Who’s Your Purpose Partner?

Hello, my brothers and sisters in Christ. We’ve made it to the end of the week. I pray you’ve spent your time living intentionally and with purpose. It’s a very special day for me. March 8th is my Wedding Anniversary. (Insert Confetti) It’s also the day that my husband and I met almost a decade ago. Being involved with someone for 11 years you tend to learn a few things. Through the ups, downs, wins, growing pains, healing, and BLESSINGS. I’m pleased to say we’re still going. More in love than before. Continually transforming into who God called us to be for each other every day. For this blog post I’m going to share an important concept when it comes to marriage. “Purpose Partnership” I know for a fact my husband is my Purpose Partner placed in my life by Jesus Christ. I pray that our story encourages those who believe God has placed someone in your life for Purpose. Blessings.

I met my husband (Nolan) March 2008. He took it upon himself to slide into my DMs on Black Planet. Lol. Some of you may remember this old dating site. I would like to say we had an instant spark, but we didn’t. The first month was a little sketchy. Getting in touch with him was hit or miss. At the time I was out of state with one of my mentors. Once I returned to Chicago we finally met. Our first encounter I made him breakfast. Eggs, pancakes, and bacon. It’s safe to say he enjoyed the food, because shortly after we started dating.

We would spend the next year inseparable. During that time a prophet spoke to us. She told Nolan God said, “You’re her future.” A few months after that prophetic word we broke up. I moved out of state with my family. We kept in contact. Spent the next several years as an “on again off again” couple. We held onto what the prophet told us, but never took the time to grow in God enough to see the manifestation of the words he spoke to us. How many times have you let what God spoke to you lay at the wayside, because it didn’t fit into your timeline? By November 2014 we were back “on.” I flew home to Chicago from Houston to see Nolan for the holidays. When I left to return to Houston he left with me. By March 2015, we were married.

I always knew I loved my husband in a way that I never loved anyone else. I couldn’t explain it. I just did. When we met all those years ago I was fresh out of a relationship that left me feeling unable to love. Then I met Nolan. He made me do what I thought I couldn’t do anymore. Open my heart. Even though we were involved for so many years we didn’t really know each other. If I’m to be honest we didn’t know ourselves. We were two people who always wanted to be together, but operated in generational curses, and mindsets. Like many other married couples, we had our growing pains. Two halves trying to be a whole instead of being a whole individually before we got married. Those pains hurt, but they didn’t break us. What they did do was cause us to seek help from the one who told Nolan, “You’re her future.” God!

By March 2018, we decided to give our lives to God. It also kicked off the discovery of our “Purpose Partnership.” A Purpose Partner is not something that you can Google for a definition. What I believe it to be is a person placed in your life that is directly connected to your God-Given Purpose. They’re CALLED to support, cultivate, and protect the seed that God has put inside of you. My husband is my “Purpose Partner.” When we gave our lives and marriage to God we were able to finally see the beauty of each other through the eyes of Jesus Christ. We gained clarity in our individual purpose and marriage. We grew in our knowledge of God and who He made us to be. One of the most important things we learned was how to be who we needed each other to be. My husband needed things from me that I wasn’t aware of until I grew in God. There were things that I needed from him that he wasn’t aware of until he grew in God. We both desired different things and we couldn’t obtain them the same way. God taught us how to be there for each other in a way we both could interpret.

Who’s your Purpose Partner? Has God called someone to support, cultivate, and protect the seed that He placed inside of you? Are you someone’s Purpose Partner? Are you being who God called you to be in their life? I had to pray for direction from the Lord about being my husband’s Purpose Partner. He gave me understanding about my role. I moved out of the way to let God be God in Nolan’s life. I don’t impose my timeline on God’s timeline in my husband’s relationship with Christ. I support whatever he desires to do. For instance, my husband wanted to learn to play the guitar around Christmas. I bought him 2 guitars. God provided the 3rd from another source. He’s working on starting a Financial Repair Company. I found courses for him to obtain his certifications and paid for them. Now he’s certified. I’m his Purpose Partner. I’m who God called me to be in his life.

To the man who is MY FUTURE. You’re everything I needed. You help grow me every day. God trusted you to care, love, and protect his daughter. He’s pleased with you. Thank you for exposing me to a life filled with kindness, compassion, trust, forgiveness, purpose, and love. Every moment with you is intentional. I will forever choose you. You lead me as God leads you. I love and thank you for a wonderful 4 years as Mrs. Nolan. I will forever be your helpmate.

Love,

Your Purpose Partner

Happy 4 Year Anniversary Honey.

God Wants To Reinvent You

Reinvent! This is the word the Holy Spirit gave me to describe what Yahweh was doing in my life. He was “changing me so much so that I appeared to be entirely new.” As grateful and humble as I am for Him doing and continuing to do that in me. I was also anxious. I realized after my last post that I was in this uncomfortable stage in my journey where I gave God just enough room to come in and provide me with the vision to see myself in His image. This past year I made a decision to turn away from my sinful acts and self-indulgence in order to surrender to Yahweh. I spent the year killing my flesh. I willingly gave up coping mechanisms, relationships that had nothing to do with my purpose, mindsets, behaviors, and overall control. My willingness to do those things in the name of Jesus provided the room for Him to wash me clean from my past. How blessed am I the Father loves me this kind of way. You can imagine how many times I cried as He released me from things which once had me bound.

I wrote a poem for “Love Day” last week illustrating this new found person who I have been reinvented into. After I posted the poem I literally spent the following days feeling anxious. I felt lost. It hit me. I arrived at the first stop along my journey with Christ. A point I never thought I would reach. After all these years I finally forgave myself from my past and I no longer associated who I am now with who I once was. When we think about death we typically expect a period of mourning. Death isn’t easy. It hurts. I spent the last year killing everything that knew about myself. Now I had to start over to discover who I really was created to be as a child of God. I was overwhelmed with so much emotion as I came to this realization that I burst out in tears. I didn’t cry because I missed the old me. I cried because I had to live with, speak life too, create content with, and operate in several roles with this person who I knew very little about.

In the midst of this revelation, I spoke to my mentor who asked me, “What’s the word?” She often asks me this question to see if my ears are open at all times in the spirit realm. I simply told her, “Idk.” She followed up the conversation with a word from God. The word being, “What’s the hesitation?” I thought, “Are you kidding me?” After all, I had been through the last year. How was I hesitant? Hours after that conversation I heard from the Holy Spirit. I had given God “just enough” room to do what He had done thus far. I graduated! It was time to move on to the next level. A deeper level in our relationship journey. I found the hesitation. I was back at the place of the unknown. It all made sense. I was scared to lose everything when I made the decision to give my life to God early last year but I trusted Him. My spirit must have felt that I was about to enter into a new level of obedience and trust. It was the same feeling I had last year when I let it all go for God. That’s why I was hesitant. My God!

I had to repent. I was sorry for not trusting Yahweh as I had trusted Him before. I was sorry for limiting what He wanted to do in my life as this new creature in Him. I was sorry for being hesitant to travel further in our journey together. Most importantly I was sorry for not fully embracing the full journey that was ahead of me.

Maybe you’re at this exact place in your relationship journey with Christ. The place where you’re dictating the pace at which you’re moving. Maybe you feel like you’ve had enough obstacles to overcome or that you have nothing else to give. Believe me, I know the feeling but we’re capable of reaching places in God’s strength that we can’t reach in our own. I encourage you to find solace in the two things that helped me this past week. The first thing was a scripture. “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” The second thing came from a television show. The lead character simply said, “Don’t give up before the miracle happens.”

My brother and sister in Christ. No matter where you are in your relationship with Yahweh I challenge you to hold on. Let God be who He is. Move out of His way. Don’t grow tired in your well doing. Your miracle is waiting to manifest. Blessings.   

What God Expects

Hello, my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you’ve all been living intentionally and with purpose. It’s been about a week since my last blog post. I’ve been quite busy rearranging my thoughts and projects. So here is the update: I’ve decided to change “Faith, Food, & Fitness” to a once a month series. It’s more efficient for me to provide information when it’s a 30-day goal. The next post will be on 2/1/19. It will still include goals for the month and tips. Next update: my birthday was on 1/22/19. (Insert Confetti) I am now 33 years of age. I spent my birthday at work and with my husband. Matter of fact I believe I went to bed around 9 pm. Lol. #OldLadyGang I’ve been preparing to make a huge transition. Can’t really expound upon it but let’s just say its a move in the right direction. I’ve also been working on products for my store. Lastly, I spent the week just breathing. I know we do that anyway but I took a mental break from my surroundings. I think we all need to do that from time to time. Anywho, that’s about it. I won’t keep you long today. Just want to share my takeaway from my mental vaca. Pray it blesses you.

Each year as my birthday approaches I tend to reflect over the previous year. I acknowledge what I’ve accomplished and the challenging situations I faced. This year I did something a little different. I focused on God’s hand in my life over the past year. Taking the spotlight off of me and placing it on Him. When I did that He spoke to me. He gave me a word for our relationship this year. Faithfulness! On my 33rd Birthday, I decreed that this year for God and I would be the year of Faithfulness. He’s always faithful so it was really a decree from me to Him. My prayer the last few weeks has been that I would no longer have relationships or interactions with people or things unless it looked like God. “Look like God,” meaning His characteristics. However, this Faithfulness decree is my personal pledge to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Truer words never spoken.

So I took a week away from blogging and posting on Instagram to just surrender to His peaceful presence. I wrote down the highlights of our conversations. He even gave me insight on a journal series I’m working on that will be available for purchase soon, Lord willing. Needless to say, I am truly grateful for how far He has brought me. I’m grateful that my desires have changed and that I crave His presence more than anything or anyone else. I have mantra’s in so many areas of my life for this year, but this one means the most. This mantra is just for Him and I. I almost didn’t want to share it on the blog. Lol. However, I was released to…

Have you established a “One Word” goal for your relationship with Christ this year? What will be your personal pledge to Him? How do you plan on growing your relationship with Him this year? He’s done so much for us. We can’t repay Him but we can show Him that His love for us isn’t in vein. I challenge you to take some time to
“Just Breathe.” While you’re in His presence listen for His response. What is He expecting from you this year? He expects Faithfulness from me. So Faithfulness I will gladly give.

Remember, a one-sided relationship isn’t a relationship at all. Stop asking God to bless your relationship when you refuse to have one with Him. Blessings.

Happy New Year 2019

Happy New Year my brothers and sisters in Christ. It is the first day of 2019 which means you have a complete year to focus on living intentionally and with purpose. I’m sure we all can expect our social media accounts to be flooded with “New Year Resolutions,” and “Vision Boards.” I am one who takes the time to complete a “Vision Board” yearly. This year I did something different. I prayed for Yahweh to lead me to a foundational scripture to stand on for the entire year. Of course, He did just that. Among my many other goals, aspirations, and visions that are on my board. At the very top, you will find my 2019 Foundational Scripture. 

The Scripture Reads,


“His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.”
“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.
 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins. Therefore, my brothers and sisters, make every effort to confirm your calling and election. For if you do these things, you will never stumble,  and you will receive a rich welcome into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.”

2 Peter 1:3-11

Wow! What a promise from God to us. I highlighted in bold letters the instructions in the scripture as they will are my guide for this year. I love you with the love of the Lord. I am excited to grow and expand with you all this year. Thank you for allowing Mindful of Me Moments to be apart of your life. Blessings.

Question: Do you have a “Foundational Scripture” for the New Year? If so, feel free to comment below.

“Don’t take for granted the one who already has the RESOLUTION for everything you want, need, and desire. Make your relationship with Yahweh your priority in 2019.” Happy New Year!

T. Nolan

Yahweh Is…

Good Morning my brothers and sisters in Christ. I pray you spent the week living intentionally and with purpose. This morning I was reminded of the times when God showed up for me. I know He is always present in my life, but there were certain events that He clearly showed Himself. It brought such a since of peace and adoration over me for the Father that I had to write about it. As always I pray that this post causes you to examine yourself and reflect on God’s presence in your own life. Blessings.

Yahweh Is My Friend

I grew up in the south suburbs of Chicago. We lived on a dead-end street and for the most part, the block had kids who were around the same age as me. Even though there were a lot of other young girls on the block I became friends with one who lived two houses down. Immediately, we formed a sisterhood. Playing outside with our Barbie dolls, eating dinner at each other’s houses, having sleepovers. We were so inseparable that we would even take family vacations together. Our friendship traveled throughout elementary, middle school, high school, college, and our adult life. Her family literally became my family. So much so that they sat at the throne of my heart. Being connected to them was the most important thing to me. As we started to evolve into young women our lives started to change. We abruptly had a moment of miscommunication that til this day I still don’t understand clearly. Needless to say, our twenty-plus year friendship ended. Just like that. One day we were besties then the next we weren’t. When she stopped talking to me so did her family. We would never recover from that separation.

Most of my life I dealt with a spirit of rejection. I grew up feeling like my parents didn’t love me. (That’s a story for another day.) After several failed relationships with men that familiar spirit of rejection would rise up over and over. So when my best friend didn’t want to be my best friend anymore, I was at a loss for words. Lord, why do people always leave me? Why do my relationships all of sudden just come to a screetching halt? What did I do to deserve this? Am I really that bad of a person that people don’t want to be connected to me?

Here’s the marvelous thing about our Father. He’s a jealous, God. That means he wants us and wants us to want Him. He doesn’t want anything or anyone to come in between us and Him. All of those relationships and people that I idolized were in God’s sit at the throne of my heart. If I was ever going to grow in God there had to be a division between me and everything/everyone that was competing for God’s position. How many of you have heard people say, “I lost something when I started living for God?” When you choose to live for God everything that prevents you from growing in that relationship has to die. Some relationships will die, some old habits will die, our reasoning and understanding will die. There is a cost associated with our relationship with the Father.

The Word of God says,

” The man of too many friends [chosen indiscriminately] will be broken in pieces and come to ruin,
But there is a [true, loving] friend who [is reliable and] sticks closer than a brother.”

Proverbs 18:24 (AMP)

Amazing isn’t He? Yahweh wanted to be my friend. Me! The one who everyone else would throw away. I had to get to a place in my life that when people left, and things didn’t work out I was still at peace. I grew to understand that their repositioning no longer altered who I was or how I saw myself.

When God is your friend you have someone who will never leave nor forsake you. His intentions are never of malice. When He says He’s going to do something He upholds it. He doesn’t quit on you, He enhances you. He is the epitome of a true friend. I didn’t understand friendship until I allowed Jesus to be my friend. In return, being His friend required a level of commitment from me that would remove all things/people that would compromise the progression of our relationship. I can truly say that I’m glad that I am now a friend of God.

Ask yourself: Who has Yahweh been to you? I want to hear your story. If you have some time write your response in the comment section below. Your brothers and sisters in Christ would love to hear your story as well. Many Blessings.

“There is no greater friend than Christ Jesus.

Love Letter To Yahweh

If I were to write a love letter to you I don’t think my fingers could properly articulate the depths of my love. There were so many moments where I repeatedly fell in love with you that I can’t recall the first time I realized all I wanted was you. Everything that I am and have become is because of your love. I handed you broken pieces of me and you sculpted a masterpiece. I was so blind before I allowed you in my life, but I’ve gained my sight since I laid eyes on you. I never thought I would meet someone like you after all these years of searching. Looking for people to fulfill me in ways that only you can. Believing that physical touch from a person could equate to your holy spirit that touches the inside of my soul. You see things in me that I have yet to discover. You spoke greatness into me before I was born. Your seeds were planted in me when I thought I was barren. Every time I spoke death your Word spoke LIFE. How could someone so great open his arms to someone like me, I thought. Then you told me to get close to you. I could never repay your love but every day I wake up I CHOOSE YOU. When my relationships started to come inbetween us I CHOSE YOU. When idols tried to rise up in my life I CHOSE YOU. When my old sinful nature wanted to take over I CHOSE YOU. When my own understanding and reasoning tried to overshadow you I CHOSE YOU. My flesh will die a million times over so that I can have a life with you. If I could do anything over I would have CHOSE YOU sooner. You are single-handedly the best choice I could have ever made. I’m in love with you infinitely, Yahweh.

Sincerely,

Your Daughter

Identity

Good afternoon my siblings in Christ. I pray you all have been living intentionally and with purpose. I wanted to put a pin in my current journey and share what’s been going on. I pray you are able to see yourself through my experiences and it encourages you to challenge yourself as you are on your journey to being the best you possible.

IDENTITY! Who are you? This question is one that I’ve been asked more than once in my life. I’m a lot of things. A wife, daughter, sister, friend, college grad, business owner, employee, writer. I am all of these things however these are titles. Though true they don’t define me nor do they give a depiction of who I am. I’m a wife because my husband married me. I’m a daughter because my parents conceived then birthed me. I’m a sister because my parents had additional children. I’m a friend because I’ve invested my time in relationships. I’m a college graduate because I completed school. You get the point, lol. All these things were inherited or obtained through my work ethic.

While on this journey to self-love and self-care you will find yourself at this exact point. The point at which you are so distant from your former self that you no longer recognize who you are. Your past no longer defines you. I’m a survivor of domestic violence. Yeshua protected and graced me to make it through an abusive first marriage. I’m not ashamed of it anymore. I’m healed from it now. I’ve forgiven him and myself. It’s a part of my testimony, but it is not my identity. Identity is defined as the distinguishing character or personality of an individual. It is no longer my character to operate like someone who was abused. On the flip slide, I survived it, and I have been a survivor the majority of my life. So much so that I had to learn how to be a submissive wife to my current husband. So being a survivor isn’t my identity either. So again I ask, “Who are you?”

If you find yourself in this place along your journey. The place that closes a door and opens a new one. Don’t freak out! Lol. It’s perfectly fine that you don’t recognize yourself now that you’ve given your life to God. It’s going to take some time to discover the newness of you. It’s fine to re-evaluate your relationships and friendships at this point. You may even feel the need to step away from some relationships while you’re discovering the new you. If so, it’s ok to do that unless you’re married. (Side note: It is not ok to step away from your marriage, because you’re finding yourself.) I have some people that I’ve considered friends for over a decade and am now at a place that I’ve realized that I don’t know who they are in their current life. As adults who have families, I couldn’t even tell you anything about them and vice versa. It made me think that if our only connection is the past, and I’m no longer living in the past then maybe we don’t have the relationship that we once did. When God comes into your life you fall out of agreement with things and people. Somethings or some people will no longer be familiar to you. I’m not saying to dump all your friends, but take the time to learn who you are as this new man or woman in Christ. Once you’re established in that then seek Him about your relationships.

Fully giving myself to God has me in a place where I don’t recognize who I am since I’ve become a new creature in Him. I know my past and how He has healed me from it. I know how He protected me from my bad decisions and forgave me. Every trait, idea, characteristic, mannerism, and response were wiped away to make room for God’s presence when I gave my life up to live for Him. So what worked for me in the past no longer works for me as a Woman of God. Those things and some people no longer identify with me.

WHO AM I?

I AM A CHILD OF GOD! That I know for sure. As I grow in Him I am learning every day the identity in which He ordained for me. How I think, my character, my morals, and values are all provided by Him not by what I was taught or learned from others. I’m no longer pressed about figuring it all out. I find peace in the fact that I’m intentionally pursuing the one who has already figured it all out for me. Life is no longer about what I have been through, what decisions I made, what others thought about me or what I thought about myself. Life is about discovering the richness of Yeshua. Learning what He had in mind when He created me. Being intentional about loving myself. Thriving in the relationships He established for me. Growing my spirit, spreading the Word of God, and fulfilling my purpose. The more I seek Him the more I find out who I am.

I challenge you to re-evaluate who you are. Do you even know? If not, are you taking the necessary steps to grow in God so that He can reveal it to you? Today is a great day to start if you haven’t already done so. Don’t spend another year, month, week, hour or second allowing your titles to define who you are. Blessings.

“What marvelous love the Father has extended to us! Just look at it—we’re called children of God! That’s who we really are. But that’s also why the world doesn’t recognize us or take us seriously, because it has no idea who He is or what He’s up to.”

“But friends, that’s exactly who we are: children of God. And that’s only the beginning. Who knows how we’ll end up! What we know is that when Christ is openly revealed, we’ll see Him—and in seeing Him, become like Him. All of us who look forward to his Coming stay ready, with the glistening purity of Jesus’ life as a model for our own.”

1 John 3:1-3 The Message (MSG)