Who Has Time For Self-Care?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. It is the last Sunday in 2018. What a year it has been. I pray you’ve spent this year living intentionally and with purpose. We have made it to day 5 of “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” As a recap, I’ve shared how He showed me that I had no idea who I was, I believed in my own ability versus His, I struggled with unforgiveness, and how I placed everything except Him at the throne of my heart. Seeing as “Mindful Of Me Moments” was created when I received a revelation that God was mindful of me when I wasn’t mindful of myself. It was only right I ended this mini-series speaking about how He showed me that I was unaware of how to self-care. I pray that this post encourages you to self-reflect and if needed inspires you to alter your own ability to self-care. Blessings.

If you been following this mini-series the last 5 days then you have a good idea of the areas that I struggled with in my lifetime. You’re also aware of how Yahweh has healed me in those areas. I won’t spend time revisiting any particular instances where I didn’t properly consider the care of myself. What I will do is talk about how Yahweh has enhanced my knowledge of self-care as well as share a list of things that I do now that promote positive self-care.

If you’re anything like me then you’re use to always having something on your plate. No time to sit down. There is work to do. Clean the house, cook dinner, tend to my spouse, do schoolwork, respond to emails, attend church, attend family functions, be the mediator in friendships, and take care of the kids for those who have children. This year Yahweh showed me what my to-do list consisted of and guess what? I wasn’t anywhere on it. Out of all my obligations, I never considered myself as an obligation.

It’s amazing how we can make time for everything and everyone else except ourselves. The crazy thing about that is you spend the most time with yourself. When Yahweh revealed that to me I literally had to ask Him what I should do. I had no idea what it meant to have a positive self-care routine. Piece by piece He showed me. Before I list my self-care routine I want to mention that you will not be as effective to anyone or anything if you are not taking the time to self-care. You need a healthy mind, body, and spirit in order to function at your highest capacity. With that being said, here is my self-care routine.

  1. I find moments of quiet time daily. Doesn’t matter where I am. I can be at work, at home, in the car. I make it a point daily to sit in quiet and meditate. Sometimes that consists of a 15-30 min breathing technique. That helps me to focus on my breath instead of my mind running all over the place. Other times I recite positive affirmations over and over.
  2. I write daily. You don’t have to be gifted in writing to write. Even if no one ever reads what you wrote it’s a healthy habit to keep a journal. Writing has always been therapeutic for me. It allows me to put my thoughts, ideas, revelations, and goals on paper. Out of my mind and on paper.
  3. I use aromatherapy scents daily. I have a diffuser that sits on my nightstand. If I need to relieve stress I’ll drop some eucalyptus. If I need to calm my spirit I’ll use lavender. To wake up I use orange or grapefruit in the morning. I also use aromatherapy in the bath along with Epsom salt to soothe my body. I have aromatherapy body oils that I put on depending on how I’m feeling. Our sense of smell sends triggers to our brain. If you don’t currently use some type of aromatherapy I encourage you to try it out. It helps.
  4. I drink tea. I have a complete section in my kitchen that’s dedicated to tea. I have my electric tea kettle, mason jars filled with loose leaf tea, and a pitcher of bagged teas. I probably have about 30 different teas. Tea is RELAXING. I drink it daily. If I’m sick, if I need energy, if I need to sleep, if I need to be calm. Tea is a big part of my self-care routine.
  5. I eat healthily and workout. This is something that is on my 2019 Vision Board. I was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure earlier this year and am currently working towards getting off my meds. This means that the way I eat has now become a goal for me moving forward. If we are unhealthy in our physical body then we for sure limit our opportunities. Along with that comes working out which should also be a priority in our ability to self-care. How we feel in our body affects what we do.
  6. I monitor my thoughts and speak life into myself. There is life and death in the power of the tongue. We shall have what we speak. I have become very cautious about the things that I allow to come out of mouth especially about myself. Our thoughts determine how we feel about ourselves. Being mentally sound stems from what or who we listen to, and what we say about ourselves. So be conscious of what you’re thinking and saying about yourself.
  7. I spend time with myself outside of the home. That’s right. I get a break from home and work. Lol. Majority of the time I do this while getting a mani and pedi which again is, RELAXING. Other opportunities include getting a facial, massage, shopping, or getting your hair done. Any activity that relieves stress or anxiety I’m all for.
  8. I listen to music. Music is another avenue that alters your mind. I listen to a lot of gospel, worship, and Christian rap. When I’m looking for a chill/funky type of music to zone out or write too I listen to, Sango Radio on Pandora. Go check it out if you haven’t. You’re welcome in advance. It’s a VIBE.
  9. I buy myself something every month. Sometimes I get expensive things. Sometimes I buy something as simple as a new journal. This is something that my husband taught me to do. I use to be very frugal. I still am in some respect. What he taught me was I should not work just to pay bills. Now we’re wise when it comes to finances. However, it’s important to treat yourself consistently not just for special occasions. You don’t know how many women and men I’ve come across that can’t remember the last time they bought themselves something. I promise it matters in your self-care routine.
  10. I invest in my spirit daily. Understanding that the Holy Spirit lives within me. It was important to implement a self-care routine for my spirit. I read the word of God every day. I pray every day. I deny my flesh so that my spirit can be strong every day.

As you can tell there is a common theme among my top 10 self-care techniques. The theme being anything that I can do to promote relief, relaxation, growth, and appreciation for me. All of the techniques have made a tremendous difference in my ability to self-care. I’ve learned what I like, what I don’t like, how to relax, how to wake up, how to focus on me, and how not to forget that I have an obligation to myself to be healthy enough to be effective.

This year has been the most impactful year that I have had to date. I’ve acquired so much new knowledge of Yahweh and myself. I’ve grown in my relationship with Him and with me. All of which has made me more effective in my marriage, friendships, business, and ministry. In less than 12 months I’ve reached a level of intimacy with Christ that I never knew I could, I learned my true identity, my purpose was born, I faced my greatest fear, my marriage completely leaped in progression, I started a business, I fell out of agreement with things and people that blocked my spiritual growth. For the first time in my life, I finally started living intentionally and with purpose.

Thank you, Yahweh. 2018 Blessed Me.

Who Has Your Heart?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent another day living intentionally and with purpose. If you’ve been following my blog the last few days then you are aware that I’ve been posting about “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” We are on day 4 of 5 of this mini-series. To recap we’ve discussed how Yahweh revealed to me that I had no idea who I was, that I believed in my own ability over His, and that I struggled with unforgiveness. All of which He has changed in me. Tonight, I will be discussing how He revealed to me that He was not at the throne of my heart. As always I pray that this post prompts you to examine yourself and pushes you towards God. Blessings.

The first time I heard the phrase “Throne of your heart” was during a sermon by Pastor Michael Todd from Transformation Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma. It put into perspective the way I looked at every task, relationship, and obstacle I faced thereafter. The sermon served as confirmation to what God was already doing in my life. If anything, it brought about further clarity in regard to my priorities. I understood that if I were going to live for Christ then that required a level of obedience. As I continued to grow in God I would soon learn that my relationship with Him was more than just being obedient.

The Word of God Says,
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”

Proverbs 4:23

As this year progressed I started to shift the amount of time I spent with Yahweh. I began waking up at 4 am every morning to pray and read my bible. I would listen to sermons throughout the day at work when I had the opportunity too. I stopped feeding my spirit anything that was on the radio or on T.V. I even stopped engaging in certain conversations with friends. Making those few adjustments showed me a couple of things. It showed me that my desires for certain things shifted. It also showed me all the things that I once placed before Yahweh. Work, relationships, money, ministry, school, my flesh. All of these things were sitting in God’s sit at the throne of my heart.

The shift happened when I realized God doesn’t fit into my life. My life fits into God. I no longer made my own plans. I consulted Him in order to obtain the plan. In doing so, I began to desire to know Him more intimately. I get excited about spending time with Him. I’m interested in growing closer to Him through His word every day. I started to form a real relationship with Him. It reminds me of times when you start dating someone and you’re super consumed with them. You can’t wait to talk to them in the morning. You stay up all night on the phone even if you have to work the next day. They’re always on your mind. You even share your life story with them. That’s how I started to feel about Yahweh. I couldn’t wait to speak to Him in the morning, and before I went to bed. He was and is still always on my mind. I’ve granted Him access to all my secret places. I am utterly consumed by His presence. For the first time, He was and is truly the front-runner in my heart.

My obedience to Christ led me to the discovery of what it really meant to have Him seated at the throne of my heart. Who you are, what you do, what you desire, how you perceive things, how you conduct yourself, how you feel, your actions, your responses, your emotions, your character all come from what’s in your heart. This is why the Bible speaks so much about our heart. We will NEVER change any of those things without first changing our heart.

Know we can only permanently change our hearts with God. He is the only person who can successfully handle the job. Understand, He doesn’t want us to give Him our heart because we’re scared of what will happen if we don’t. Believe me, He’ll know the reason why we’re doing it anyway. Our hearts will tell Him. He wants us to give Him our hearts because we desire to know and live for Him.

In 2018, I grew in love with Christ. I took every idol out of His seat and I put Him in His rightful place. I did it because I knew that apart from Him I would continue destroying myself. So I gave it the one and the only person who could take care of my heart, Him. When I did that He started showing me who He was and what He could do. I’ll never take Him out of His rightful place again. YAHWEH will FOREVER have my HEART.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
    do not depend on your own understanding.
Seek his will in all you do,
    and he will show you which path to take.

Proverbs 3:5-6

The Greatest Understanding of Forgiveness

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week thus far living intentionally and with purpose. We are on day 3 of 5 in “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” If you have not taken the time to read posts 1 & 2 I encourage you to do so before reading this one. As excited as I am for 2019 it was important for me to spend the last few days of the year reflecting on how far God has brought me from the beginning of the year. As always I pray that this post causes you to examine yourself and prompts you to allow Yahweh into your mind, heart, body, and spirit. Blessings!

I grew up in a Pentecostal Church. I remember being a young girl and wearing long skirts at all times when I was outside of my home. Attending Sunday School and afternoon service. Serving dinner on first Sunday after church. Participating in “Watch Night Service” on New Year’s Eve followed by the feet washing ceremony. Til this day I can’t stand touching feet, lol. Don’t forget being baptized in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. You would think growing up in the church I would have had a better understanding of Yahweh but I didn’t. The things that I remember for the most part were geared towards religious practices versus relationship. As time went on I was exposed to so many things outside of God that I found myself further and further away from the little girl that grew up wearing long skirts. It wasn’t until this year that I really formed an intimate relationship with Yahweh which would ultimately alter my understanging of everything that I wasn’t taught.

I felt it necessary to write about my experience growing up in church because even at that age and in the church I was exposed to sexual perversion. Not only was I but so were other children around me. Not understanding that “playing house” and touching private parts was a door that was opened for the enemy to come in even as children. I spent years trying to forgive myself for operating in spirits that were attached to me as a child. Repenting for things that I didn’t understand at that time in my life. But how great is the God that we serve? This year Yahweh gave me the greatest understanding of forgiveness.

The Word of God Says,
Where is another God like you,
    who pardons the guilt of the remnant,
    overlooking the sins of his special people?
You will not stay angry with your people forever,
    because you delight in showing unfailing love.
Once again you will have compassion on us.
    You will trample our sins under your feet
    and throw them into the depths of the ocean!

Micah 7:18-19

The part that stands out the most to me in this scripture is the mentioning of the word “remnant.” “Where is another God like you, who pardons the guilt of the remnant overlooking the sins of his special people.” Remnant means, “trace remaining.” The years that I spent carrying the guilt around from things that happened in my childhood, God was telling me that even the small traces left of that guilt he has already overlooked. Jesus! So what the enemy exposed me to as a young girl no longer stood against me as this Woman of God you see today.

The enemy doesn’t want you to forgive yourself. He doesn’t want you to forgive others. If he can keep us captive in unforgiveness he stops us from being free, having peace, and growing in our relationship with God. He’ll do anything to stop us from being who God created us to be. But I’m here to tell you as someone who has forgiven herself and those who hurt me. The plan of the enemy FAILED. Not only did I fall out of agreement with everything that he attached to me as a child. I repented, forgave, and grew in God.

When I tell you no one can do a thing like, Jesus Christ I mean it. If you are struggling with forgiveness I challenge you to start spending more time with Yahweh. Get in His word and apply what it says to your life. I guarantee your life will never be the same. In 2018 Yahweh showed me that I was struggling with unforgiveness but through my intimate relationship with Him I am now walking in my forgiveness.

“Understand this one thing. Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ holds forgiveness in His heart for you. Don’t spend another year carrying around the weight of something that God has already forgotten.” ~T.Nolan


“He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor punished us according to our iniquities. For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is His mercy toward those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.”
Psalm 103:10-12

My Ability vs God’s Ability

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. We have arrived at day 2 of 5 in “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” If you read yesterdays blog than you are already aware that for the last five days of 2018 I will be posting something each day that focuses on what I’ve learned about me this past year. Yesterday I talked about how I had no idea who I was. If you haven’t already done so. Please take a second to go and read that blog before this one as it will take you on a journey throughout all five posts. As always I pray that it causes to you examine yourself and prompts you to allow Yahweh to make adjustments where needed. Blessings.

As a little girl, I was taught very early that I had to be responsible. We didn’t grow up with a ton of money so we found ways to be resourceful. I recall a story that my Mother reminds me of from time to time. I believe I was ten or eleven when this happened. My Mother was single Mother of 3 children when I was that age. We lived in a town-home in Chicago Heights, IL. She worked all the time and would sometimes struggle to put food on the table. This one evening she found herself crying because there wasn’t a full meal for us to eat. She says I went up to her and told her not to cry because I made the family dinner. I grabbed her hand and walked her down the narrow hallway into the kitchen. She arrived at the table which I set with paper plates, napkins, and utensils. I even had my younger siblings sitting at the table waiting for her. On the menu were canned corn and hard white rice that I attempted to perfect. Lol. It immediately made her smile. Even at the age of ten, I believed in my own ability. This survival instinct to make something out of nothing followed me throughout my entire life.

Now I know what you’re thinking. Making something out of nothing is a great trait to have. I agree. It is a great trait to have when used in the right context. I, however, spent a large portion of my life misplacing my ability in areas that God should have had dominion. This year Yahweh showed me how much I believed in my own ability. There were times I worked two jobs to fund my selfish desires instead of paying my tithes and believing God to be my provider. There were times I found comfort in my sin in order to numb pain instead of believing God to be my comforter. There were times I hide my past instead of repenting for it and allowing God to free me from its bondage. There were times I secretly walked around with shame and guilt instead of casting my cares on God. There were times that I bent over backward to get man’s approval instead of giving God my attention so that He could show me my worth. There were times that I laid awake at night trying to come up with a solution instead of seeking God for His understanding and wisdom. There were times that I lied instead of trusting that God would recover what I lost in my truth. There were times I took pills and drank alcohol to stop the voices of the enemy in my mind instead of calling on The Prince of Peace. Even without result, I spent years placing my ability over God’s ability.

The Word of God Reminds Us Of God’s Ability,


Then Job replied:
 “How you have helped the powerless!
    How you have saved the arm that is feeble!
What advice you have offered to one without wisdom!
    And what great insight you have displayed!
 Who has helped you utter these words?
    And whose spirit spoke from your mouth?
“The dead are in deep anguish,
    those beneath the waters and all that live in them.
 The realm of the dead is naked before God;
    Destruction lies uncovered.
 He spreads out the northern skies over empty space;
    he suspends the earth over nothing.
 He wraps up the waters in his clouds,
    yet the clouds do not burst under their weight.
He covers the face of the full moon,
    spreading his clouds over it.
 He marks out the horizon on the face of the waters
    for a boundary between light and darkness.
The pillars of the heavens quake,
    aghast at his rebuke.
 By his power he churned up the sea;
    by his
wisdom he cut Rahab to pieces.
 By his breath the skies became fair;
    his hand pierced the gliding serpent.
 And these are but the outer fringe of his works;
    how faint the whisper we hear of him!
    Who then can understand the thunder of his power?”

Job 26

With a God like this, why would we ever believe in our own ability vs His ability?

With four days left in 2018 I am grateful that Yahweh has shown me that I no longer believe in my own ability over His. Our relationship has grown and in that growth I am able to call on the one who dwells in the impossible. Yesterday he reminded me that in 2018 He showed me who I was. Today we reflected on the relinquishing of my own ability and adapting to God’s ability which has proven to be something this new creature in Christ loves more.

How Great Is Our God.

The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. We are currently in the last five days of 2018. After spending the holidays with family in another state, which I loved. I’ve made it back home to round out the rest of my vacation relaxing in the confines of my master bedroom. As I was sitting in bed mentally reviewing the upcoming projects for 2019 the Lord dropped in my spirit everything that I’ve learned about myself this past year. With that being said, I welcome you to “The Top 5 Things Yahweh Showed Me About Myself in 2018.” I’ll be posting one thing I learned about myself for the next five days, in no particular order. As always I pray that it causes you to reflect on your own life and inspires you to make adjustments with the help of Yahweh.

The first thing that Yahweh showed me about myself this past year was that I had no idea who I was. If you follow my blog then you will find many posts about the discovery of the Woman of God I have grown to be now. This woman that is before you was not always easily identified. My roles and titles shaped my identity. My past shaped my thoughts. My life was cultivated in sexual perversion which reigned over my judgment. I was who life formed me to be and my aspirations were designed by those around me.

So you can imagine when I received a task from God at the beginning of the year to come clean about my past decisions I wasn’t thrilled. I remember thinking, “My life is about to be over.” I was petrified that my past had finally caught up with me and that people would no longer view me as the person they thought I was all these years. With my emotions in shambles, I put my sins out there to be judged. Then something miraculous happened.

In my confession, I finally put my obedience to God before I put my fear of how man would view me. It was in that moment that the progression of what is now the best relationship I’ve ever had happened. It was in that moment that my identity as a Child of God was birthed. It was also in that moment that I was introduced to my purpose in this world.

The Word of God says,


“You will never succeed in life if you try to hide your sins. Confess them and give them up; then God will show mercy to you.”

Proverbs 28:13

I spent so many years trying to hide my sins to protect the thing that I should have been dying to every day, my flesh. Yahweh showed me that up until that moment my identity was engulfed in my flesh which was not of Him. So not only did those around me not know who I really was; neither did I. I was tired of being bound by my past. I desired to be free. It was in my freedom that I learned my identity. All of that happened in the moment that I chose to be obedient to God and not to my flesh.

So who is Tiffany? I am a Child of the Most High God which makes me healed, whole, set-free, virtuous, loyal, precious, successful, pure, anointed, wise, and loving to name a few. I am so far from who the world formed me to be and I thank God every day for introducing me to who He created me to be. 2018 will forever be a year that I will remember. It was this year that Yahweh became my number one priority and in return, He showed me how to love my true self. I finally found me.

His Word Tells Us,

So we have stopped evaluating others from a human point of view. At one time we thought of Christ merely from a human point of view. How differently we know him now! This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! And all of this is a gift from God, who brought us back to himself through Christ. And God has given us this task of reconciling people to him. For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. And he gave us this wonderful message of reconciliation.  So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!” For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin so that we could be made right with God through Christ.”

2 Corinthians 5:16-21

“Allow Yahweh to introduce you to who He created you to be. That person is worth getting to know.” ~T.Nolan

Mindful Moment Feature Debuts 12/31/18

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I wanted to make a quick post about our upcoming Mindful Moment Feature. I’ve recorded brief audio about the upcoming interview. Take a second to press play. I look forward to you guys tuning in. I’m excited. The interview will be posted on the Mindful Moment Feature tab. See you guys on 12/31/18. Blessings.

Our upcoming December feature is with Author Deborah Hampton-Miller. She is an ordained Pastor, Prophetess, Prayer Warrior, Wife, Mother, Author, Poet, and currently pursuing a Bachelors of Science in Psychology degree. In our interview, we’ll be discussing her first published book entitled, “Secret Sins The Ties That Bind.” Look out for the December 31st release of this exclusive interview. Mark your calendars. You don’t want to miss this transformational interview with the Author.

Yahweh Is…

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. This morning I was reminded of the times when God showed up for me. I know He is always present in my life, but there were certain events that He clearly showed Himself. It brought such a since of peace and adoration over me for the Father that I had to write about it. As always I pray that this post causes you to examine yourself and reflect on God’s presence in your own life. Blessings.

Yahweh Is My Friend

I grew up in the south suburbs of Chicago. We lived on a dead-end street and for the most part, the block had kids who were around the same age as me. Even though there were a lot of other young girls on the block I became friends with one who lived two houses down. Immediately, we formed a sisterhood. Playing outside with our Barbie dolls, eating dinner at each other’s houses, having sleepovers. We were so inseparable that we would even take family vacations together. Our friendship traveled throughout elementary, middle school, high school, college, and our adult life. Her family literally became my family. So much so that they sat at the throne of my heart. Being connected to them was the most important thing to me. As we started to evolve into young women our lives started to change. We abruptly had a moment of miscommunication that til this day I still don’t understand clearly. Needless to say, our twenty-plus year friendship ended. Just like that. One day we were besties then the next we weren’t. When she stopped talking to me so did her family. We would never recover from that separation.

Most of my life I dealt with a spirit of rejection. I grew up feeling like my parents didn’t love me. (That’s a story for another day.) After several failed relationships with men that familiar spirit of rejection would rise up over and over. So when my best friend didn’t want to be my best friend anymore, I was at a loss for words. Lord, why do people always leave me? Why do my relationships all of sudden just come to a screetching halt? What did I do to deserve this? Am I really that bad of a person that people don’t want to be connected to me?

Here’s the marvelous thing about our Father. He’s a jealous, God. That means he wants us and wants us to want Him. He doesn’t want anything or anyone to come in between us and Him. All of those relationships and people that I idolized were in God’s sit at the throne of my heart. If I was ever going to grow in God there had to be a division between me and everything/everyone that was competing for God’s position. How many of you have heard people say, “I lost something when I started living for God?” When you choose to live for God everything that prevents you from growing in that relationship has to die. Some relationships will die, some old habits will die, our reasoning and understanding will die. There is a cost associated with our relationship with the Father.

The Word of God says,

” The man of too many friends [chosen indiscriminately] will be broken in pieces and come to ruin,
But there is a [true, loving] friend who [is reliable and] sticks closer than a brother.”

Proverbs 18:24 (AMP)

Amazing isn’t He? Yahweh wanted to be my friend. Me! The one who everyone else would throw away. I had to get to a place in my life that when people left, and things didn’t work out I was still at peace. I grew to understand that their repositioning no longer altered who I was or how I saw myself.

When God is your friend you have someone who will never leave nor forsake you. His intentions are never of malice. When He says He’s going to do something He upholds it. He doesn’t quit on you, He enhances you. He is the epitome of a true friend. I didn’t understand friendship until I allowed Jesus to be my friend. In return, being His friend required a level of commitment from me that would remove all things/people that would compromise the progression of our relationship. I can truly say that I’m glad that I am now a friend of God.

Ask yourself: Who has Yahweh been to you? I want to hear your story. If you have some time write your response in the comment section below. Your brothers and sisters in Christ would love to hear your story as well. Many Blessings.

“There is no greater friend than Christ Jesus.

Love Letter To Yahweh

If I were to write a love letter to you I don’t think my fingers could properly articulate the depths of my love. There were so many moments where I repeatedly fell in love with you that I can’t recall the first time I realized all I wanted was you. Everything that I am and have become is because of your love. I handed you broken pieces of me and you sculpted a masterpiece. I was so blind before I allowed you in my life, but I’ve gained my sight since I laid eyes on you. I never thought I would meet someone like you after all these years of searching. Looking for people to fulfill me in ways that only you can. Believing that physical touch from a person could equate to your holy spirit that touches the inside of my soul. You see things in me that I have yet to discover. You spoke greatness into me before I was born. Your seeds were planted in me when I thought I was barren. Every time I spoke death your Word spoke LIFE. How could someone so great open his arms to someone like me, I thought. Then you told me to get close to you. I could never repay your love but every day I wake up I CHOOSE YOU. When my relationships started to come inbetween us I CHOSE YOU. When idols tried to rise up in my life I CHOSE YOU. When my old sinful nature wanted to take over I CHOSE YOU. When my own understanding and reasoning tried to overshadow you I CHOSE YOU. My flesh will die a million times over so that I can have a life with you. If I could do anything over I would have CHOSE YOU sooner. You are single-handedly the best choice I could have ever made. I’m in love with you infinitely, Yahweh.

Sincerely,

Your Daughter

It’s Manifestation Time

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I was at work yesterday and one of my patients told me that everyone she meets with the name Tiffany is so precious. She told me I was so blessed and how grateful she was for my care. It prompted me to look up the meaning of my name and it blew me away. Tiffany means “Manifestation of God.” I sent my Mother a text to ask her if she knew the meaning of my name and she said no. She told me that she just made a post on Facebook that said: “It’s Manifestation Time.” Wow. My Mother is a Pastor and Prophet. From God’s mouth to our ears. It’s confirmation that we’re entering a season of “Manifestation.” 

I’ve often heard or watched videos that are entitled, “How to Manifest” this or that. I believe like most, manifesting something has a lot to do with speaking things into existence. 

The Bible references this same thing by saying,


“The tongue has the power of life and death,
    and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Proverbs 18:21

What we speak we shall have. In the same effect, what we allow people to speak over us will also manifest if we allow it. I know first hand how what we speak transfers over into who we are or what we will have. If you’ve read some of my other blog post I touch on how I didn’t see myself how God saw me. I spoke death over who I was created to be because I didn’t have a clear vision of that woman. I allowed people in my past to speak death into me which ultimately led to this person who had no self-love or value. It wasn’t until I gave my life to God that I was able to see clearly how valuable I really was then I was able to reverse what had been spoken over me. God manifested his spirit in me and now my eyes can see.

  

The Word of God says,

“Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good.”

1 Corinthians 12:7

So when we talk about Manifesting something we need to acknowledge:

  1. The thing we’re speaking into existence. 
  2. Is what we’re speaking into existence from God?
  3. Is what we’re speaking into existence fruitful or not? Recognize if it’s blessings or curses that are coming out of our mouth.
  4. Apply God’s Manifesting Power to what we’re speaking over our life. 

If you are someone who has ever said, “I’ve been applying for a promotion for months now and it seems as everyone except me receives a promotion. I’ll never get promoted.” That’s speaking death over your ability to be promoted. Don’t you know that you’re a Kings kid. He is our provider. He qualifies the unqualified all the time. Our response should always be one that exemplifies prosperity because our Father is the embodiment

Look what our Father wants for us,

“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.” 


3 John 1:2 KJV

On the other hand, if you’re someone who has always felt less than. Felt like where you are in life at this moment is the highest level you will ever be. Felt like no one would ever love you or you would do nothing but fail. You must first acknowledge:

  1. Who spoke those things over you? There had to have been an entry point for you to develop these thoughts about yourself. If you can’t remember then pray and ask God to show you where it started.
  2. Once you know where it came from then decree and declare that you are no longer in agreement with those curses. That they are far from you and are thrown into the sea of nothingness. They will never return upon you. They have no home in you anymore. Decree that every curse spoken over your life is void and expired and no longer lays dormant in your life. You are free, In Jesus Name, Amen. 
  3. Walk in your freedom. 

Understand that manifesting something in your life is tied to your ability to speak something over your life then believing God will provide what you speak. If He has promised you something then you shall have it. Don’t find it odd or random that you’ve always dreamed of owning a business, being an Author, or psalmist. Those things were planted in you and in due season they will blossom. Don’t forget what God promised you because “It’s Manifestation Time.” Blessings.

Prayer of Manifestation

In the name of Jesus, we come to you right now Father thanking you for your Manifesting Power. You alone God manifested yourself in the flesh and sacrificed your one and only son for us so that we may have life. With that same power, you’ve given us access to your marvelous works. So, Lord, we speak your Manifesting Power over our God-Given Purpose. That it will rise up, drip with your anointing, and accomplish what it was created to do. We speak your Manifesting Power into our marriages, relationships, friendships, finances, health, and businesses. They are generationally prosperous in the name of Jesus. We speak your Manifesting Power over our minds. That the Word of God will have complete dominion over every thought, notion, concept, reasoning, and become the author of our knowledge, understanding, and wisdom. We speak your Manifesting Power over our children and their children and our lineage. That generational curses are broken indefinitely. That our bloodlines will raise a standard for the Kingdom of God. Father, we speak your Manifesting Power over attacks of the enemy. They will NOT prosper, they will NOT hold us captive, they will NOT torment us, they will NOT drag us into sin, they will NOT be hidden, they will NOT conquer us, and they will NOT manifest in the Name of Jesus. We bind every curse that has been spoken over our lives, Father. We no longer identify with those who cursed our names. Those people and spirits no longer find placement in our life. Lord, we decree and declare that with your Manifesting Power we are who you say we are. We will do what you say we can do. We have what you say we can have. Thank you,   Lord, for your Manifesting Power. In Jesus name, Amen.   

Don’t limit God’s ability. His Manifestation Power expands in ways you can never imagine. ~T.Nolan

My Vision Board says, “Mrs. CEO!”

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. A couple of weeks ago I completed my 2019 vision board. Some of the goals are an extension of things I’ve been working on this past year. Others are a “Walk by faith not by sight” type of goal. The ones that only God can do, but I trust Him to do it. It made me wonder how many of you take the time to put together a vision board? If you do, are your goals only within your own reach? Or are they a mix of your reach and God’s reach? Is your vision board filled with doubt or faith?

I graduated high school in 2004 and began my collegiate career at Grambling State University. GS….GS…..GS….GS… U…U…U… I thought you knew!!! Lol. I spent my freshman year homesick, with no books, and unaware of what field I wanted to major in. Tuition was so expensive and with no scholarship I found myself copying pages in my peer’s books just so I can read the material to complete assignments. The following year the school was affected by Hurricane Katrina which led to me back home to Chicago. I spent the next several years attempting to finish school but ended up joining the workforce in its replacement. I had no vision. I was uninspired. I had a lack of direction. I was really just trying to keep my head above water at that point.

Moving forward a few years I had an employment opportunity in Houston and I took it. Once moving here I found out that I had to get back in good standing with my student loans because the position was with the government. Go figure. So I was in Houston, jobless, carless, and had $300 to my name. It took me a few months but I found a job. After 10 months of making payments towards my student loans, I was able to get in good standing. By this time I desired to go back to school. So I did. I figured I spent all this time making these payments I should just go back. I finally finished my degree. Even graduated with honors. I was so excited. It was a lifelong goal and I was able to check it off my list of to-dos.

It’s important that I take the time to mention that my 2019 vision board isn’t filled with goals for the new year. It’s filled with goals that are an extension of my now and my what’s to come. I really became plugged into Yeshua early in the year. I was tired of fumbling my life. I needed to give the playbook back to the coach, God. Once I did my vision became clear, I obtained direction, I was inspired. I realized even though I was able to lead I wasn’t the coach, and I needed to move out of Yeshua’s position so that I could win. So when we talk about having a vision board make sure you know who the vision came from. Ask yourself, “Am I the coach of my life or is God?”

We are in the fourth quarter of this year and here comes the quarterback. Mrs. CEO. (That’s me, lol) The Lord gave me a vision about our relationship. He started to walk me through the progression of His Mindfulness when it came to me. Our relationship became the base of what is now, “Mindul Of Me Moments, LLC.” He has shown me quarter by quarter the next play. Yesterday, my company officially became a legal entity with the state of Texas. Glory be to God. The same girl who was copying pages in my peer’s books just so I can turn in assignments. Now has a college degree, own’s/operates a business and has built a brand that will reach the multitude while drawing them closer to God. (Reaching the multitude is on my Vision Board.)

The Word of God says,

“Get all the advice and instruction you can, so you will be wise the rest of your life. You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.” 

Proverbs 19:20-21

Who does your vision board say you are? If God was to read what’s on your vision board would He say, “That’s the person I created?” If you have not taken the time to get plugged into Yeshua then let’s start there. Give your life to Him. If you’ve done that then give your position to Him. We weren’t made to be the coach and the quarterback of our life. Allow Him to reveal to you the next play so that you know how to move down the field of life. One thing I know about His coaching ability is that His team ALWAYS wins. He’s undefeated. Get with the winning team. Blessings.

Let’s Get Healthy

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. I’ve been waiting to post this particular blog as I was still getting clarity from the Lord. Being healthy is interpreted in a wide range of areas. Most of the post on Mindful of Me Moments speak to our inner self. Enabling us to grow in our ability to self-care and self-love. Today I want to touch on being physically healthy.

The word of God says,

“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in your midst? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy that person; for God’s temple is sacred, and you together are that temple.”

1 Corinthians 3:16-17

I don’t believe this verse solely pertains to our hearts and minds. I believe it also speaks to our physical health. Roughly a year ago I was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure. I was placed on medicine to aid in controlling it, but I would still find it to be high. Alongside HBP my back and knees cause me pain. My feet swell and I lose my breath relatively fast. A few years ago I lost 100 pounds through working out and dieting. Since then I’ve gained that weight back. My lack of self-control and discipline is the result of my current state. 

So when Yeshua started to deal with me about self-care, self-love, self-control, and discipline. My physical health was apart of the conversation. He asked me, “Do you want your health to be the thing that hinders you?” Hinder you from having the energy to live out the purpose I’ve given you. Hinder you from enjoying activities with your husband. Hinder you from traveling. All of these different scenarios were laid before me and it made me make a decision. Did I want to spend another year, month, week, or day battling with unhealthy lifestyle choices? No, I didn’t. As if it couldn’t get any clearer God spoke to me in a dream about my Physical, Mental, and Spiritual Health. So even if I didn’t say yes to me; I was going to say yes to His instructions.

This weekend I made a plan. I wrote the plan down. I set goals with dates attached to them. Ultimately, I know how to lose weight, I know how to eat healthily. What I needed help with was my ability to be consistent. I heard Bishop TD Jakes say,

“Being RELENTLESS will get you there. Being CONSISTENT will keep you there. Being GRATEFUL will increase what’s there.”

I know how to be relentless. It was consistency and gratefulness that I needed help with. I started to think about my triggers. (See Check Yourself Post which speaks about identifying your triggers.) Stress was a trigger for me and my coping mechanism was food. I know so many people that find comfort in food. But how many of you know when we place anything in the place of God it hinders us? My self -care journey thus far has transformed my thought process and repositioned what was poorly positioned. Now when I feel stress coming my way I pray to Jesus about it first. The Word of God tells us,

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

 Philippians 4:6-7

Situations didn’t have to stress me out. I allowed them to stress me out. I didn’t have to make poor health decisions to cope. I chose to make poor health decisions in the absence of Christ. Understand that the outcome will always be poor in the absence of Christ. Our physical health is just as important as our purpose, our relationships, our level of influence, and our happiness. You feel better when you eat and workout. You look better. You perform better. We can’t be content with the Holy Spirit living in any condition. He wants our mind, our spirit, our thoughts, our will, and our bodies to be healthy by God’s standard.

The Lord told me in a dream over the weekend that He wanted me to spend the next 365 days being disciplined. Specifically, in the areas that I lacked discipline. If I did what He instructed me to do then He would BLOW MY MIND. When God tells you something you better believe Him. I mean He doesn’t lie so………….

I challenge you to become disciplined in the areas that you lack discipline. It’s easy to write about our areas of strength, but what about the weak areas? What do you need to be more disciplined in? Remember, God will help you be consistent. He will increase you in that thing once He sees you are grateful. Don’t start at being relentless then fade away. God wants you to follow-through. Put Him first in all you do and He’ll see you through what you can’t see. Blessings.

 

To New Christian Bloggers From A New Christian Blogger

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. As we are on our journey to becoming who God created us to be there will be times that we feel discouraged in our well doing. The word of God says,

“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.”

Galatians 6:9

Being new to the blogging world I’ve already found myself being drawn into the anxiousness of counting my followers. I believe most new bloggers have had this happen to them. As for me, it’s not so much the recognition that I’m anxiously awaiting. It’s the ability to have a platform where I can share with His children what our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ has done and is doing in my life. It’s the desire to want to tell how God delivered me from my sins, forgave me, cleansed me, and changed my identity. It’s the position of wanting to be used by the Father to spread His word so that others can also be changed. In the midst of my anxiousness, the Holy Spirit reminded me,

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus”

Philippians 4:6-7

I was so anxious about doing my part in the Kingdom that I was getting away from the fact that His work is still being done in me. I was posting under the directive of the Holy Spirit to encourage the body of Christ, and He showed me what He really was doing was answering one of my prayers. I’ve prayed for the last several months about being consistent and disciplined. This blog along with other ventures has positioned me to be just that. So even though I pray that Mindful of Me Moments reaches the multitude, which it will do one day. Right now God is developing the woman He created me to be so that when the multitude comes I am in the proper position to handle it. We have to be equipped to handle the weight of the vision and I’m still in training. Ultimately, I desire for my brothers and sisters to be changed. I desire for you all too continually develop on your journey to self-care through Christ and that same thing that I’m praying for you is exactly what God is doing in me. He is changing and developing me every day.

Mindful Quote: “Don’t under develop yourself while you’re on your journey to helping someone else.”

T.Nolan

What’s the takeaway today? If you have heard from God and He has given you a vision for your life. Continue to focus on growing your relationship with Him first. When you do that He will give you instruction on when and how to develop your vision. God gives us a vision of what’s to come. He gives the vision to us as a glimpse of what His plans are for us. (As long as we stay connected to Him) In order to be the change, you have to first be changed. The Lord is allowing me to learn something new every day about me.

Don’t be discouraged in early beginnings. These are the times to prepare for the vision. Be consistent. Be disciplined. Be obedient to Christ. Have Faith and Do Work. Blessings.

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Mid-Week Check-In

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. As always I pray you’ve spent the beginning of the week living intentionally and with purpose. I wanted to pop in mid-work week to check-in with you all. We haven’t done a “Self-Check” in a while. If you’re new to my blog take a moment to reference my previous post about performing a spirit self-check here: Check Yourself Post

How are you feeling? What’s going in your world? What are your priorities looking like? The last few days Yeshua has shown me where He needs to be positioned in my life. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in work, family, school, and ministry. Even if we are operating in those avenues under the direction of the Lord it doesn’t replace the fact that He should always be our first priority. I’m learning that my hour long morning bible study and journal time is no longer sufficient for my relationship with Christ. It’s become more than just spending time in His word. I’m now desiring to spend time talking to Him separate from my personal bible study. He is showing me that there are levels of intimacy with Him, and I’m approaching a new level.

My mid-week check-in is peaceful and productive. My priorities are on par with Christ and are about to shift once again. I’m learning the various areas that I can worship Yeshua throughout my day. I’m understanding that spending time in His word is only one way of being intimate with Him. Lastly, I’m transitioning into having a daily designated time when I can just talk with Him.

I encourage you to take a moment to do a Self-Check. Examine where you are right now. What is getting your attention? What is your mind focused on? What are you making time for? Have you taken time out of your to-do list to place Jesus at the top? Remember, every answer you’re looking for God already has; check-in with Him regularly. Blessings.

 “Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test? And I trust that you will discover that we have not failed the test.  Now we pray to God that you will not do anything wrong—not so that people will see that we have stood the test but so that you will do what is right even though we may seem to have failed. For we cannot do anything against the truth, but only for the truth. We are glad whenever we are weak but you are strong; and our prayer is that you may be fully restored. This is why I write these things when I am absent, that when I come I may not have to be harsh in my use of authority—the authority the Lord gave me for building you up, not for tearing you down.”

2 Corinthians 13: 5-10

 

Do What You Love

Good evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. If you haven’t listened to my audio about my “Perpetual State of Worship.” Check out my prior post from this week. I pray that it will encourage you to become more cognizant of the time you spend in worship with God.

Today is another edition of Self-Care Sunday. This is my weekly Sunday post where I get to provide further insight and tips on how to become more conscious of your ability to self-care. In the past, my posts have typically dealt with our state of mind and allowing God to lead us in our lives. As a baseline, all my posts will be intertwined with growing in God then building upon that relationship. Now that we’ve got that disclaimer out the way let’s talk Self-Care.

I love to write! I can’t tell you when I started writing but I have journals that are 20 years old. When I write I pour everything I’m feeling into what I’m writing. It brings me happiness, it relaxes me, it’s a great stress reliever, and it comes naturally. When I was praying for God to reveal to me what this weeks Self-Care Sunday post should be about; He told to write about what I love to do. He told me to ask His people, “What is it they love to do and does that thing edify Him?” I can remember a time that I use to love to drink alcohol and party. It provided no lasting fulfillment, but every weekend I was out with my girls. Even in the midst of my emptiness I always found myself writing. From poetry, songs, blog posts, and soon to be books writing is what I love to do.

Self-Care is about investing in yourself. Your inner self first then in all other areas. When was the last time you spent time doing something that you love to do that was just about you? Not you and your friends. Not you and work. Not you and you’re significant other. Just you and the thing that you inherently love to do. Don’t forget to ask yourself does it edify God?

The more I grow in Christ I understand that the thing that I love to do so much that is natural to me is a gift God gave me. Even though it brings me so much joy and satisfaction it ultimately isn’t just for me. My love of writing is my God-given contribution to the Kingdom. When He told me to ask you does what you love to do edify Him. He wanted us to gain perspective. When Christ gives you an ability He expects that ability to grow. When cultivated properly not only will it grow you but it will grow those who come into contact with you. Ask yourselves, “Does what you love to do grow you and those around you? Or does what you love to do prevent growth within yourself and others around you?”

The word of God says,

So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors, and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.

(Ephesians 4:11-13)

This means that we were all given a gift to do something. God is so gracious that He allows the gift He placed on the inside of us to also be the thing that we love to do. When you love to do something it isn’t a chore. It’s the thing that you will invest in, the thing that will build you, and grow you. It’s the thing that will change the lives of people who come in contact with you. Your gift is impactful. Your ability to do it is unlike anyone else. It was specifically planted on the inside of you and is awaiting the opportunity to be birthed and grow. God sent me here to tell you, “Don’t allow life issues to stop the growth of what He planted on the inside of you.” Develop that thing that you inherently love to do that edifies Christ. Invest your time in it. Allow it to blossom. Don’t hold up someone else deliverance by your stubbornness to not grow what God gave you. When you do that you are forfeiting your right to be connected to the vine.

The Bible tells us,

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me?

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from m,e, you can do nothing. If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.

(John 15:1-8)

Have you been cut from the vine, because you’re choosing to not grow your God-given gift? If so, I challenge you to reconnect to the vine, which is Jesus. Dig deep. As Him to reveal to you what He placed on the inside of you. Maybe you have been so estranged from the Father that you can’t remember what that thing is. Ask Him to restore your gift. As you seek Him more He will do what you asked. When He does don’t miss the opportunity to grow the gift He planted. Remember, we all have a gift. Yours is unlike anyone else. No one can do it like you. The Kingdom is waiting for you to do what you love to do. This is your sign to do it. Blessings.

My Perpetual State of Worship

I heard the Lord say, “Perpetual State of Worship” as I was in worship this morning. Perpetual means never ending, everlasting, eternal, undying. I know you’re wondering how can I worship God all day? Worship isn’t just an intimate moment with our Father where we are crying out to Him during prayer. We worship Him in our obedience to His word. We worship Him when we follow His directions. We worship Him when we repent for our sins and turn from them. We worship Him by putting Him first in our lives.

This morning in my prayer and study time He was speaking to me while simultaneously giving me a vision. He began to show me the beauty inside of me. This beauty was my spirit blossoming in Him.  I’ve recorded an audio that I’ve placed at the bottom of this post. It’s me talking about my worship experience with Christ. As always I pray that it causes you to reflect and examine yourself. Allow God to become your first priority, because you’re His priority. Blessings!

This week’s Moment Of Mindfulness task is to develop a perpetual state of worship for Jesus Christ. 

 

What Are You Committed To?

Thanks for stopping by this week’s Self-Care Sunday Post. Before you read press play and take a listen.

In May of this year, Yeshua told me that I needed to change my priorities and commitments. He gave me a list in the following order of importance:

  1. My relationship with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Understanding that at the root of me you would now find the presence of God.
  2. My covenant with my husband. Knowing that we made the biggest commitment to each either when we chose to commit to God.
  3. My level of influence in the Kingdom. Accepting that I will not be the Woman of God who keeps God’s glory to herself. I have an obligation in my position to draw all men and woman to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

These three things were the priorities God gave me. He told me that in order to thrive in these relationships I needed to learn how to commit to them. I needed to become disciplined in order to invest time and be consistent with my commitments. He gave me Matthew 7: 7-8 as my foundation for this journey. The text which reads,

 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.  For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”

This scripture is the cause and effect when we are committed to God. Yeshua told me that if I were to become disciplined and consistent in my relationship with Him that I would find everything that He has for me. Needless to say, I did just as He instructed me to do.

Fast Forward six months and so much has changed in my life. Just last week as I was in morning prayer and Bible study I heard the Lord say, “He is adjusting my values and my list of importance has now changed.”  Immediately following this I heard a pastor say, “the enemy attacks what you value the most. He does it in efforts to get to our Faith in God.” WOW! It made me think about all the things that I valued above my relationship with God. The things that were first prior to the last six months of my life. It made me reflect on how the enemy attacked those things and those relationships. How those attacks affected my Faith in God. I received so much revelation about commitment this week. I came into the understanding that when God is the person you value the most above everything else in your life; the enemy can’t attack that. He can attack our finances, our marriage, our jobs, our business, our faith, but HE CAN’T ATTACK GOD. So if the thing that I value the most is the thing the enemy can’t get too; why wouldn’t I commit to that before anything else?

What have you valued more than the Lord? Is it social media, relationships, money, appearance, gossip, people, recreational activities? Yeshua wants the first fruits from us. That’s our best. What have you been giving your best too over God? Get your pen and paper. Let’s write it down. Now that you have your list let me walk you through a few definitions before I share how I became committed.

  • Self-Discipline is the ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weakness; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it.
  • Value is the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
  • Consistent is unchanging in nature, standard, or effect over time.
  • Commitment is the willingness to give your time and energy to something you believe in, or a promise, or firm decision to do something.

One thing that I learned about self-discipline is that it’s a decision. We have to decide if our weaknesses will continue to control us or will we control our weaknesses? I understood that I can only find the strength to become self-disciplined in Yeshua. So the base of my success was contingent upon my commitment to God. Here’s how I went from putting everything and everyone before God. To putting Him first and completely altering my life.

  1. I was tired of the trauma from my past spilling over into every area of my life. My past was prevalent in my now, and I didn’t want to live with it anymore. So I made a decision to seek God wholeheartedly. It caused me to expose areas that I was trying to hide, but in the end, God fixed what was broken. It was hard but His grace and mercy towards me reigned. Now my life, marriage, and my level of influence have forever changed.
  2. I changed my priorities. If I was going to put God first then that looked like something. Every morning I get up at 4am to spend an hour in prayer and Bible study. I do this seven days a week. Throughout my day I find moments to give God praise. I pray, read the word, listen to sermons, and journal often. I had to edit what I was allowing my ears to hear, my eyes to see, and my mind to think. I invested time with the Father before I invested time in anything or anyone else. Doing these things showed me how to form a habit of discipline, consistency, and commitment. Understand that if you can become disciplined and consistent in your relationship with Yeshua then you can become disciplined and consistent in anything.
  3. I got comfortable with the fact that as I became committed to God I was going to fall out of agreement with things and people. I gave up some “friendships” when I became committing to God. My interest changed, my thought process changed, my values changed. Some of those old relationships were no longer conducive to who I was becoming in Christ. To be honest, the more I grew the more I saw I didn’t really like certain things that I thought I did at one point.
  4. I didn’t stop when things got tough. This journey is a life-long journey. Submitting to Yeshua is something that you have to know that you will be doing the rest of your life. In doing so, every illegal spirit that has been lying dormant in your life will come up and come out. You’ll have to revisit some hurtful moments, but God is a healer. You’ll have to let some people go, but He’s a friend. You’ll have to relinquish your comfort, but He’s a great comforter. You’ll have to put all your trust in Him, but He’s faithful. When you think you’re losing everything on your journey you’re really gaining more than you could imagine.

To sum it all up I had to get tired of living an unpurposeful life, I had to change my priorities, I had to give up my life so that I could gain life, and I didn’t give up my pursuit of growing in my relationship with Yeshua when things became tough.

If your priorities are out of order and you lack commitment to Christ I challenge you to take a stand for yourself. Lack of self-discipline and commitment is a lack of self-care. Don’t you know that God desires to take care of you and show you how to take care of yourself? Don’t spend another day living life with no structure. You will only find transformation in your ability to commit to the Father. Once you do then you’ll truly be able to tap into everything that God has for you. Blessings.

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Am I in Proper Position?

Good Evening my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. As we continually grow in our knowledge of self-care I’m learning the importance of being in proper position. I know that our understanding of proper positioning may have been planted in us as children. Sometimes our life experiences form our belief in the way we think, who we are, and what we should be doing. Ultimately, we only find proper positioning in Christ. Self-Care is all about ensuring that you are intentional about yourself in a way that allows you to function at your highest capacity. If you’re practicing good self-care, then you should be in proper position in every area of your life. I want to spend this time walking you through my own experience in getting into proper position. My prayer is that it will provide insight to you while you are yet on your journey to being positioned properly.

So often we think the enemy is attacking us. Dealing with infertility for several years now. I often felt as if he was attacking my body to prevent me from having children. As I grow in God; He continues to give me understanding regarding the birthing process. I was in worship this morning I heard God say, “The attack on your body isn’t an attack. It’s your spiritual incubation period.” Yeshua told me that He was using this time to extinguish generational curses from my lineage so that I can carry out the healed legacy that my Mother is currently birthing.”

Incubation is the maintenance of an infant, especially a premature infant, in an environment of controlled temperature, humidity, and oxygen concentration to provide optimal conditions for growth and development. Carry means to support and move from one place to another; to support the weight of.

Yeshua reveals to me daily something new about my Mother. She is the one person in my family who He ordained to shift the trajectory of our legacy. The weight of her purpose is massive. It’s one that she has carried solo for a long time. As I am yet in alignment with Yeshua He is showing me the proper positioning to carry out the vision He gave her for our lineage. A vision that is free from generational curses, sexual immorality, abuse, perversion, incest, molestation, debt, inconsistency, self-sabotaging, disobedience, witchcraft, pride, jealousy, and rebellion. He told me that I couldn’t be in any kind of condition while supporting the weight of the vision. He told me if He had allowed me to birth children when I wanted to I would have undone years of intercessory prayers that went forth for our bloodline.

Culturally we spend so much time worrying about the natural births that we ignore that they should first be cultivated in the spirit. If we spent more time focusing on spiritual incubation we would be in a proper position to produce in a season that has optimal conditions for growth and development. The word of God says,

“For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2

You may be at a point in your life where you feel out of position. If you are unsettled in your mind, relationships, finances, or purpose then you’re probably not in proper position. To shift your life into proper positioning there are a few things you should be meditating on and practicing.

  1. Understand that this life is not your own. God created us all in His image and has placed purpose on the inside of us. Allow Him to reveal your purpose so that you are truly living intentionally and not just existing.
  2. Repent for the things that you’ve done that are not pleasing to Him then turn from those behaviors. God examines our hearts. He wants us to know that with His help we can overcome our past and choose to no longer live without Him again.
  3. Realize that if you’ve made plans, decisions, or moves without the guidance from God then you have placed yourself out of proper position. Once you’ve realized this you have to allow the Holy Spirit to retrain your thought process.
  4. Understand you will never reach the abundance of blessings that Yeshua has for you if you’re choosing to live a life that is disobedient to Him. Disobedience to the Word of God limits and distracts you from reaching blessings, purpose, healing, deliverance, protection, discernment, knowledge, understanding, and wisdom.
  5. Get comfortable with God’s timing. You don’t get to tell God what your timeline is for your life. Your life is already written. He has already formed it. You must get in alignment with His already written timeline.
  6. Proper Position is a lifestyle that requires you to forever be submissive to Yeshua. Whatever you’re looking for you will ONLY find in God. If you choose to live life not submitting to God and His word you will never be in proper position.
  7. Put a value on your relationship with God. This is going to be key from this moment forward. So many of us never valued the importance of having a relationship with Yeshua. We valued our relationships with other people. Parents, boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives, children, money, sex. Everything and everyone except the one who knows and has everything that you will ever need. You must make Him number 1 if you’re going to shift your position.

Self-care and proper positioning go hand in hand. Both things must be directed by the Lord. They both place you in position to operate during the most opportune times. They both give your life meaning. Lastly, they both provide you with ways to live intentionally and with purpose.

I challenge you today to examine your life and pinpoint every plan, decision, and move you’ve made without consulting God. Get a list going. After you’ve completed your list pray and ask Yeshua to reveal to you the effects those decisions had on your life. Take your time. This is an intimate moment between you and the Father. He begins to show you the effects your decisions have had on your life, repent. The single most important relationship you will ever have is your relationship with Yeshua. It’s also the only relationship that exposes you to purpose. Blessings.

 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.  If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.”

James 15: 5-8

Identity

Good afternoon my siblings in Christ. I pray you all have been living intentionally and with purpose. I wanted to put a pin in my current journey and share what’s been going on. I pray you are able to see yourself through my experiences and it encourages you to challenge yourself as you are on your journey to being the best you possible.

IDENTITY! Who are you? This question is one that I’ve been asked more than once in my life. I’m a lot of things. A wife, daughter, sister, friend, college grad, business owner, employee, writer. I am all of these things however these are titles. Though true they don’t define me nor do they give a depiction of who I am. I’m a wife because my husband married me. I’m a daughter because my parents conceived then birthed me. I’m a sister because my parents had additional children. I’m a friend because I’ve invested my time in relationships. I’m a college graduate because I completed school. You get the point, lol. All these things were inherited or obtained through my work ethic.

While on this journey to self-love and self-care you will find yourself at this exact point. The point at which you are so distant from your former self that you no longer recognize who you are. Your past no longer defines you. I’m a survivor of domestic violence. Yeshua protected and graced me to make it through an abusive first marriage. I’m not ashamed of it anymore. I’m healed from it now. I’ve forgiven him and myself. It’s a part of my testimony, but it is not my identity. Identity is defined as the distinguishing character or personality of an individual. It is no longer my character to operate like someone who was abused. On the flip slide, I survived it, and I have been a survivor the majority of my life. So much so that I had to learn how to be a submissive wife to my current husband. So being a survivor isn’t my identity either. So again I ask, “Who are you?”

If you find yourself in this place along your journey. The place that closes a door and opens a new one. Don’t freak out! Lol. It’s perfectly fine that you don’t recognize yourself now that you’ve given your life to God. It’s going to take some time to discover the newness of you. It’s fine to re-evaluate your relationships and friendships at this point. You may even feel the need to step away from some relationships while you’re discovering the new you. If so, it’s ok to do that unless you’re married. (Side note: It is not ok to step away from your marriage, because you’re finding yourself.) I have some people that I’ve considered friends for over a decade and am now at a place that I’ve realized that I don’t know who they are in their current life. As adults who have families, I couldn’t even tell you anything about them and vice versa. It made me think that if our only connection is the past, and I’m no longer living in the past then maybe we don’t have the relationship that we once did. When God comes into your life you fall out of agreement with things and people. Somethings or some people will no longer be familiar to you. I’m not saying to dump all your friends, but take the time to learn who you are as this new man or woman in Christ. Once you’re established in that then seek Him about your relationships.

Fully giving myself to God has me in a place where I don’t recognize who I am since I’ve become a new creature in Him. I know my past and how He has healed me from it. I know how He protected me from my bad decisions and forgave me. Every trait, idea, characteristic, mannerism, and response were wiped away to make room for God’s presence when I gave my life up to live for Him. So what worked for me in the past no longer works for me as a Woman of God. Those things and some people no longer identify with me.

WHO AM I?

I AM A CHILD OF GOD! That I know for sure. As I grow in Him I am learning every day the identity in which He ordained for me. How I think, my character, my morals, and values are all provided by Him not by what I was taught or learned from others. I’m no longer pressed about figuring it all out. I find peace in the fact that I’m intentionally pursuing the one who has already figured it all out for me. Life is no longer about what I have been through, what decisions I made, what others thought about me or what I thought about myself. Life is about discovering the richness of Yeshua. Learning what He had in mind when He created me. Being intentional about loving myself. Thriving in the relationships He established for me. Growing my spirit, spreading the Word of God, and fulfilling my purpose. The more I seek Him the more I find out who I am.

I challenge you to re-evaluate who you are. Do you even know? If not, are you taking the necessary steps to grow in God so that He can reveal it to you? Today is a great day to start if you haven’t already done so. Don’t spend another year, month, week, hour or second allowing your titles to define who you are. Blessings.

“What marvelous love the Father has extended to us! Just look at it—we’re called children of God! That’s who we really are. But that’s also why the world doesn’t recognize us or take us seriously, because it has no idea who He is or what He’s up to.”

“But friends, that’s exactly who we are: children of God. And that’s only the beginning. Who knows how we’ll end up! What we know is that when Christ is openly revealed, we’ll see Him—and in seeing Him, become like Him. All of us who look forward to his Coming stay ready, with the glistening purity of Jesus’ life as a model for our own.”

1 John 3:1-3 The Message (MSG)

Unconditional Self-Love

Good Afternoon my siblings in Christ. I pray you all have been spending your time living intentionally and with purpose. This past week Yeshua has been revealing to me my placement. He’s showing me my roles while providing an understanding of the depths of those roles. I have so many areas that I desire to share with you all, and I will over time. Today, I wanted to touch on unconditional love and it’s placement in my life.

Unconditional love is defined as affection without any limitations, or love without conditions. Biblically, unconditional love is referenced as Agape. I don’t believe I actually understood what unconditional love was until recently. All credit be to Yeshua for my new found understanding. Unconditional love has always been associated with how God loves us, marriage, or being a parent. The idea of having someone love me unconditionally seemed like a fantasy for most of my life. The last several months my relationship with Yeshua has grown and has put somethings into perspective for me.

First, I became aware that I had never loved myself unconditionally. My love for myself was cultivated in wrong thinking, lies, sexual immorality, and self-condemnation. My parents were young when I was born. My grandparents raised me most of my youth and spent a lot of time emphasizing that they were the only ones who loved me. I was a prisoner of my past and that prevented me from seeing the beauty in which God made me. It never even crossed my mind that I had no idea what it meant to love me unconditionally. I had such a distorted vision of love. Especially self-love. I was never taught how to love myself. I was never exposed to an environment that displayed unconditional love. Everything that I had become prior to the discovery of who I was in Christ was rooted in pain.

Second, I became aware that my ability to love myself wasn’t validated through a relationship or activity. I spent the majority of my life searching for validation. I wanted someone or something to love me through my flaws and all. Something that I didn’t think I was capable of doing for myself. When we do that we allow other people or things to dictate our worth. When I didn’t do something that someone liked or I made a bad decision in relationships I adopted their distaste for me and allowed it to become a self-reflection. By doing this I started to form a level of self-hate, and unforgiveness for me. God calls us to see ourselves how he sees us. When we are obedient to His word then He will begin taking the blinders off of us. He will set the standard by which we conduct ourselves, and how we allow people to treat us. He has truly shown me what it means to love my flaws and all. He has shown me that in my position of self-love, and self-forgiveness no one gets to take away from it. He has given me the right to move past my past, and grow as a new creature in Christ. One who knows what it means to love herself, forgive herself, see the beauty in herself, and one who has created the standard in which she is treated. Selah!

Third, I became aware that now I must live my life intentionally, and with purpose. Now that all of these things have been revealed to me I have become intentional about my life. For me being intentional means taking a step back to realize what’s in front of me, praying about my next move, and following the direction of God. I’m not leaning on my own understanding to handle life. I pray for wisdom and guidance continually. In doing so, I am ensuring that I’m under the protection and guidance of the Lord. He gives me clarity and understanding that I wouldn’t have if I were making decisions on my own. When I’m faced with challenging moments He graces me to handle those moments and walks me through the flames without being harmed. I love myself in such a way now that I’ve given my life to Christ it’s not explainable.  My past may come up from time to time. I acknowledge it without guilt or fear. I know what my past looks like, and I’m still worthy through it all.

Psalm 139:14-18 (NLT)

14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
15 You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
16 You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

17 How precious are your thoughts about me,[a] O God.
They cannot be numbered!
18 I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
you are still with me!

Today, I want you to take a step back and acknowledge the level at which you love yourself. Is it unconditional? Do you allow others to validate how you love you? Do you allow others to dictate the point at which you forgive yourself? Has your life shaped your understanding of you? If you’ve answered yes to any of this questions I challenge you to disconnect yourself from the beliefs that are false and plug into God. He will transform you and guide you as you are on your journey to loving yourself unconditionally. Blessings.

 

Check Yourself

Good Afternoon my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray that you’ve spent this week living with purpose and intention. I want you to take the time to perform a Self-Check. I was riding around with my husband last night, and we started talking about our growth as children of God. The conversation led to me explaining how I find myself performing Spiritual Self-Checks to make sure I’m in alignment with the Will of God throughout my daily interactions.

The Word of God says,

“Test and evaluate yourselves to see whether you are in the faith and living your lives as [committed] believers. Examine yourselves [not me]! Or do you not recognize this about yourselves [by an ongoing experience] that Jesus Christ is in you—unless indeed you fail the test and are rejected as counterfeit?” (2 Corinthians 13:5 AMP)

 ‘Therefore, believers, be all the more diligent to make certain about His calling and choosing you [be sure that your behavior reflects and confirms your relationship with God]; for by doing these things [actively developing these virtues], you will never stumble [in your spiritual growth and will live a life that leads others away from sin]; for in this way entry into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ will be abundantly provided to you.” (2 Peter 1:10-11 AMP)

Wow! When I read these two scriptures I had a vision of the Lord standing before me saying, “You are a reflection of me; so act right. You hear me?” Lol. But it’s so true. We are in a relationship with the Father, and how we behave solidifies that relationship. How can two walk together unless they agree? So Yeshua creates a guide in the bible that maps out how we ought to behave in order to confirm a relationship with Him.

Here are some things you can do when performing a Self-Check.

  • Evaluate Your Priorities. Take the time to write out a list of your daily activities. Don’t say God is your number one priority, but you’re not spending time with Him. If you’re at work majority of the time, grab dinner on the way home, watch TV once you get home, squeeze in some family time at the end of your night, then you finish with the Lord’s Prayer. Your list should reflect those activities in that order. Remember, your priorities are the things you’re investing your time in. (Self-Check: Ask yourself where on my priority list does the development of my relationship with Yeshua fall? If He doesn’t fall at the top of your list then start adjusting your daily life around spending time with Him; DO NOT adjust spending time with Him around your daily life.)
  • Be Intentional About Your Responses. You can’t control what people say to you. However, you can control how you respond to people. Working in the healthcare field I am challenged daily with high-intensity situations. More often than not I am bombarded with an overload of tasks. Some that belong to me, and others that don’t. I’ve recently adopted the understanding that “I’m only one person. I can’t do everything, but I Can Do Something.” This mantra allows me to have peace in the midst of chaos.

Let’s Go a Little Deeper. How are you responding to yourself when the enemy tries to torment you in your mind; stirring up memories of your past? When I’m faced with moments like this I have to be intentional about my response. Since he likes to bring up my past I like to bring up my present. He may say, “Don’t forget who you are! Abused, abuser, liar, adulterer, alcoholic, porn addict, worthless, financially irresponsible,  inconsistent, and double-minded.” My response, “Old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. You’re bringing up things that are far from me. Things that I fell out of agreement with a long time ago. I’m not ashamed of who I was, because look at who I am now. I AM free from sexual immorality, truthful, faithful, sober, financially responsible, worthy, consistent, and rooted in God. I was washed by the blood of the lamb. Jesus died for my sins so that I can walk in my freedom. He’s already paid the price for me so I can stand up tall, and relish in my victory. My testimony is the evidence of His greatness.”

Remember, “Therefore if anyone is in Christ [that is, grafted in, joined to Him by faith in Him as Savior], he is a new creature [reborn and renewed by the Holy Spirit]; the old things [the previous moral and spiritual condition] have passed away. Behold, new things have come [because spiritual awakening brings a new life].” 2 Corinthians 5:17

(Self-Check: Are you taking the time to assess your reactions? If not, you ought to start checking yourself. It’s always better to think before you speak.) 

  • Acknowledge How You’re Feeling. You have to stop ignoring your feelings. I spent so many years suppressing my emotional health that it was foreign for me to admit how I felt. Generationally, I was taught that I had to be strong. No matter what was going on in my life I was taught that I had to operate in survival mode. This taught me three things: 1) How to get the job done. 2) How NOT to be successful at communicating. 3) How to ignore my mental and emotional health.

I have struggled my entire life with communicating how I feel. In relationships, I allowed people to treat me any kind of way, because I didn’t acknowledge how I felt. As I become more mindful of me Yeshua is showing me how to acknowledge how I’m feeling while placing those feelings in their appropriate place. You can do the same thing by performing these steps:

“Acknowledging Yourself Checklist”

  1. Ask yourself how you’re feeling.
  2. Acknowledge that it’s ok for you to feel this way. Good or bad.
  3. Establish the reason you’re feeling this way. List these reasons as your triggers.
  4. Discover ways to combat this feeling if the feeling causes you to be in a state of mind that isn’t parallel to how Yeshua requires you to be. (Do this by finding out what the bible says about this feeling.)
  5. Discover ways that will support how you’re feeling if the feeling causes you to be in alignment with the Word of God. (Do this by finding the scriptures that bring you confirmation about how you’re feeling.)
  6. Take the time to put into practice these steps daily.

When you acknowledge how you’re feeling you’re able to be intentional about yourself. You’re able to put your mental health into proper position. You’re able to fix your mind on the solution instead of the problem. You’re able to meditate on what is right which will ultimately direct you towards operating at your highest level of self. (Self-Check: Are you someone who suppresses their feelings? If so, start to acknowledge NOT dismiss them. Once you’ve acknowledged them follow the above 6 steps so that you are able to be purposely in your mental and emotional health.)

As always it’s been great spending this time with you. I pray that you will spend a little extra time “Checking Yourself.” Blessings.