can

Great Morning my brother’s and sister’s in Christ. This week is coming to a close. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. This morning I want to leave you with a thought. Think about the most outrageous goal you have. Really think about it. For some of us the goal may be to have a globally successful Christian business. Others it may be traveling the entire world or becoming the largest resource for women to find their God given purpose. No matter how far the reach of our goals is know that God’s abilities surpass our grandest thoughts. He reaches places we can’t imagine having access too. If you’ve ever limited the idea of where you can go, who you can be, or the influence of what you can do. I’m here to tell you, STOP LIMITING GOD. He takes us where we can’t go on our own. He already placed the best version of us inside of us. He told us He made us in His image. His word says, “we rule over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals on the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground.” Which means we came out the womb with authority and influence.

I challenge you to retrain your thought process. When you’re connected to Jesus Christ you’re connected to the ultimate source. There’s nothing too hard for God. Next time you pray do it with authority. Decree and declare (whatever the outrages goal) it’s mine, I shall have it, it belongs to me. Remember, God CAN. Blessings!

Relationship Goals

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. We have entered into a new week. I pray you have purposed in your mind to spend your week living intentionally and with purpose. I’m a day late for Spirit Care Sunday. Technical difficulties, Lol. I posted this short 1-minute reminder on my business Instagram page and desired to share it with my blog family.

One of the books I’m currently writing is all about #RelationshipGoals.
There are practical fundamentals that we miss when it comes to establishing our relationship with our Father. I walk you through step-by-step as you’re in your relationship building process with Jesus Christ. This week’s Spirit-Care Sunday I wanted to share one of my tips from the book. That being, “Don’t Let Sunday Be Your Only Time With God.” As always I pray my post will encourage you to self-reflect, and challenge you to come up higher. Blessings.

Mindful Morning

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I won’t hold you long this morning I just wanted to share with you something the Holy Spirit shared with me last night. As I was in worship I asked Him what do the people need to know. The Holy Spirit said, “God requires us to give Him all of us, because He gave us all of Him.”

Maybe you’re someone who has struggled with giving God all of you. Maybe you find yourself repeating the same cycle of events that bring you no good. Maybe that thing you can’t seem to shake is your attitude. Maybe it’s your dependency on your job. Maybe it’s your trust in man. Maybe it’s trust in yourself. Whatever the case we serve a God who has already gone ahead of us and paid the ultimate price so that we can have life. There is nothing that we will lose that can compare to what God has already lost when He allowed His one and only son Jesus Christ to be sacrificed.

Remember, the fear you feel to lose it all for the name of Jesus is keeping you from the very thing that will completely transform your existence. Blessings.

Something to watch for – I talk about “How to give God your all” in my new book coming soon. Be looking out for the release of my book, “Relationship Goals.” A beginner guide to building your relationship with God.

Is Your Vision Limited?

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I was reading in the Gospels this morning. More specifically, John 1. Towards the end of the text, we find Jesus preparing to journey to Galilee. He calls, Philip to follow Him. Philip then goes to get Nathanael to whom he says, “We have found the one Moses wrote about in the Law, and about whom the prophets also wrote—Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” Skeptical, Nathanael replied, “Nazareth! Can anything good come from there?” Once they arrived the conversation went like this:

When Jesus saw Nathanael approaching, he said of him, “Here truly is an Israelite in whom there is no deceit.” “How do you know me?” Nathanael asked. Jesus answered, “I saw you while you were still under the fig tree before Philip called you.” Then Nathanael declared, “Rabbi, you are the Son of God; you are the king of Israel.” Jesus said, “You believe because I told you I saw you under the fig tree. You will see greater things than that.” He then added, “Very truly I tell you, you will see ‘heaven open, and the angels of God ascending and descending on’ the Son of Man.” John 1:47‭-‬51 NIV

After reading the text I immediately felt the prompting of the Holy Spirit asking me, “have you ever limited Gods ability?” I can remember times where all I wanted was to know that God was listening to me. Not understanding that He knows all, sees all, and has a plan for my life. Maybe like me, you’re someone who needed healing from their past, control of their finances, or peace. All circumstances that Jesus Christ sees.

The Holy Spirit continued to speak to me. Saying, “What we perceive as hard times doesn’t even qualify as an issue to God.” I can look back over my life and glimpses of the times where I was stuck in my hurt, pain, and loss of identity will pop up. They serve as a reminder that I spent so much of my time focused on how I saw myself and what I was going through when God already knew. Not only did He know me but in spite of my flaws, there were things he wanted to do in me that I couldn’t even begin to imagine.

I believe that sometimes when we spend so long desiring to be healed, financially stable, or just to have consistent peace that’s all we can see. We pray without ceasing for our circumstance to change, for our living situation to change, for our relationships to change. Then we find out that as we seek God more He changes less of those things and more of us.

So how does this all tie together with Nathanael and Jesus? Nathanael believes that Jesus is the Messiah because Jesus sees Him under a fig tree. Guess what? No matter what your prayer is or what you’ve been through Jesus sees you. Jesus then goes on to say, you believe I’m the Messiah because I told you I saw you under the tree? He may be saying to us, “You believe I’m the Messiah because you got that promotion?” That’s not even the beginning of what I can really do in your life. Just wait and see what I’m really capable of doing. Heaven will open up and angels will appear. The God that we pray to over relationships ending, doors closing, and our finances. Is the same God who will open the windows of Heaven. Heaven! While we’re worried about Him blessings us with a new car. 

We have to stop asking God the perform a miracle on circumstances that He has equipped us to handle. Not everything we pray about requires fire from heaven. This is why He changes us instead of the circumstance because if He can change us then we can change the circumstance.

God sees you. He hears you. You are significant. So much so that he knows the number of hairs on your head. I challenge you today to change how you see Jesus. Understand there’s more to Him than just helping us which means there’s more to us. God has placed all these amazing talents and gifts inside of you. We have to allow our vision to be more like God. I encourage you to see yourself. Get a good look. Then realize that the God who opens Heaven Spirit lives within you. You’re capable of more than what you think. Stop limiting the capacity of the gift that is Christ Jesus. Remember, you ain’t seen nothing yet. Blessings.

 

How To P.R.A.Y

Great Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. It’s Self-Care Sunday here on Mindful Of Me Moments. As a rule of thumb, we should all be practicing good self-care techniques daily. I’ve chosen Sundays to be the day that I touch base and provide tips to all of you. As you know I’m currently working my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to establish a relationship with Yahweh. It’s something that I believe will be very beneficial for the “New Christian” or someone who knows Christ and may need to brush up on the fundamentals of their intimate relationship with Him. After all, we can’t have self-care without having a relationship with Christ first. I mean He is the one who knows what we need. For this Self-Care Sunday, we are going to be talking about one of the tips provided in my upcoming book. That tip being “How To P.R.A.Y.” As always I pray that it inspires you to self-reflect and make adjustments as needed. Blessings.

I remember being a young girl and not knowing how to pray. The very first prayer that I learned came from Matthew 6, “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” You know the rest. If you grew up in church then this was probably your first prayer as well. I often times heard the elders in the church describe prayer as “having a conversation with God.” Was it that simple? I just open my mouth and talk to God like I talked to one of my home-girls? There had to be more to it than that. Surely, I would have to speak to Him with more depth and diction. Looking back now I probably spent more time wondering what He wanted me to say versus just speaking to Him. As my relationship with Him started to flourish there were some fundamental points that helped me in my prayer time.

Before we get into those points I thought it would be beneficial to understand why it’s important to pray. The bible says,

“Pray without ceasing.”

1 Thessalonians 5:17


“And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”

Ephesians 6:18

There are many scriptures that explain the importance of prayer. In short, prayer is our display of faith, trust, love, and humility towards Jesus. It’s also a direct avenue to make our requests known to Him and a way to hear from Him. Ultimately, it serves as a catalyst in our relationship with our Father.

Now onto the fundamentals of prayer. Next time you P.RA.Y remember to Praise, Repent, Ask, & Yield.

PRAISE the Lord for who He is. He is wonderful. Marvelous in all His ways. He is King of Kings, Lord of Lords. He is the one and only true God. He is Mighty, our Everlasting Father, the Prince of Prince. He is what was, what is, and what will be. He is Unchanging. He is our Redeemer and Way-maker. Start all your prayers off with giving Him the praise that is due.

REPENT unto the Lord. The bible says, “we all fall short to the glory of God.” True repentance is more than our verbal declaration. It’s our ability to turn away from things that are not pleasing to God. When we pray with a repenting heart we are acknowledging to Yahweh that “we have sinned and we are making a decision to turn away from that sinful act moving forward.” The Bible requires us to confess our sins to God. There may be times that we’ve sinned and are not even aware of it. Make sure you’re praying that God reveals any area that you need to repent and when He does repent then turn away from it.

ASK the Lord. There are three things that the bible says we ought to do when asking God for something. We are to make sure our request glorify God, are parallel to His word, and that they bring joy. See John 14:13, John 15:7, and John 16:23-24. Once you’ve checked all three of those then ask away. “We have not because we ask not.” It’s not good enough to stand on the fact that God knows the desires of our heart. His word tells us that we have to ASK HIM. Whether you’re asking Him to move in someone else’s life or your own. Make sure you’re specific. Don’t ask for God to bless you with the rent for next month. Ask Him to bless you with the wisdom to handle your finances. See what I did there? Lol.

YIELD unto the Lord. This is one of my favorite points in the P.R.A.Y. fundamentals. Yield means to produce or provide. Biblically, it means to wait on or submit to. When we yield to God we are literally giving Him the opportunity to provide or produce a response to our prayer. I know right. No one ever told you to wait for Him to respond after your prayers. Welp, now you know. For me, this is where meditation takes place. I pray then I meditate in silence. I allow His Holy Spirit to comfort me and I wait until I feel released to move. Sometimes He reveals things to me. Other times He just provides me with peace and a clear mind. Either way, I’ve provided Him free range to speak back to me as He sees fit.

So there it is people of God. Our Self-Care Sunday Tip. “How To P.R.A.Y.” I pray that it helped those who may not know how to approach praying. I pray it aides as a refresher for those who already know Christ. I would love to know your fundamentals of prayer. Drop a comment below. I love you with the love of the Lord. Blessings.

Don’t Let Your Ego “Edge God Out”

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. Can you believe January is already over? How are you guys doing with your 2019 goals? Have any adjustments happened with your vision for this year? They have for me. Lol. The overall vision is the same but the path in which it’ll happen has slightly changed. With thirty-three days in the books Yahweh has already slowed me down. Many of you know I finished my Vision Board a week or so before the new year. My goals cosisted of growth in my relationship with Christ, my marriage, my brand, this blog, and a list of other ventures. The more I attempted to reach these deadlines that I set for myself God was directing my attention to the journey that has to happen before I reach the destination. I guess you can say my EGO was getting the best of me.

I was listening to a podcast the other day and the guy referenced his EGO getting in his way. Now I’m not someone who relishes in my own accomplishments. All glory be to God for anything that he has strengthened me through or allowed me to obtain. As the podcast continued he mentions that a pastor told him that when we have a big EGO we are essentially “Edging God Out.” #MindBlown Had I Edged God Out in my bedazzled Vision Board and 2019 Goals? Couldn’t have I thought. I mean He is in the midst of every goal that I have for this year. The more I talked to Yahweh about it He began to reveal to me how my EGO was getting in the way.

Even though my vision was from God I didn’t account for the time needed to prepare for the vision. I started the process but had no expectation of the next steps which left me doing what I thought was necessary. I was leaning on my own understanding. Even for God’s glory. I found myself making all these plans that glorify God but in the same moment, I was edging him out of my preparation process. There is nothing in this world that we will do that doesn’t require seed, time and harvest. If God has planted a seed in you there is no skipping the “time” that is needed before the harvest.

In due season, what is planted inside of you will grow. Continue to allow God to cultivate you through the process.

Maybe Christ has given you a vision to write a book, start a credit repair business, an apparel shop, or become a life coach. There is absolutely no way to bypass the necessary journey that you have to take in order to flourish in your God-Given area. There are levels that require our participation as we are on our journey to becoming who we were created to be.

You can find preparation thorughout the bible,

“Put your outdoor work in order
    and get your fields ready;
    after that, build your house.”

Proverbs 24:26

So what’s the takeaway? Start. God has given you a vision for your life then start. Start the process and allow Yahweh to guide you through each and every step. God isn’t our phone a friend when we are stuck. His place is in front of us before we even make the step. I spoke about being in the process of writing my first book. I had the opportunity of attending a Master Class that focused on “Writing Your First Book & Self-Publishing.” I learned so much that I had no idea about prior to taking the class. The knowledge was necessary as I journey to becoming a first-time author. Don’t allow your EGO to Edge God Out of your preparation process. Blessings.

Create! Just remember to include Christ in the process.

Update: I went to a Christian Women’s Bible Study last night and it truly was a release for me. I really underestimated how much I missed being able to fellowship with other Women of God. Right at the end, they asked us to write down what we were hearing from God. He simply told me, “Go and be free TRULY Tiffany.” It was as if I still had a spec of my past self in my heart and in that moment Yahweh released me from it. Glory be to God.

Also, I just booked my first speaking engagement of the year. I am so honored and excited about the event. The subject, “There is Beauty in The Vision.” What a befitting topic. Details coming soon. Love you with the love of the Lord.

Mindful Morning

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I don’t normally write a blog this early in the morning but I’m so full with God’s Holy Spirit that I had to write about it. The past few days I’ve continued to hear and see the same message. All having to do with living out your purpose. I am someone who still works a 9-5 but is transitioning into becoming a full-time entrepreneur. I know that this year is my year of preparation for that transition. I attended a Masterclass Tuesday evening. “How To Write & Self-Publish A Book.” For those who don’t know I am currently working on my first book. It’s a starter guide on how to build a relationship with God. I’m completely honored for the vision that Christ has given me for the project and can’t wait till it comes out.

So what does this have to do with you? I’m glad you asked. God created every single one of us with a purpose. There is a special work in you that is instrumental to the Kingdom of God. It is our business to find out what that work is then complete it. There is someone waiting for you to write that book, start that business, become that Doctor, obtain that License. Whatever the call is on your life know that it is bigger than you. Don’t hold up someone’s deliverance because you refuse to be who you were created to be. I want us all to win. So go be great! After all, you were created to dwell in greatness.

Today, I challenge you to do more for your purpose. If you already know God’s purpose for your life then invest in it. Take a class, network with people in that field, supplement leisure time for more time in your calling. Find a balance but definitely increase your efforts if need be. I love you with the love of the Lord. I can’t wait to see the things you’ll accomplish for the Kingdom of God.

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Check Yourself

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent this week living with purpose and intention. I want you to take the time to perform a Self-Check. I was riding around with my husband last night, and we started talking about our growth as children of God. The conversation led to me explaining how I find myself performing Spiritual Self-Checks to make sure I’m in alignment with the Will of God throughout my daily interactions.

The Word of God says,

“Test and evaluate yourselves to see whether you are in the faith and living your lives as [committed] believers. Examine yourselves [not me]! Or do you not recognize this about yourselves [by an ongoing experience] that Jesus Christ is in you—unless indeed you fail the test and are rejected as counterfeit?” (2 Corinthians 13:5 AMP)

 ‘Therefore, believers, be all the more diligent to make certain about His calling and choosing you [be sure that your behavior reflects and confirms your relationship with God]; for by doing these things [actively developing these virtues], you will never stumble [in your spiritual growth and will live a life that leads others away from sin]; for in this way entry into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ will be abundantly provided to you.” (2 Peter 1:10-11 AMP)

Wow! When I read these two scriptures I had a vision of the Lord standing before me saying, “You are a reflection of me; so act right. You hear me?” Lol. But it’s so true. We are in a relationship with the Father, and how we behave solidifies that relationship. How can two walk together unless they agree? So Yeshua creates a guide in the bible that maps out how we ought to behave in order to confirm a relationship with Him.

Here are some things you can do when performing a Self-Check.

  • Evaluate Your Priorities. Take the time to write out a list of your daily activities. Don’t say God is your number one priority, but you’re not spending time with Him. If you’re at work majority of the time, grab dinner on the way home, watch TV once you get home, squeeze in some family time at the end of your night, then you finish with the Lord’s Prayer. Your list should reflect those activities in that order. Remember, your priorities are the things you’re investing your time in. (Self-Check: Ask yourself where on my priority list does the development of my relationship with Yeshua fall? If He doesn’t fall at the top of your list then start adjusting your daily life around spending time with Him; DO NOT adjust spending time with Him around your daily life.)
  • Be Intentional About Your Responses. You can’t control what people say to you. However, you can control how you respond to people. Working in the healthcare field I am challenged daily with high-intensity situations. More often than not I am bombarded with an overload of tasks. Some that belong to me, and others that don’t. I’ve recently adopted the understanding that “I’m only one person. I can’t do everything, but I Can Do Something.” This mantra allows me to have peace in the midst of chaos.

Let’s Go a Little Deeper. How are you responding to yourself when the enemy tries to torment you in your mind; stirring up memories of your past? When I’m faced with moments like this I have to be intentional about my response. Since he likes to bring up my past I like to bring up my present. He may say, “Don’t forget who you are! Abused, abuser, liar, adulterer, alcoholic, porn addict, worthless, financially irresponsible,  inconsistent, and double-minded.” My response, “Old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. You’re bringing up things that are far from me. Things that I fell out of agreement with a long time ago. I’m not ashamed of who I was, because look at who I am now. I AM free from sexual immorality, truthful, faithful, sober, financially responsible, worthy, consistent, and rooted in God. I was washed by the blood of the lamb. Jesus died for my sins so that I can walk in my freedom. He’s already paid the price for me so I can stand up tall, and relish in my victory. My testimony is the evidence of His greatness.”

Remember, “Therefore if anyone is in Christ [that is, grafted in, joined to Him by faith in Him as Savior], he is a new creature [reborn and renewed by the Holy Spirit]; the old things [the previous moral and spiritual condition] have passed away. Behold, new things have come [because spiritual awakening brings a new life].” 2 Corinthians 5:17

(Self-Check: Are you taking the time to assess your reactions? If not, you ought to start checking yourself. It’s always better to think before you speak.) 

  • Acknowledge How You’re Feeling. You have to stop ignoring your feelings. I spent so many years suppressing my emotional health that it was foreign for me to admit how I felt. Generationally, I was taught that I had to be strong. No matter what was going on in my life I was taught that I had to operate in survival mode. This taught me three things: 1) How to get the job done. 2) How NOT to be successful at communicating. 3) How to ignore my mental and emotional health.

I have struggled my entire life with communicating how I feel. In relationships, I allowed people to treat me any kind of way, because I didn’t acknowledge how I felt. As I become more mindful of me Yeshua is showing me how to acknowledge how I’m feeling while placing those feelings in their appropriate place. You can do the same thing by performing these steps:

“Acknowledging Yourself Checklist”

  1. Ask yourself how you’re feeling.
  2. Acknowledge that it’s ok for you to feel this way. Good or bad.
  3. Establish the reason you’re feeling this way. List these reasons as your triggers.
  4. Discover ways to combat this feeling if the feeling causes you to be in a state of mind that isn’t parallel to how Yeshua requires you to be. (Do this by finding out what the bible says about this feeling.)
  5. Discover ways that will support how you’re feeling if the feeling causes you to be in alignment with the Word of God. (Do this by finding the scriptures that bring you confirmation about how you’re feeling.)
  6. Take the time to put into practice these steps daily.

When you acknowledge how you’re feeling you’re able to be intentional about yourself. You’re able to put your mental health into proper position. You’re able to fix your mind on the solution instead of the problem. You’re able to meditate on what is right which will ultimately direct you towards operating at your highest level of self. (Self-Check: Are you someone who suppresses their feelings? If so, start to acknowledge NOT dismiss them. Once you’ve acknowledged them follow the above 6 steps so that you are able to be purposely in your mental and emotional health.)

As always it’s been great spending this time with you. I pray that you will spend a little extra time “Checking Yourself.” Blessings.

How I Started Meditating with Intention

Good Morning my brother/sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve been living with intention, and purpose on today. Just like many of you as I journey on my path to purpose and self-care I’m trying new things that make me press the pause button. Naturally, when I think about being at peace I think about meditating. Whether that’s meditating on the Word of God or meditating in a quiet place. My goal was to find a healthy alternative to some bad habits I had when I found myself stressed or having anxiety. (Tip: In order to be intentional you have to have a reason why you’re doing it. Then you have to establish an end goal.)

I began my meditation pursuit with the Google App store. Lol. There are so many apps that are geared toward meditation. I tired a few of them out. Listened to people telling me to, “focus on their voice. Clear my mind. Be one with myself.” I soon learned that listening to other people talk me through mantra’s wasn’t that peaceful. I spent most of the time thinking about other things. I found a few apps that didn’t have someone talking to me. Instead, they offered an extensive list of sounds. That wasn’t so bad. The only downfall was the app automatically placed ads on my phone. So I was annoyed, again. I finally did some research about things to focus on while meditating and came across what seems to be working for me now. So here is how I finally started meditating with intention:

  1. I first realized why I wanted to explore meditation as a self-care technique. I was drawn to meditation because it was something that I could do to add focus to my life.
  2. I then set a goal. My goal was to find out which meditation technique worked for me. You will have to try a few to find your fit.
  3. I came up with a time frame when to meditate. Ultimately, I would like to do it every day. At this current moment, I do it when I’m stressed, have anxiety, am feeling overwhelmed, or when I need to recharge.

Note: Often times we have a battle going on in our minds. Our thoughts can dictate how we feel, how we express ourselves, and how we react to certain situations. We spend a good amount of time trying to master our thoughts. You know, “show them who’s boss.” Mediation has truly allowed me to acknowledge my thoughts without allowing them to dictate my response. For instance, I acknowledge that work was stressful today. However, my mental focus is on peace. I choose to meditate on my breathing. Allowing each breathe to be intentional. Realizing that as I breathe slowly in through my nose, and out through my mouth that I’m blessed to be living. As I inhale and exhale it resembles the sounds of the music I’m listening to through my earbuds. This is important! I have a meditation Spotify playlist that I listen to THROUGH MY EARBUDS. The sound penetrates through me when it’s in close proximity versus me playing music over a speaker. (Sidenote: If you would like my Meditation Spotify Playlist email me mindfulofmemoments@gmail.com)

As I mention earlier I focus on my breathing when I meditate. I do that through my entire meditation session. I literally have never been so in-tune to inhaling or exhaling in my life. Lol. I wanted to share my breathing counts with you so that you can have a starting point when trying to develop meditation techniques. There are numerous breathing techniques on the web that you can find. I tried a few and decided to make up my own. (Sidenote: When meditating I am positioned in an upright stance with my legs crossed. I also do this sitting upright in a chair focusing on proper posture.) Here is my breathing technique:

  1. Inhale slowly through your nose taking air from stomach diaphragm. As you inhale slowly count to 5.
  2. Hold your breath for 2-3 seconds.
  3. Exhale slowly through your mouth making a whoosh sound. Count to 5.
  4. Repeat

Simple enough, right. Keep in mind folks I am a beginner. My meditation playlist is roughly 30 mins. That seems to be the sweet spot for my time frame currently. As I progress I’m sure I will adapt alternate breathing techniques and postures. As for now, I’m loving my new found zen. Remember, all of this is about self-care. Find something that you can do for yourself that brings you joy, and peace. Blessings.

 

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Create an Evening of Relaxation

You should always find time to spend with yourself. If you haven’t had the luxury of doing that throughout your week then start with one day out of the week. Sunday is my designated day to really create a luxurious self-care experience. I always take special care of myself by running an aromatherapy bath with candles, incense, cucumber slices for my eyes, avocado oatmeal face mask, a citrus or peppermint drink, and soothing music. I use my dry body brush before I bathe to exfoliate my skin. While I’m in the bath I always take time to speak life into myself. I resight my affirmations out loud. I speak things over myself like, “you are healed, you are whole, you are beautiful inside and out, your finances are thriving, your marriage is thriving, your blog is thriving, your business is thriving, you’re debt-free, through the Holy Spirit your business will reach a multitude of Gods people, you are obedient to the word of God, you are operating in your purpose.” These are just a few affirmations I resight daily as well as during my Self-Care Sunday routine.

After I’ve spoken life over myself I RELAX. Self-Care is just what it says it is. Taking care of yourself. Self-Care Sunday is less about the bath and more about the experience. Yes, baths are relaxing. I enjoy the aromatherapy from my bath, and how soothing it is to my body. Most importantly I enjoy the fact that I’ve become intentional about taking time for myself. It has allowed me to form the habit of finding peace of mind. We wear so many hats. Mother’s, wives, husbands, father’s, students, CEO’s, and a list of other roles. Taking time for you means you get to just be a person; even if it’s only for an hour. Lol. Maximize your self-care experience doing something that allows you to just spend time with yourself in a relaxing state. It may not be taking a bath or getting a pedicure. Maybe relaxation for you is listening to music in a quiet place, reading a book, taking a bike ride, going to the gym. However, you perceive relaxation make sure you’re thinking about yourself at some point weekly. Once you do that make sure you take time to speak life into yourself. The bible says, “there is life and death in the power of the tongue.” You will ultimately have what you speak. If no one has ever taken the time to speak life into you I challenge you to be the first person to consistently speak life into yourself.

Self-Care Sunday tip this week is to create your own self-care routine. Make sure you’re doing something that puts you in a state of relaxation, and also allows you time to speak life over yourself through affirmations. You only get one you so take of yourself. Blessings.